Nine Text Ideas To Take Your Relationship To The Next Level

Updated April 11, 2024by Regain Editorial Team

If you want to take your new relationship to the next level, you might be struggling to figure out how to do it. When casually dating a girl, it isn’t always easy to advance things to the exclusive relationship phase. You don’t have to rush things, but it is possible to guide your relationship where you want it to go using text messages. Here are nine things you can text to move the relationship to the next level.

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1. Use texts with good grammar

Many people don’t realize that a partner’s intelligence is a desirable trait. When it comes to sending the first text to a girl you like, it’s probably going to be an advantage to use proper grammar.

Yes, there are people who send texts with abbreviations and poor spelling. However, if she doesn’t text back, she might be annoyed with your poor grammar. Poor grammar makes you seem less mature, intelligent, and desirable, so it can be beneficial to take time to type things out properly.

Here’s an example of a text with poor grammar that might turn a girl off:

“hey, bb, how ru doin today?”

Sending texts like this isn’t likely to make her think highly of you. Some girls might not mind, but many would prefer a date who knows how to spell and values her enough to take the time to write proper messages. Here’s an example of a better text message:

“Hey, (insert girl’s name here) I’ve been thinking about you. I hope that you’re having a good day and that we can hang out more soon.”

Sending a message like this is more likely to elicit an enthusiastic response. First, it reads better than the other text. It also gives her more to work with when replying . Mistakes do happen, and you don’t have to be an English major to send enticing texts, but the effort you put into it is something she’s likely to notice and appreciate.

2. Send compliments

Sending a girl compliments can be a warmhearted way to connect with her, too. However, it’s best to avoid complimenting her all the time for no reason. Genuinely complimenting her is going to help your relationship grow, but you don’t always have to tell her she is pretty to let her know you like her.

Complimenting a girl for her other qualities can also help you to stand out. Is your girl a hard worker? Consider complimenting her work ethic and letting her know you admire her for it. Perhaps she is getting amazing grades in college. In that case, you could tell her you’re proud of her for taking her exams.

3. Ask thought-provoking questions

If you want to take the relationship to the next level, bonding is crucial. Bonding through text messages is an excellent way to “level up” your relationship. To get her to text back, consider sending thought-provoking questions. To make these questions engaging, try using open-ended questions so she is compelled to tell you more about herself.

For example, texting her something like, “Do you like music?” might not be thought provoking for her because it’s a yes or no question, and she could give you a one-word response before moving on. If you want to learn about her taste in music, maybe text her something like, “What song has been stuck in your head lately?” You could also ask something like, “Who is your favorite band of all time and why?” This type of question could lead to a fun conversation about music that fosters your bond.

4. Flirty texts

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Flirting is an important part of texting when you’re trying to steer the relationship toward romance. However, flirting doesn’t come naturally to everybody. If you feel awkward when you’re trying to flirt, then you might need some practice. Remember, flirting through text messages doesn’t have to be risqué. In fact, showing some restraint is more likely to make a good impression, so resist the urge to send provocative pictures she didn’t request.

Flirting is more about developing romantic chemistry. Sometimes, flirting is a natural follow-up to complimenting a girl. There isn’t anything wrong with telling her how great you think she looks or how much you wish you could be with her. If she initiates flirting over text sometimes, then try to match her energy. If you had a few romantic moments already, then flirting will be even easier. Let her know you’re still thinking about that kiss or you miss cuddling with her on your couch.

5. Sending pictures via text

Sending pictures through text can help you to keep her engaged in conversation as well. Some people are highly visual, and they like being shown pictures rather than having you describe something. For example, you could send her cute pics of your dog or send pictures of you having fun with your friends. These types of pics shows her you’re a fun person with a life outside of your relationship, which can make you more desirable. An added benefit is that it can also be fun to show her you want to keep her in the loop of what is going on in your life.

So, if you’re going to a concert with your friends, consider taking the time to snap some pics of the festivities. It isn’t going to make her magically want to marry you, but it might be a part of keeping her interested, and you’ll likely get pictures from her in return.

As the relationship develops, you might start sending flirty pictures as well. Remember that this doesn’t have to mean lewd pictures. You can take a pic for her when you’re all dressed up for work if you’re feeling especially attractive. Staying classy is cool, and it makes you different than the rest who are out there trying to impress her.

6. Share good morning texts

Good morning texts can be a pleasing way to start your day. If your girl likes texting, then sending her a short good morning message is likely to make her happy. She’ll probably like that you took the time before work to say good morning and will appreciate the gesture. If you wind up dating seriously, then this might become part of your routine. Additionally, a good morning text can keep her thinking about you throughout the day.

7. Send goodnight texts

A goodnight text can also work when you’re trying to connect with your girl. You probably aren’t going to be able to see each other every night, so consider sending her a goodnight text so she know she is on your mind before bed. If you want the text to be as engaging as possible, try texting her something that will stick with her like, “Sweet dreams, beautiful!” rather than just saying, “Goodnight!” If you put some effort into your words, and she’ll likely think more highly of you.

8. Text supportive thoughts

Supportive texts are also important when you want to advance the relationship. Does she have a midterm coming up she’s a bit worried about? Text her your support and let her know you believe in her. Is she feeling under the weather due to the flu? Send her a text and let her know you’re there for her if she needs anything at all. Your support shows you are a good partner, and if this support is genuine, it could become part of the foundation of your relationship.

9.  Texts to show you’re pay attention to her

Lastly, sending her texts that show you are paying attention can make a positive impression. You likely get a lot of information about her if you talk to her regularly. She might be talking about certain things, and some might let this information go in one ear and out the other. However, if you’re more attentive, that can help your relationship flourish. For example, if she told you her mom’s birthday was on Thursday, and you text saying you hope her mom has a great day, then it shows you’re listening.

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