What Attracts Women To Men?

Updated January 20, 2021

Medically Reviewed By: Lauren Guilbeault

If you're a man who's looking to find the right woman, you might be wondering just what it is that seems to attract them. After all, you want to be the type of man someone wants to be with, right? So you're curious about what it is that makes certain men so attractive to a woman. Well, it's not all about looks or money or any of the other things that you may have heard. It's about several things inside of the person, and becoming the right type of man doesn't have to be as difficult as you might think.

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Intelligence

This is one thing that you may not be able to control for yourself completely, but it's going to be something you can work on. Reading, going to school, and more will help make you more intelligent, and they're going to help you sound that way when talking to your next date. You don't need to have a high IQ (though that can also help). You need to make sure that you stay informed about things that are happening around you. These things will make sure you and your partner have things to talk about and that you can come up with your own coherent conversations.

Body Posture

The way you hold yourself is quite important for how a woman or anyone looks at you. After all, if you seem to slouch a lot, it shows that you're not confident. This can make you seem like less of a 'catch' for women around you. Standing up straight, holding yourself upright, and more will help you look confident and make sure that any potential date looks at you in a completely different way. They're going to see you as someone that knows who they are and who trusts themselves as well.

Strong Beliefs

You don't have to have any religious beliefs. What we're talking about here is just having your own beliefs about things in your life. It means having a stance on some of the issues that are going on in the world and being firm in those things. If you're too wishy-washy about your opinions, it could turn women off. They want someone who has a strong sense of what they think and feels, even if those thoughts are different from their own if you tend to falter on your opinions or change your opinions to match what they want every time (at least without a good discussion and reason).

Attentiveness

You need to be attentive to your date. That means talking to them, paying attention to them when you're together, and taking an interest in their life as well. You want to make sure that you pay attention to things that they tell you and that you're able to remember different things about them that you can ask about. These are things that are going to show them that they are important to you, and that's going to be an important step when you start actually to carry on a relationship with that other person.

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Passionate

You need to be passionate about something. Keep in mind that passion doesn't have to refer to intimacy of any kind. It can refer to a strong passion for a specific hobby or a passion for some collection. For example, if you're very passionate about cars or your record collection, that's going to show. Having something that you find that important to you or finding something that you can get excited about will be a great way to show them your personality. After all, you want to make sure that they can see who you are.

Confidence

Being confident is entirely different from being arrogant. If you're confident, it means that you believe in yourself and that you will be stronger in the things you do. If you have confidence, it means you're going to stay firm on your beliefs (as mentioned above), but that's not all. You're also going to give off the impression that they can count on you and believe that you will be there for them. They're going to feel that you are trustworthy, and you're going to feel stronger about your strengths and what you're able to do for yourself and others.

Excitement About Life

You should be happy and excited about life. That's not to say that someone who is depressed can't find a woman. Individuals experiencing depression may not have the common levels of excitement about life, but in general, you must have some level of this if you're looking to start dating. Even a small amount of zest for life or appreciation for life will make an impression on someone you meet. When you're working on your depression, you're going to make an impact on this, so keep working toward it and don't feel like you can't find someone just because you're working through depression.

Fun And Spontaneity

Everyone wants to have some fun, so make some time for it in your own life. It doesn't matter what type of fun you want to have. The important thing is to make sure you enjoy your time and that you're spending time with them doing something fun. It's going to take some time (maybe) to find something that you both enjoy, but women like a man that wants to do something fun every so often and who might be at least a little bit spontaneous with ideas for how to have fun or what to do within the relationship.

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Healthy Appearance

A healthy appearance doesn't mean that you have to be slim or that you have to be built. It would be best if you showed that you take care of yourself. This means things like trimming your nails, cutting your hair, so it's neat, and keeping a healthy color to your skin. These are all things that anyone can do, and they're going to show your potential partner that you care about yourself and take pride in your appearance. These things can be visible no matter your weight, height, fitness level, and more. All of these things show your potential as a healthy and positive partner in your life.

Honesty

You must be honest with your potential partner. No matter what happens, you're going to want them to be open and honest with you, so make sure you're doing the same. That's how they're going to know that they can trust you, and it's how they're going to know that you are someone who won't hurt them. It shows that you won't lie to hide something you've done wrong. So be honest about the little things, right from the start, and you'll be able to show them that they can trust you all the way along and throughout the entire relationship.

Challenging

Relationships shouldn't be quite too calm and relaxed. Though you want to have a fun relationship that's not full of arguments or disagreements, there does need to be an element of challenge to things. You want to make sure that you're creating a relationship that's a bit more balanced between the fun and a bit of a challenge or a little bit of the difficult aspects. It's going to make for a more exciting time for you and your partner. And excitement is going to be an important part of your relationship. It's going to make you happier over the long haul and keep your relationship going stronger.

Wrap Up

For those looking for a little bit of help with their relationship or trying to create a stronger relationship, these tips and traits will make a big difference. But maybe you're still struggling with how you're going to do these things or what they're going to mean for your life. If that's the case, then getting professional help may be able to get you on the right path to discovering and understanding yourself. Talking with a mental health professional may help you understand what traits you're good at and which ones you might need to work on.

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ReGain can help you learn more about yourself and work on your ability to be a good partner. No matter what you're going through, you will find some benefits in working with a mental health professional who can understand you and show the level of compassion you're looking for. Even better, you're going to have a therapist that you can talk with without having to leave your own home. Talking with someone and making sure you can improve yourself in the best ways will make it easier for you to meet the woman of your dreams and start building the life you've always wanted.