12 Fun Sexual Things To Do For Couples Who Need More Excitement When Being Intimate

Updated March 9, 2023by Regain Editorial Team

Are you worried that your sex life is becoming a bit too mundane? Many couples wind up falling into a sexual rut after they have been together for a long time. If the passion isn’t quite what it used to be, then you’re possibly trying to find ways to rekindle the flame. It might be time to start shaking things up in the bedroom so that you can start having fun again. Your sexual complacency may have been holding you back a bit, but things can be more exciting if you’re willing to experiment, and your relationship could end up being better because of it!

Take a look at the following ten sexual things for couples who need more excitement during intimacy. You don’t have to make use of every single one of these ideas, but some of them might provide a good start. Many different ideas are being presented here, and these sexy relationship goals can help get your imagination swirling.

Being open to having more fun in the bedroom can improve your sex life and, in turn, can help make you happier. It may be worth opening yourself up to new possibilities (while also ensuring that your partner is comfortable with these ideas before initiating them in the bedroom).

1. Experimenting With New And Exciting Sexual Positions

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One of the first things that you should consider is changing up how you’re having sex. Have you been sticking to the same one or two positions for many years? If so, then it makes sense that your sexual reality might be becoming dull. Change is the spice of life, and mixing up your sexual positions can make sex feel entirely different each time. If you can think of just two or three new sex positions to try out (such as having sex while standing up), then you might have a lot more fun. There are many different sex positions out there, which can be a huge turn-on for couples.

Some of the new and exciting sex positions you can try may be tough to pull off if you aren’t flexible. Don’t let that discourage you, though. If you cannot use certain positions, you can move on to find a different one that is interesting to you and your partner. Look through various sex positions online or read a classic book such as The Kama Sutra together to find more information. You can get some inspiration, and this could lead to a night of passionate lovemaking.

2. Moving Sex Out Of The Bedroom

A good way to enhance your sex life is to move sex out of the bedroom. Many people find that having sex in different house areas adds excitement and creativity, as it may encourage new positions and explore different sexual desires.

Consider getting it on in the dining room, kitchen, laundry room, walk-in closet, or even outside!

3. Engaging In (Consensual) Rough Sex

Making love to your partner with tenderness can be endearing, but it might get boring if that’s the only way you ever have sex. Have you thought about changing up your pace and getting a little rougher with your partner? Many couples love having rough sex, and it winds up being a big turn-on for them. Of course, you’ll need to make sure that your lover is comfortable with the idea of getting rough before moving forward. There are many types of rough sex that you can try out, though. Think about ways to intensify your lovemaking and then set boundaries with your partner before you try things out.

You might even like changing up who is being rough one night. Many couples have fun taking turns being in charge and getting a little dominant or aggressive. It’ll certainly change things up from the same old tired routine that you’re used to.

4. Incorporating Dirty Talk

At first, dirty talk can feel uncomfortable or funny, especially if you are not used to it. The addition of dirty talk can amp up sexual activity from good to mind-blowing. The most important things to remember when incorporating dirty talk during sexual activity are not to overthink it,to let it flow naturally at the moment, and to refrain from self-judgment or judging a partner.

Talking dirty can also extend to outside the bedroom to build anticipation or can be incorporated during sexting. To continue reading about talking dirty and example phrases you might use, check out this article. You can start slowly and fill in the blanks with your statements that feel comfortable when interacting with your partner.

5. Putting More Emphasis On Oral Sex

The great thing about sex is that there are various activities to explore outside vaginal intercourse.  You might already have oral sex with your partner sometimes, but there are couples out there who don’t get into it. If you haven’t ever learned how to give oral sex properly, then it could be worth it to take the time to learn. You could watch videos online and then try to please your partner. If only one person in your relationship usually receives oral sex, then it might be time for some reciprocation.

Some men don’t get into going down on their women. On the contrary, many men find doing so to be an incredible turn-on. Oral sexy could be a great way to add excitement to the bedroom. Being able to get your partner going using your newfound skills can certainly change the dynamic. For most women – approximately 80%, in fact – it is rare that they experience orgasm through penetration alone. If you haven’t been engaging in oral sex, then you should at least consider starting or having a discussion about it. Putting more emphasis on oral sex has led many couples to have better sex and relationship quality overall.

6. Engaging In Anal Play

Not everyone is going to be into the idea of having anal sex. Certain things need to be worked out before you even give it a shot. Even so, this is something that many couples enjoy, and it can change your sex life significantly. If your partner is open to the idea of being pleasured in this way, then you can start slow. Some helpful toys and tools can allow people to ease into this type of sexual play. It’s very likely that you’ll want to purchase lubrication, as well. Eventually, you’ll be able to work your way toward having full-on intercourse. Just wait to make sure that your partner is comfortable before you go through with it.

7. Spanking Your Partner

If you’re looking for fun sex ideas, then you might want to consider sexual spanking. Spanking is something that turns many people on, and it can add to the excitement of your lovemaking. You might want to use spanking as a way to accentuate rough sex sessions. There are also people out there who enjoy being spanked as a form of foreplay. 

You’ll need to determine how hard your partner is comfortable being spanked. It can take some practice, but you’ll figure everything out as you start to play around with this idea.

There are also things that you can buy to make spanking even more fun. Some people like to buy paddles or other tools that help with the deed. You don’t need to buy these things to make spanking a part of your sex life, but it could be fun if you like the idea. Talk about this idea with your partner if you find it appealing.

8. Taking Part In Light Bondage Play

So many people are turned on by the idea of bondage and discipline, an aspect of BDSM. You might be familiar with the idea of tying someone up for a steamy lovemaking session. It can be very empowering to tie up a lover and then please them. Your partner might be very turned on by the idea of relinquishing control and giving up their body to you. Or you might be the one who wants to be tied up. Some couples even take turns with this type of sexual bondage play.

You’ll have many options to consider when getting into this type of sex. Some like to use actual ropes, and others will use items such as handcuffs. You may decide to blindfold your partner or add gags to the mix if you’re feeling especially kinky. Of course, this is a very interesting but potentially extreme type of sex. You want to make sure that your partner is comfortable before putting them in this position. It’s also important not to tie your partner up in a position they will be uncomfortable with if it is their first time.

When you’re taking control of someone like this, it’s prudent to give your partner a way out if things get to be too much. Many people set up a “safe word” system that allows them to stop sex at any time. If your partner utters this word, then you stop what you’re doing immediately and take their handcuffs off or untie them. Discuss your options and desires with your partner to see if light bondage play is something that could work for your relationship.

9. Experimenting With Sexual Role-playing

Does the idea of role-playing turn you on? Couples like to use role-playing as a way to add excitement to the bedroom. It’s a way for you to pretend you’re doing something particularly exciting even though you’re just having sex in your bedroom. Some couples might pretend to be strangers meeting for the first time, or they could pretend to be a doctor and a patient. The potential ideas for sexual role-playing are limited only by your imagination and sexual limitations.

10. Adding Sex Toys To the Mix

Sex toys can add a lot of excitement to your love-making sessions if you’re open to using them. Some people are a bit standoffish when it comes to sex toys, though. Such toys can increase the intensity of sex, leading to even greater satisfaction than usual. There are many different sex toys on the market to consider, and you can look at them with your partner to see if any appeal to you.

11. Watching Naughty Movies Together

Despite popular belief, pornography can have benefits for people who are single or in relationships. Watching naughty movies together is another way that you could make things fresh in the bedroom. Pornography is readily available in the modern era, and you can easily watch one of these movies to get in the mood. The sex acts that are being performed in these films might even provide you with some inspiration. You could use the naughty movies as a template and then try to act out the scenes in the film. Even if you don’t go this route, it will be fun to get in the mood with your significant other before having your fun. If porn isn’t your thing, you could also take turns reading from an erotic novel.

12. Wearing Sexy Outfits

Wearing sexy outfits can make sex seem more special than usual. This could mean that one of you will be wearing special lingerie to bed. For some, a certain material can cause them to become aroused, regardless of the clothing item. It could also be a different outfit that someone requests. Dressing up as a schoolteacher or a cheerleader could add an interesting element to your sexual exploits. The idea of using sexy outfits could be combined with sexual role-playing as well. This could lead to some very exciting and satisfying love-making sessions that will pull you right out of that sexual rut you have found yourself in.

Sign Up For Online Relationship Therapy

Does Your Sex Life Need To Be Resuscitated?

You can also sign up for online relationship therapy with Regain if you need extra help. Some couples might not be comfortable enough to open up in regard to sexual preferences or desires. However, intimacy is key to having a fulfilling relationship. The way intimacy is created and maintained is by allowing ourselves to be vulnerable, to know and be known by our partner. Thankfully, you can enlist the help of a licensed therapist online to improve communication and enhance intimacy. The therapist can work with you to help you lead a more satisfying life together. Signing up is very simple, and it’s often more convenient to get couples to attend therapy from the comfort of their own home.

Multiple studies have confirmed the efficacy of online therapy as a solution for problems that couples experience throughout their relationship. In one study, 30 couples ages 21 to 69 years old were randomly sorted into face-to-face or videoconferencing thereapeutic cohorts. Each group engaged in a couples behavioral education program designed to increase relationship satisfaction via behavioral change. After the six sessions were complete results showed that both groups experienced increases in relationship satisfaction and overall mental health, and that there were no significant differences between the two groups.


It can sometimes be intimidating or uncomfortable to initiate a discussion about switching things up in the bedroom. Having an open mind and consideration for one’s partner is essential in the process, and an online relationship counselor can help you consider your options in a nonjudgmental way. Take the first step in spicing up your sex life by reaching out to a licensed Regain therapist today.

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