Five Goodnight Texts To Send To Someone You Are Dating - And When To Send Them

Updated August 15, 2023by Regain Editorial Team

Texting a date interest can be considered a form of written art form. Without facial expressions, body language, vocal inflection, and tone, it can be hard to convey the message you want to. The person may also misunderstand or misread what you trying to convey. People can read with sarcasm what you meant with sincerity and vice versa.

If you are dating someone new, you most likely are talking through text and want to make sure what you say is understood. When you rely on words alone to convey your meaning, you need to be careful and precise with what you say so the message is clear. Saying a vague statement such as, "I guess," can be taken negatively, whereas, in person, it may have been a simple substitute for "I don't know." Inflection, tone, and body language are absent in a text message, which can also lead to miscommunication. 

At the end of the day, it’s nice to receive texts, especially after a hard day or if you miss them. It's essential to communicate effectively over text message and say what you mean. Read on to learn how to send goodnight texts to someone you care for at just the right time. 

Conversational Texting

Finding The Right Words Can Be Difficult

Texting is one of the main paths of conversations in this technical age. When you are talking via text, sometimes there is a quick back and forth, playful banter, a simple good night text, or jokes. Other times, it can be a serious conversation with longer messages. It is essential to be honest with your words and be as transparent as possible, so the other person doesn't misconstrue what you are saying.

This is especially true when dating. When you are texting with someone you are in a relationship with, miscommunications can lead to arguments, fights, and hurt feelings. Being clear and direct is a good way to avoid a needless confrontation. You can always check in if you think they misunderstood you with a quick “Does that make sense?” or “Sorry, texting can be confusing sometimes.”

One-Off Texts

There is another way we use text messaging. Sometimes we send one-off texts, messages that don't require a response. These are often feeling statements such as, "I love you" or "Thinking about you." Statements like this do not necessarily require an immediate answer but can communicate what we are thinking and feeling to our significant other.

These are relevant statements, as they show vulnerability and honesty about what we feel about the person. Without these kinds of texts, the other person may feel more distant and that you are acting a bit cold. Opening up and sending compassionate and kind one-off texts is an excellent way to keep the relational fire lit and burning bright.

Times Of Day To Text

One-off messages can come at any time, but usually, they revolve around our lives and the time we have to talk via text. You can expect these kinds of texts first thing in the morning, in the middle of the day, and at bedtime.

Good morning texts are cute because they show that your partner is thinking about you at the beginning of their day. They want to connect with you first thing.

Midday texting is a gentle reminder that you are on their mind throughout the day. We all like to know when someone we love is thinking about us.

The goodnight text is a bit different, however. It is a time when, yes, your partner is telling you that you are one of the last things they think about during the day, but it is also a moment when people tend to be less guarded and more open with their feelings. Goodnight texts can get mushy, saying things they may not say at other points of the day.

Good Night Texts Matter

The goodnight text wraps up the day, puts a bow on things, if you will. It can end an argument, be a capstone on a good day, or brighten up an otherwise crummy day for the person receiving the text. It's the last-minute reminder that the other person is thinking about you after a long day and before they drift off to sleep.

In these good night messages, feelings may come out. Statements like, "I wish I were falling asleep with you," "I miss you," and "I love you" are statements that show genuine emotions and intent. These phrases can reveal where your partner is in the relationship if they think about going to the next level and give you an unvarnished look at how they see you.

What To Say

There are many things you can say in a goodnight text. Remember, you want to be transparent and open in your communication to avoid confusion or misunderstanding. Say what you mean.

People may send different goodnight texts depending on their individual personality and their gender. What is important is that you are sincere and non-offensive. Sometimes, goodnight texts to her can be a simple statement or emoji. Other times, it may be a bit longer, more thought-out message. A good night text to him may be anything from a string of emojis to a paragraph telling him about your day. 

Here are a few ideas and what they could mean.

I Love You

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"I love you" is a straightforward statement. You are telling your partner exactly how you feel with the ultimate statement of affection and connection. Nonetheless, "I love you" can become so easy to say and familiar that it loses its meaning. Mean what you say every time you say it, and you can keep this a special goodnight text through the relationship.

"I love you" is most likely not to be used at the beginning of a relationship. It represents the seriousness that casual dating doesn't have. Send this text when you are ready to take the relationship to another level. Send "I love you" when you are ready to be vulnerable, take a risk, and move to the next level with this person.


Emojis can convey ideas without words, from a winking kissy face to a heart, or a laughing face. Some emojis are flirty and fun, like kissy faces, winking faces, and blushing smiling faces. Others communicate something sweet. Smiley faces with hearts, for example, can communicate you love what the other person has said or the person. Emojis can communicate several messages, making sure that you can provide a context with either words or other emojis when you send them.

Emojis are appropriate to send when you are being fun. They provide smiles and laughter. When the topic is more serious, you may want to shy away from the use of emojis. However, especially at the beginning of a relationship, keeping the goodnight communication light and flirty is a way to keep a spark going in a dating relationship.

Good Night

While "good night" is a neutral statement, being neither positive nor negative, it is still a nice way to signify the close of the evening's conversation. This is especially true when the relationship is new. It is simple and straightforward, but does not convey much emotion. If you are trying to tell the person you are dating about your feelings, consider adding a pet name like "babe" or "sugar" to the end. This way, it becomes more personal. But only if you sense your date interest would like it. 

"Good night" is good to use any time in the relationship. While you can use "good night" right from the beginning, you may want to save the pet name or combining it with "I love you" until further along in the relationship.

Sweet Dreams

It is both appropriate and kind to say "sweet dreams" at the end of the night. You wish your partner goodnight, good sleep, and pleasant dreams, conveying that you are thinking about their wellbeing.

Wishing someone "sweet dreams" is a good night text that you can use right from the beginning. It's relatively benign by itself, but later, the relationship can be combined with a pet name or "I love you" to make it more emotional and personal.

Thinking Of You

"Thinking of you" is an excellent text that can say you want to take the relationship to another level. On the surface, it may not seem that way, but what it implies is that they are thinking about you in bed with them, that they want you there with them. 

Sending the text "thinking of you" asks for more intimacy and, therefore, should be used when you want to move deeper into the relationship.  You may not want to use it at the beginning of the dating relationship, the time when you are still getting to know each other.

Keeping The Relationship Healthy

Finding The Right Words Can Be Difficult

No matter what goodnight-message you are sending, you want to give precise and open communication that promotes health and growth in your relationship. A licensed, online therapist can help make those goals a reality. If your relationship has reached the next level, and you are considering becoming partners, you may notice your own personal story or communication issues affecting your closeness. With a therapist's help, you and your partner can strengthen your relationship, communicate, and disagree in healthy ways, and make the relationship what the two of you want it to be. You can find a therapist for just yourself or the both of you. Couples therapy is an appropriate avenue if you feel you need this help. 

If you and your significant other are busy or you live in a location where it’s difficult to get to an in-person therapy appointment, online therapy is a great option. Not only is it accessible and often more cost-effective, but research also supports its efficacy, even in relation to in-person therapy. For example, studies have shown that many couples feel a greater sense of control and comfort when participating in online therapy sessions and report the experience to be beneficial and positive for their relationship. No matter if you are looking for individual or couples therapy, you will find that it can improve your communication skills and help you work through problems you are currently facing. 

Takeaway: Send That Text

Goodnight texts can communicate a great deal in just a simple phrase or emoji. But this should not scare you away from the goodnight text, especially knowing the positive light you can send your beau’s way. In a dating relationship, texting can be an essential piece of communication, a great way to end out the day, and lets your partner know that you are thinking about them and that you care.

Be honest in your goodnight text. Be genuine. Say what you mean and let your partner know how special they are to you. All by saying a simple "good night."

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