How To Sexually Attract Men: Eight Tips For Making Yourself Irresistible

If you’ve ever been attracted to a man, it’s likely you’ve wondered whether they shared your same feelings or didn’t notice you at all. Although it can be challenging to tell whether a man is also attracted to you, sometimes focusing on what you can control can be more productive. What is often in your control is how you present yourself to others. If you’d like to sexually attract the men who appeal to you, there are some steps you can take to try to make yourself more irresistible. While all men are different and find various individuals attractive, you may eventually find one that returns your feelings by continuing to put your best foot forward. In this article, we’ll be giving eight different tips for capturing the attention of the men who have caught your eye. 

Appear kind and nurturing

Evolutionary psychology suggests that the primary reason we are searching for partners is to find the perfect mate. What is the perfect mate? They have a natural urge to procreate with the most healthy and fertile individuals to carry on their line, their legacy. One way to attract a man is to show them your kind, nurturing side. They may not even be consciously aware, but this could leave the impression that you would be the ideal mate, which may make you appear more attractive. Showing them that you would be a good person to care for offspring can create a natural attraction.

Radiate youthfulness

You cannot change your age, but there’s a difference between being young and youthful. Being youthful is simply exemplifying the behaviors and characteristics of young people. Youthfulness has more to do with your attitude and demeanor. Men may prefer youthful, social, exciting, and spontaneous individuals. Even if you are on the older side, you can adapt to these behaviors to become more attractive to men. Instead of following societal rules about how you ‘should’ act at your age, do what feels right. This could mean dressing a bit younger or taking the time and care to groom yourself. However, it can be important to remember to remain authentic to the person that you are. Your genuine and youthful spirit is more likely to attract men than a false persona.

Be confident

Inherently, many men like to feel wanted and needed because of evolution. However, since primitive times, we have continued to evolve, so that paradigm has shifted a bit since.

Instead of appearing completely helpless or completely overconfident (someone who doesn’t need a man), try finding a balance and adopting the idea of confidence. Confidence has regularly been shown through research to be one of the most attractive traits a person can have. 

Confidence begins with understanding your self-worth, believing that you deserve a positive relationship, and being proud of what you could bring to another person. First, know what you want. If you meet a man who doesn’t meet your expectations, they may just not be the right match. Balance can be key; while confidence can be sexy, you may not want to overdo it as this can come off as arrogance.

Express an interest

Everyone wants to be noticed, seen, and heard; it’s only human. Simply giving a man your attention and showing an interest in whatever they are doing or saying may be enough to start building attraction on their end. Many men enjoy feeling empowered and having an audience may be a minor way in which they can get more of this feeling. The more attention you give a man, the more attracted they might become, simply because you have given them a platform and validated their importance. If you don’t seem interested enough, they may move on and continue looking for someone else. You can ask questions to show you’re actively listening and find ways to make physical contact (such as a touch on the hand, or a small pat on the shoulder).

Raise your shoulders and arch your back

Arching your back reflects lordosis behavior, which is when someone sticks their bottom out. Almost all female mammals do this during estrus, signifying to male mammals that their mating attempts have been a success. Naturally, men may be looking for indications that someone is interested in them and will sexually receive them. Seeing you arch your back and raise your shoulders can make you appear sexually attractive because a man may feel that you were signaling to them whether they realize it or not. 

Smile

Smiling can be incredibly attractive. A smile is warm and welcoming, giving others an invitation to approach and start a conversation with you. If a man feels intimidated by you, they may hesitate to come up to you to talk. Smiling in their direction can give them the encouragement they need to approach you. It is also a sign of trustworthiness and intelligence, which can be important qualities to have if you decide to enter a relationship with them. Anyone can find a set of pearly whites attractive, so don’t hesitate to show yours off at every opportunity.

Online counseling with Regain

If you’re having trouble attracting the type of love, affection, or attention you’d like in your life, it could be helpful to confide in an online counselor. Regain provides counseling services to individuals and couples who are experiencing a wide range of problems. Whether you need help developing more effective communication strategies or improving your confidence levels, a therapist can work with you to achieve those goals. Through video chats, phone calls, or in-app messaging, you can connect with your therapist from anywhere you have an internet connection. Online therapy can make it easier, more convenient, and more affordable to get the mental health support you desire. 

The effectiveness of online counseling 

Finding someone attractive doesn’t guarantee they’ll return your feelings or advances. Rejection can be difficult, even leading to mental health concerns like depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem. According to research, each of these can be successfully managed and treated in online counseling. In one study specifically, researchers found that an online counseling program was just as effective as a face-to-face intervention in reducing psychological distress. Those in the online counseling group experienced a reduction in their symptoms of depression, anxiety, and interpersonal sensitivity. 

Takeaway

What makes a person attractive can vary from person to person. While there are steps you can take to try to attract a man, every individual will ultimately be drawn to something different. It can be disheartening to experience rejection, especially if you are really into someone. However, these moments can create learning opportunities and set you up for greater success in the future. Therapy can be a valuable resource if you’d like to explore the psychology of attraction more deeply. A Regain therapist can work with you to explore your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors as they relate to dating, sexuality, and relationships. Being more aware of these aspects of yourself can help you discover and attract whatever you may be searching for.