Body language is important in the world of communication. It isn't just a supplement to verbal communication but often dominant. Some people are naturals when it comes to giving off and understanding body language, while others have difficulty communicating and getting hints.
In the perfect world, everyone would be able to use their words and mean what they say, but human interaction is complex and filled with double meanings and sometimes contradictory gestures.
Many people don't want to be direct with their words, so body language is a way to give hints. This especially applies when you like someone. It's hard to admit you like someone, so you communicate by giving off body language hints hoping that the person picks up on it. If you're not sure if that person likes you, here are some common body language signals that may mean they're attracted to you.
Eye contact is one of the best ways to tell if someone is interested in you. If they're always looking at you, there is some interest going on.
Eye contact is tricky. You should look at someone in the eyes, but looking too long can signify aggression. There's a difference between gaze and a stare. If they're always shifting their eyes, there may be no interest, or they're nervous. Also, some people don't like eye contact, even if they like you. So eye contact should be combined with other body language signals.
Some people will give you a slight smile to be friendly, while those interested in you may be smiling longer. The smile should come naturally and not look like they're smiling just because. A good smile will combine the perfect balance of not looking fake and prolonged but not being creepy.
Whenever the person touches their hair, it can be a sign of attraction. However, hair touching may also be a sign that of nervousness. It's another gesture that should be looked at with the combination of other body language gestures.
Squirming And Other Nervous Signs
Being nervous is normal on a date, but if you're a man, you want to make sure you don't look that nervous. Be mindful of how often you're squirming in your seat or how much you're playing with something such as your hair or a utensil. Some people will find the nervous man endearing, while others may be slightly turned off by it. It just depends on the situation, honestly.
Have you ever had a date lean forward while they were talking to you, almost like they were trying to touch your face? Leaning forward may be a sign that they're attracted to you. They're getting close because they may feel comfortable with you and maybe looking for a nice kiss. Lean forward with them, and see what happens.
The Language Of The Purse
If you're trying to date a woman, and she has a purse, she may use the purse as a way to non-verbally communicate with you. An interested woman will hold her purse loosely so you can get closer to her. If a woman is nervous or repulsed by you, she may clutch the purse in front of you. The purse is more than just a bag used to store items.
The Crossing Of The Arms
This is a difficult body language sign to interpret. Someone, usually a man, crossing their arms can be a sign of defensiveness or feeling threatened. However, many people cross their arms to relax. It's one of those body language signs that need more context before guessing as to what it means.
When watching for body language, you are probably looking at the face and hands. Don't forget the feet. The feet can be a subtle way of indicating interest. If their feet are pointing at you, it could be a sign of interest.
This may mean that they are comfortable around you and are interested in what you have to say. Of course, you shouldn't be staring at their feet for too long, as this can be a bit odd.
Tone Of Voice
Besides body language, one way you can read someone is by the tone of their voice. For example, someone who has a higher tone of voice when speaking to you may be interested in you. The tone of one's voice can mean many things, so pay attention to how it changes when you're talking to someone.
The Direction Of The Body
Look at where the body is pointing. If it's pointing away from you, they may be showing that they are not interested or feel threatened. They're ready to leave when needed. However, if the body is turned towards you, they may be interested and want to hear what you have to say.
Subtle Licking Of The Lips
This is more of a woman's body language. If a woman is looking at you and gives a subtle lick of the lips, there may be a chance that she's interested and wants to take you back to her place tonight.
We are always on our phones. No matter what the situation is, we are bringing out our phones and looking at them. However, someone who is interested in you won't be looking at their phone all the time. If you're trying to talk to them and looking at the screen instead, they may be nervous or just not interested in you.
The Speed Of The Body Language
Another thing you should look at is speed. If someone is moving their limbs fast and jerky, this may be a sign that they are nervous about something or not confident in what they are doing. However, if the person is making controlled, smooth movements, it may be a sign that they are confident and interested.
The Touch You
Touching your date, even if it's slight and almost innocent, is a surefire sign that they have an interest. Touching someone else you don't know is quite the move, as many do not like to be touched. Even if it's something that is so-called innocent, like them saying they're touching you to get some food off your clothes.
If you want to touch your date, you should make sure they're interested. Look at their body language, and touch them when there is a time in the conversation to do so. Don't just do it for no reason. Make sure they are comfortable, and back away if they don't feel it.
When you and your date lean in to kiss, this is an obvious sign you two have a connection. However, how the kiss is executed can say a lot. Someone who kisses you on the cheek may be testing the waters. Going for the lips is a sure sign they have some interest in you.
Everyone Is Different
Body language is a good way to tell how someone's feeling about you, but you have to remember that everyone is a little different. Some people will exhibit all these signs but may not be interested in you. Others may seem standoffish with their body language, but it ends up that they do like you.
These articles are good guesses for what the person may be feeling, but sometimes, you have to figure out the individual's way of communicating nonverbally. There may be certain areas that are different or the same.
Also, you have to remember that some people are bad at reading and giving body language. Certain disorders can affect that too. Be patient with those who are not good at nonverbal communication.
If you have trouble recognizing body language or giving off your own, you can fix this. One way is to do your research and try to improve it yourself. Another way is to talk to a professional about your concerns. A counselor can figure out why you have a hard time with body language and makes steps towards being able to communicate in a much more natural way.
A relationship counselor can also help with any miscommunications you may be experiencing. Miscommunication happens a lot when it comes to body language, which can cause some upsets in your relationship. A counselor can help make sure that you two are on the same wavelength.
Body language is hard to understand at times, and sometimes the language can be contradictory. They may look like they're interested, but then do something such as look at their phone a lot or not look you in the eye. Figuring out what they mean is difficult, and a counselor can also help deal with cases such as these. If you have any problems, seek counseling today, and you'll be glad you did.
“Austa has been wonderful thus far. She has helped my partner and I during an unimaginably difficult time... She has also guided us in communicating effectively and setting appropriate boundaries in our relationship. I was hesitant to pursue counseling at the beginning, but I truly believe that it is making a difference for our relationship. Austa is easy to talk to and she is a great listener. I would wholeheartedly recommend her as a counselor.”
“Sessions with Natalie are very insightful and give practical advice on implementing new habits and changes. Be prepared to engage and be challenged to think in a different way. I know that my partner and I can already see improvements in our relationship and feel more positive about working through our issues together.”
Sometimes we focus more on the words we’re using that we forget there is more than one way to send messages or, in this case, communicate attraction. There are times we go about our days acting on data and information gathered without anyone uttering a word. The human body moves and radiates different signals of attraction with every motion. For this reason, it is possible that your body posture in one or more conversations has put the wrong or maybe right ideas in someone else’s head.
But how do you know, how can you tell? You can figure out if an individual is attracted to your body language by keeping tabs on their responses. When people are of the impression that they are getting signs of attraction from an individual they consider attractive, the chances are that they would reciprocate by showing interest with their body language of their own. The following are subtle ways you can figure out if someone is attracted to your body language.
Increased Attraction: When interest is speculated, the individual in question will play up their game in their bid to be as attractive and as ideal as possible. They are more likely to smile, initiate physical touch, a gentle brush of your shoulder, or gently placing their hands on yours. These gestures are sure to increase the attraction on their end, as they also hope it does on your part too.
Confirmatory Gestures: In the case of people that do not know how to read body language, people that have no clues about the open body or close body language. They are likely to be confused, unsure and would then take steps to confirm their suspicion. This stage is them testing the waters, initiating personal conversations they would not normally get into, discussing personal matters, and cozying up generally.
There are no sure-fire ways to know for certain that someone is sexually attracted to you. Although there are signs of attraction that could hint towards sexual attraction, there are no strict rules, and it would take many of such signs to be definite about the individual’s sexual intention towards you. If it is not someone you are already involved with or have a prior engagement with, the chances are that they would communicate their intentions with their body language. Attraction is subjective, and what you consider signs of attraction might be someone being friendly or open with you. To be sure enough, the said individual must check the following boxes:
Physical attraction: Although sexual attraction can be instantaneous, it often requires the individual to cozy up to you, takes time to understand and appreciate the finer details about you. During this process, they are likely to develop a physical attraction before it evolves into sexual attraction. Although how the attraction is expressed differs from person to person, the female body language differs from the male body language. However, both are just ways of signaling interest in future sexual attraction. Depending on the individual, these signs to facilitate or increase attraction might be open body or close body, so it is up to you to sense these signals.
Communicate attraction: When an individual is sexually attracted to you, there would be overt or covert ways. These ways achieve the same results whether they are relayed using female body language or male body language. These signs are to call attention, to notify the other party of the sexual interest to reciprocate. Communicating attraction can include always wanting to be in each other's company to protect each other.
If you are attracted to a man, and you want to be sure if he feels the same way about you, there are some things you should keep an eye out for. The human body is a message body, giving out information to whoever cares to read them, these messages are not the easiest to decode, but with somebody's language tricks, the human body very easily becomes an open book for anyone who cares to pay attention and read between the lines. But before you can do this, you would need to know how to read body language; you would need to differentiate between close body and open body language. Attraction is often expressed in ways that are signature to the individual’s personality, so you must tell the difference.
If you already know how to read body language, then you can check the following boxes to figure out if you are attracted to a man that fancies you too.
Talks more: How much talking is considered more talking is dependent on the kind of person he is; if he was already a chatterbox, he is more likely to become more of a parrot, serenading you with the juicy details about his life and taking you through how he spent his day, his yesterday and stylishly telling you how he wants you to be a part of his tomorrow. If before he was not that talkative, he is more likely to open up and share details he originally might have kept to himself.
He’d put in more work: To show undeniable interest, the individual is more likely to put in more work than before the attraction towards you started to develop. The way they dress is likely to get better; they would want to meet at fancier restaurants and would be interested in creating as many memories as possible with you.
He’d initiate touch: Like everything else, how much more varies from person to person. Some people like their personal space and would still keep touches to the barest minimum, although making an effort, while some others would be unable to keep their hands off you (with your permission, of course). They are likely to want to hold your hands as you walk down the road or have their hands across your shoulder.
Unspoken attraction means exactly as it reads; it is the attraction between two people but with either party unable to communicate. In some cases, both parties are sending messages in their body posture or with their body language. The attraction that goes unspoken for a long while might sour, and so someone must take the important step of confessing their feelings. The other option is letting it go; this might not be easy, but if the attraction remains unspoken, there might be a good reason why it is that way, and it might be best to keep it unspoken. Going against the tide to force a relationship might be counterproductive in the long run and might have adverse effects on the relationship you have taken the time and effort to build.
This is very tricky; sometimes, we might think someone is showing us signs that they are attracted when they are just themselves. Jumping into conclusions might put you in a tricky spot and, if not handled well, could negatively affect the relationship you already have with the individual; this is why it is not only important to read body language but to read it correctly. Some body language tricks and tips would make it obvious even if the individual tries to hide it. They include but are not limited to the following:
Read his body language: Attraction is not something that can be hidden, at least not entirely. His body would be subconsciously telling you things he has not brought himself to share with you. When you consciously put current mannerisms and behaviors side by side with what they used to be, you would be able to tell the difference.
He teases you: When the attraction is only budding and sometimes when it is as strong as can be, some of it seeps through the cracks in the form of teases. Many hypotheticals start flying around, teases about what it would be like if you both got together, or conversations in that region. Although these exchanges would be less than serious conversations, they can be seen as the individual testing the waters before taking a nose dive into a serious relationship with you.