Is It Okay To Send Goodnight Texts To Her If You’re Not In A Relationship?

By Angela W. McShan

Updated November 28, 2019

Reviewer Tanya Harell

Advancements in technology have their advantages and disadvantages. In many ways, it has simplified some of the most complicated areas of life. But in others, it makes the simplest things seem complicated.


For instance, texting is a simple act that can cause mass confusion in many ways. Sending texts is a convenient means of communication, but they can also be misleading. For this reason, people question themselves before sending certain text messages. Among the most common doubtful text scenarios include:

  • How long should you wait to send a text after the first date?
  • Should you text or call after the initial exchange of phone numbers?
  • Is it okay to text a co-worker about non-work issues?
  • How long should you wait before replying to a text from someone you like?

These are only a few of the many questions that cross the minds of millions of people each day. One of the biggest questions regarding texting is one that many people ponder for hours before reaching a final decision. It's one that you may view as relatively simple, but only if you've never been in this situation before. The big text question that has many people scratching their head is if it's okay to send good night texts to her if you're just friends or not in a relationship. Why is this such a complicated issue for most people? It could be one of many reasons, but the most common is that the person sending the text may want to pursue something more than a friendship with the recipient.

Maintaining Friendships via Text

Sometimes, there's a plain and simple explanation for sending a good night text. You really value the friendship but are simply too busy to connect or see each other often. A good night text is a simple but effective way to let your friend know that you're thinking of them. Life's complications can make keeping in touch with friends almost impossible. But the major advancements in technology provide tools that allow you to bridge the gap. Mobile devices and social media allow you to create a game plan that helps to maintain your friendships, regardless of distance.

If you have a friend that you value but can't manage to see each other or talk often, sending a goodnight text isn't a bad idea. You may be surprised to know that a good night text helps to lift the spirits of a person who may have had a bad day. It's a nice feeling to know that you're in someone's thoughts, and a good night text for her is an ideal way to show you care.

Understanding a Good Night Text

To put it simply, a good night text is exactly what it implies, a text to say good night. They could arrive before a person plans to go to bed but as an indication that the sender is wishing you a good night. They may also arrive after an engaging conversation. A good night text for her could mean more to her than you could imagine. The goal in most good night texts is to let the recipient know that you're on their mind for one or more reasons. It is important to maintain clarity in the message when sending texts. It's easy for the recipient to perceive or misperceive the intended message.

Here are a few good night texts to consider if you're not in a relationship.


1. Hey! Just checking on you, I know you had a big day today.

Checking on friends is what friends do, right? Sending a text at the end of the day to find out how your friend's day went is a good way to say good night to them. If it wasn't a good day, you may be able to send words of inspiration to help them end their day on a positive note.

2. I know we haven't had a chance to chat lately, but I hope you've had a great day.

This one could be considered as the good night apology type text. It's a way of apologizing for not keeping in touch but lets them know that you're thinking of them. Most friends understand that life gets chaotic and just because friends don't talk every day, doesn't make the friendship any less valuable.

3. Try to get some rest tonight.

Sometimes, a friend may be overwhelmed with the details of life. A good night text could encourage them to get some much needed rest. It's a way of showing that you're concerned about them and want them to take care of themselves.

4. Call me in the morning.

The "call me in the morning" text is a common one that implies that the day has come to an end, and you look forward to speaking with them tomorrow. Friends often ask other friends to call them. This is a text exchange that occurs between friends or in relationships.

5. I know today was a busy one. We'll talk tomorrow.

This good night text shows consideration to the recipient. It's a way of acknowledging that their busy schedule may have prevented the two of you from talking today, but tomorrow may present a different opportunity.

Here are a few good night texts to consider if you are interested in more than a friendship.


1. I can't wait to talk to you tomorrow.

This text shows your desire to connect with the recipient the next day. It sets the stage for something more than just a friendship.

2. You're always on my mind at the beginning and end of each day.

Once you've decided to let your friend know that you want more than a friendship, this text is a great door opener. It's important that you be prepared for their response to be one of acceptance or rejection.

3. Texting to say good night because I've been thinking of you all day.

Stop torturing yourself, and let your friend know how you really feel. If you've caught feelings for your friend, let them know. Keep in mind that true friends are rare. If you feel it will jeopardize your friendship, take precaution in the way you approach this conversation.

4. Going through old pics and found this one of us. We would make a cute couple.

If you want to know what your friend thinks about the possibility of a relationship with you, this text could be the best way to get an answer. Their reply would reveal if they think that there is a possibility for more than just a friendship. It's ideal to send this as a good night text, because it prevents the remainder of the day from being awkward for the both of you.

5. I'm tired of spending my nights without you.

If bluntness is your thing, this good night text is for you. Let your friend know that you have romantic feelings for them by expressing your feelings in a text. They may feel the same way but could be waiting on you to initiate the conversation.

The Misinterpretation of Text Messages

There is a huge misrepresentation in text messages, because there is no emotion in texting. In-person communication works better for some people. This is especially true if there are issues or trouble in the relationship. The lack of tone in texts has caused some relationships and friendships to suffer hardships. How can you prevent misinterpretation in texts? It may not be possible to prevent it entirely, but there are ways to decrease the chances that a good night text to her is misinterpreted.

Here are a few tips to help ensure that your texts aren't misinterpreted.

Keep the texts simple. Always strive to send a simple message that's easy to understand. Keep sentences short to prevent any degree of uncertainty in what you want to say. Simple words and sentences help increase the probability that your text won't be misinterpreted. It's pointless to send long and engaged sentences because they will likely be misunderstood.

Use basic vocabulary. If you're a person that normally uses an extensive vocabulary, save it for the in person conversations. Text messages aren't a good platform for big words and technical vocabulary. Over complicated words or jargons is how some people fail to understand what others mean in their text messages.

Be brief and accurate. Conciseness is the core of clarity. This is a good rule of thumb to follow when sending a text, email, or other written messages. Always be brief and to-the-point. Avoid the use of needless words, sentences, and clauses.


Don't forget to spellcheck. It's common for people to hit the send button on a text message without reading over it. This is especially important if you want to impress the person you're texting. It may not be perceived well if you misspell several of the words in your message. While spellcheck is important, there are some research that indicate a few misspelled words could help to deliver the intended message more effectively.

It is also helpful to consider the 5 C's of effective communication. It is always important to maintain quality communication with your friends, whether you're romantically involved or not. The 5 C's of communication are applicable in verbal and written communication.

Concreteness displays strength in texting. It helps you to send a solid message to the recipient. This is the type of message that is usually supported by solid facts. It prevents the text from sounding too vague and adds meaning to it.

Coherence ensures that the message remains on target. Most misinterpretations occur because of the inconsistency in text messages. The recipient should have no problem understanding the details of the text.

Completion is necessary for effective communication, even texting. If you have a habit of sending incomplete texts, you likely experience many occurrences where your texts are misunderstood. Be sure to provide any relevant information when sending a text message. Completion in texts enhances the communication prevents the need for the recipient to assume certain things.

Clarity is the most obvious "C," as it it's important to be clear in your message. When sending a good night text to her, use words that you typically use when speaking with them in person. When all else fails, remember the common rule and just keep it simple.

Courtesy is a trait that all messages should display. If the recipient can clearly see that you're being kind, they may be more receptive of the message, and maintain a positive outlook.


Text communication is a convenience in many situations, but it can put a strain on some relationships. If you're at a crossroads in the relationship or friendship, it may be best to talk I person. This prevents the situation from becoming worse due to misinterpretation of the text message.

If you're in a place where you've found it difficult to communicate with others outside of texting, you may want to talk with a counselor to overcome those difficulties. Texting should be a complement to other forms of communication and not the sole means of communication between friends. Whenever you feel a friend is going through something serious, pick up the phone and call if you can't be there for them. However, sending a good night text can help to keep a casual or romantic friendship afloat.

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