What Do Men Find Attractive In Women?
Updated November 25, 2019
Medically Reviewed By: Lauren Guilbeault
Are you a female that's looking for a man to date? If you are, then you're likely thinking about what it is that men want in a woman. You might be thinking about looks because that's a common thought, but it's not accurate. Sure, men notice a woman who looks good but looking good doesn't just have to be about specific body shape. And it doesn't rate as high as other characteristics that we're going to talk about. You can find out what men find attractive in women right here.
Sense Of Humor
A sense of humor is important to anyone and being willing and able to laugh and have fun is going to be an important experience for any relationship. Making jokes and even creating inside jokes with your partner will keep the relationship moving forward. When you're trying to meet someone, hearing you laugh is going to be a great way to do it because it's going to show them that you're a person who likes to have fun and who wants to enjoy their life to the fullest. They want to be a part of that experience as well.
Men tend to like women who engage in what is considered 'risky' activities. These include things like mountain climbing, skiing and more. These activities give you something to do together, and they make you a more appealing partner. Men and women want to have fun, and a sense of adventure is a great way to keep your relationship going strong. Not only that but it's going to make sure that you and your partner each have a way to experience life and to do something new. It means that you're not going to be afraid to take challenges.
Your personality is going to be a huge factor when it comes to any relationship. People want to feel like they're getting to know you, and they want to make sure that you are a decent person for them to be around. They want to know that you're fun and funny and friendly and kind. All of these are going to be different elements of your personality, and they're going to help that person decide if you're the type of person that they want to spend their time with or start a relationship with. If those things don't appeal to them they're going to look for someone else.
A healthy appearance doesn't necessarily have to do with your weight (though some men have an opinion on the weight of the woman they want to date). Rather, this has to do with how well you keep yourself up. Does your hair look well taken care of (not any specific color or style)? Does your skin look relatively healthy? Do your nails look cared for (though not necessarily painted or manicured)? These things show that you take care of yourself and that you take pride in the way that you look. You don't have to be overly concerned about anything, just that you take a small interest in it.
Being honest is crucial in any relationship. If you're not honest, you won't be able to make things work over the long term. That means you need to be open and honest with a man that you're thinking about starting a relationship with. That doesn't mean you need to tell them absolutely everything right upfront, but as you do feel comfortable sharing that kind of information or as it comes up throughout your conversations, you need to be honest. This is especially true if you do something that you think was inappropriate or mistakes you've made in the past that he may ask about. If you're honest when it's hard he's more likely to trust you.
A smile goes a very long way. Men like a beautiful smile, and that means you should be smiling as often as you can. Of course, a beautiful smile doesn't have to mean anything in particular. Your smile doesn't have to have perfectly white or perfectly straight teeth. You might have a little bit (or a lot) of a crooked smile. That doesn't matter. What matters is that you're smiling and showing your teeth and that you're smiling with your eyes. That's where a genuine smile shows, and that's where you're going to get even more positive interaction, and you'll get a guy even more interested in you before he even talks to you.
Society tells us that men want to be the stronger one in the relationship, but that isn't always the case. And not only that but they don't want you to be a total pushover. Rather, they want you to be strong in your ways and to be determined and sure of the things that you believe in. These traits are going to make you an even more attractive person because they show that you're not just looking to be who a man wants you to be. You're going to be your self first, and that's the best way that you can be. It's going to serve you well.
Being open and talking to your partner is always important. Whether you have positive or negative things to say, you want to make sure that you're talking to them, frequently. You're never going to enhance a relationship or continue to build it if you're constantly tuning out or trying to keep your thoughts and feelings hidden. Talking about things is going to make it a whole lot better, and this is going to make sure your potential partner knows that they can come to you and talk to you. Communicating lets both sides know that you're working on this relationship together.
You need to have a life of your own that exists outside of your partner. You need to have friends or family that you spend time with. You should have interests that you engage in separately. Each of these things is going to show your partner that your life and your happiness are not dependent on them. You want to show them that you are your own person and that you can accomplish things without having to be attached to the hip constantly. This level of independence helps them to feel more comfortable entering into a relationship with you and continuing it over the long term.
Being confident means that you are sure of yourself and your thoughts and feelings. Similar to determination, confidence shows that you trust your own opinions and that you trust others as well. When you are confident you are going to exhibit even more strength, and you're going to keep any potential date more interested in you. This is another area where they're going to see that, while you may want to be with them, you don't require them to be happy. You can create a happy and healthy life for yourself otherwise.
Charisma is that little bit of something special that tends to attract people to you. It's some form of magnetism that makes them want to be around you and wants to spend time with you. It draws them in even from afar, and it's generally something that you don't even realize that you have. That means it's difficult for you to fake or for you to try and show off because it's just there in the background. That kind of charisma, however, is going to make it easier for a man to become interested in you and want to get to know you more.
Being smart is always going to be a good thing, as well. That doesn't mean you need a high IQ. It means that you need to be knowledgeable in general about the things that are going on in the world. You need to be able to hold an intelligent conversation. You need to be able to interact with them on a decent level. All of these things show that you are intelligent and they're going to keep someone interested. Being 'flighty' or not paying attention to anything around you is not going to help matters and could turn people off from wanting to be around you.
Getting Professional Help
Getting professional help is always a good idea if you're struggling to understand what it is about you that is hurting your chances of finding someone. You could be putting off the wrong signals entirely on accident, and that's not going to help you in the long run. With a therapist, like those available through ReGain, you're going to have a much better chance of working your way through what you're experiencing and finding the right person for you. After all, that man is out there somewhere. You have to be willing and able to put in a little effort to find him.