How Do Affairs End Usually? Infidelity Can Last Years

Updated April 1, 2024by Regain Editorial Team

There are many schools of thought regarding extramarital affairs. In some circles, affairs are not talked about, particularly because they are regarded with disdain. To some people, an affair is the last act of ultimate betrayal, as it warrants a swift and emphatic removal from someone’s life. For others, affairs are painful but accepted, and couples try to move forward in health and forgiveness. No matter the cultural paradigm in real life or personal belief systems, certain themes tend to emerge when someone has an affair, many of them transcending age, years of marriage, background, gender, and race.

Recovering from an affair can be difficult

Affairs and how long they last

Affairs end

The exact trajectory of an affair can vary and differ from situation to situation. However, most affairs come with some type of pain, heartbreak, or damage. If you have discovered that your partner is having an affair or you are in an affair yourself, it can be vital to be open and honest about how you’re feeling. Whether you choose to repair the relationship is up to you and your significant other. Healing can be important for all parties involved, regardless of reconciliation or separation. 

Online counseling with Regain

It can be difficult to determine what to do after an affair. In some cases, speaking with a professional and about your next steps can be helpful. Regain is an online counseling platform that provides mental health services for individuals and couples experiencing a variety of issues. If you’ve been through an affair and need advice, accessing therapy via the internet may allow you to feel comfortable enough to be transparent about how you’re feeling. You can choose when and where you connect with your therapist, giving you more control over your experience. 

The efficacy of online counseling 

Couples who are grappling with the effects of infidelity may benefit from online counseling as they decide what to do next. Several studies have shown that therapy accessed online can be just as effective as face-to-face options. In one study, researchers found that couples counseling delivered via videoconferencing proved to be “a viable alternative to face-to-face interventions, especially for those couples who may not have access to the treatment they require.” The therapeutic alliance increased over time and participants experienced improvements in their relationship satisfaction, mental health, and other outcomes. 

Counselor reviews

                                                                           Carla Noto-Vencill - MA,LMFT

Recovering from an affair can be difficult

                                                                           Cynthia Wiedemann - LMFTTerry Brewer - LCSW

Catherine Wilson - LMHC

Heather Connors - LCSW, PPSC

Joseph Frey - MA, LMFT

Stephen Robinson - MA, LCMHCS, LCAS

Darcy Dobb - LCSW, MHPP

Cheryl Williams - MA

Shannon Caraway - LCSW

Dr. Patrick Casthely - LMHC, MCAP, PHD

Dennis Doke - M.S., LMFT-S, LPC-S

Debra Jenkins - MSW, LCSW-C


Affairs can impact anyone, but not everyone handles them in the same way. How you choose to move forward is a personal decision that may be influenced by a number of different factors. If you feel confused or disheartened by your situation, speaking with an online counselor could help. Therapy is a personal experience, and not everyone goes into it seeking the same things. Keeping these things in mind can ensure you get the most out of online therapy, regardless of whether your specific goals are about working through an affair, or something beyond it. 

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