Where Are The Best Places To Meet Single Women Over 40?

By: Russ Womack

Updated December 17, 2020

Medically Reviewed By: Elizabeth Strong

So, you want to meet single women over 40, and you're wondering where the best places are to do so. Well, rest assured you're not alone! According to the Pew Research Center, at a time when divorce is becoming less common for younger adults, so-called "gray divorce" is on the rise. Among U.S. adults ages 50 and older, the divorce rate has roughly doubled since the 1990s. And among those ages 65 and older, the divorce rate has roughly tripled since 1990, reaching six people per 1,000 married persons in 2015. The bottom line is that there are a lot of divorcees out there wondering if, and when, they should enter the dating scene again.

But, let's face it, as we age, the opportunity to find someone with similar likes, views, and passion decreases, whether it be because they're already married, they don't want to venture back out in the dating scene, or because the population of 40+ year old's simply decrease each decade due to end of life. So, if you are over the age of 40, or perhaps over the age of 50, 60, or 70, and you're single, finding a single woman can be quite a challenge.

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As we peruse through the list of places to meet single women over 40 years old, keep in mind that dating in your 20s is different than dating in your 40s, 50s, or 60s. If you just got out of a relationship either through divorce, being widowed, or a breakup, you'll find yourself faced with a completely different dating world than you remember from your 20s. Dating in your 20s is a time of fun and laughs with very little pressure attached to each date, but that diminishes as you get older. When individuals date in their 40s or older, they're typically looking to make a life-long connection. So, whether you're looking for a deep emotional connection or just someone to have a good time with, you'll notice these changes as you get back out there.

With all this in mind, let's look at places to meet single women over 40.

The Best Places To Meet Single Women Over 40

At Events Involving Your Kids

This could be anything from your daughter's wedding, your son's little league games, or the countless birthday party invitations from your kids' friends. The great thing about these events is that they're relaxed and unassuming; plus, the focus is placed on the event, not on meeting someone. That alone will make you feel relaxed and allow you to be your authentic self when you walk over to introduce yourself.


Volunteering is a great way to meet single women over 40. Be sure to pick an activity that interests you and is conducive to interaction. For example, reading to the elderly at a nursing home may be personally satisfying, but it's also an activity that tends to isolate you as a volunteer. Try something where you are working alongside a group of volunteers like preparing food in a community kitchen or even picking up trash alongside a stretch of highway in your hometown. Not only will you feel good about what you're doing for your community, but you'll also position yourself to meet single women over 40 years old who have common interests and passions that you have.

Also, research shows that volunteers are enjoying health benefits after just one year of service, including a decrease in anxiety and depression, loneliness, and social isolation. They also report enhanced physical capacity and higher life satisfaction-more great reasons to add volunteering to your list!

Coffee Shops

Americans love their coffee. In fact, 62% of people ages 40-62, and 72% of people 60 years and older enjoy drinking coffee regularly. And whether drinking a Caramel Latte or a Macchiato, you're bound to find women in coffee shops across America sipping on their favorite drink while hanging out with friends or working online-including women who are single and over 40. Coffee shops have evolved from places that only sold coffee in decades past to what is today a mini café of sorts, serving every type of coffee on the planet, bagels, fruit cups, and a variety of homemade sandwiches. This ambiance serves as the ideal platform to relax, have a cup of your favorite coffee, and strike up a conversation with a single woman over 40.

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A Classy Upscale Bar

We're talking about a classy, respectable bar, not your average bar or nightclub filled with recent college graduates who are celebrating their hard-earned diplomas. A woman past 40 years old more likely has a career and children; and honestly, when we get older, most of us don't have the energy or stamina as we did in our younger years to party until 2:00 a.m. and get up at 6:00 a.m. raring to go. There are many stylish and elegant bars where you can meet single women over 40. The environment is ideal with soft music, low lighting, and a wide range of drinks with fancy names to sip on while having a conversation with that woman.

Dating Sites

Is the internet considered a "place"? Well, with today's technology and advancements with online dating, it certainly deserves at the very least an honorable mention; and here's why: dating sites are a very popular method for mature people meeting each other. Online dating also gives you a higher chance of finding someone with similar likes and personality traits due to its huge member population. Chances are if you're 40+ years old, you're probably spending most of your time working, raising kids, and spending your valuable time on other responsibilities. Bottom line-you don't have the time to go out and find someone like you did in your 20s, and online dating allows you to find someone on your own time, at your own pace, at home.

The Gym

Do you have a chance of meeting the woman of your dreams and get a good workout? That's a win-win. The gym is a great place to meet women over 40. You automatically have fitness as a common goal, and you're bound to strike up a conversation in between reps or at the water cooler, and a simple chat could lead to other meet ups such as hiking, bicycling, or jogging. Also, increasing physical activity later in life results in the same risk reduction of cancer, cardiovascular disease, and all-cause mortality as being active from adolescence through adulthood. That's reason enough to go to the gym, and you might meet that 40+ year old woman as well.

Your Workplace

You're at work at least 40 hours per week with others in your age group who have similar educational backgrounds, values, and aspirations-and you're working toward common goals to help the company thrive. That alone makes the workplace a viable option compared to other meeting grounds where you have no clue who they are when you initially meet them or whether you have anything in common. In the workplace you have at least one thing in common-work. Teams collaborate in the workplace, and you're sure to find single women over 40 with complementary skills and interests. Plus, you'll have the opportunity to get to know them well in advance before deciding whether you want to ask them out on a date.

Keep in mind that if you do meet someone at the workplace that it could turn into something romantic-which is great! However, being involved with a coworker can also create complications from a career standpoint. If things turn sour, then you're now in a situation where you'll still have to see them every day, and you may have to work on the same project or even travel with them. That can make what used to be a fun and exciting time to something much different. This is simply something to keep in mind when entertaining the option of meeting that lucky someone in the workplace.

Evening College Classes

You just got off of work, and you're heading to your evening college class. Similar to the workplace, you're sure to find single women in your age group with similar interests at evening college classes. And just like meeting someone at the gym and then going out hiking or biking, meeting someone at an evening college course could open other opportunities like going to an art museum on a Saturday afternoon to see in person the pieces of art you're both learning about.

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Speaking of art, be sure to choose college courses that are easy going and fun-like art, tennis, or photography-as opposed to a course in quantum physics or organic chemistry. The goal here is to meet single women, not discover the next medical breakthrough in laser physics.

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