How To Deal With People Who Hate You And Overcome Negative Relationships

Updated May 25, 2021

No one likes to feel like they aren’t liked or as someone hates them. The truth, however, is that there might be a situation in your life at some point where someone actually hates you. That doesn’t mean it’s going to be easy. Even knowing that there is a possibility doesn’t mean that you’re going to walk into this type of situation with no problems. Just like anyone, you’re going to feel upset by the idea of someone actually hating you, especially if they’re open about it.

Do They Really Hate You?

If you don’t feel comfortable talking to the person, speak with someone else who knows them and find out if they really hate you. You may want to find out more about why they hate you or why they feel the way they do. It’s possible that you’ve had some form of miscommunication with them, or they heard something about you that isn’t true, or that they’ve misinterpreted something. If that’s the case, you may be able to correct the problem and get a second chance at making a good impression on that person.

On the other hand, maybe what they’ve heard about you is entirely true, and they don’t like it. Or perhaps they decided without even really knowing you or anything about you. In that case, there might not be anything that you can do. Or maybe there’s nothing that you want to do. The choice is entirely up to you, after all. And if you decide that you can’t or won’t do anything, or they decide that no matter what you do, it’s not going to change their opinion, you’re going to have to figure out how to deal with someone who hates you.

What To Do If Someone Hates You

The truth is there’s very little that you can do if someone hates you. It’s unfortunate, but it’s the truth, and all you can do is work on ways to interact with that person as little as possible. If they truly do hate you, they’re likely going to try and avoid you as much as possible. If that’s the case, your best course of action is to allow them to prevent you whenever possible. From there, you want to make sure you’re aware of times you might need to be around each other.

If you don’t feel comfortable talking to the person, talk with someone else who knows them and find out if they really hate you. You may want to find out more about why they hate you or why they feel the way they do. It’s possible that you’ve had some form of miscommunication with them, or they heard something about you that isn’t true, or that they’ve misinterpreted something. If that’s the case, you may be able to correct the problem and get a second chance at making a good impression on that person.

On the other hand, maybe what they’ve heard about you is entirely true, and they don’t like it. Or maybe they decided without even really knowing you or anything about you. In that case, there might not be anything that you can do. Or maybe there’s nothing that you want to do. The choice is entirely up to you, after all. And if you decide that you can’t or won’t do anything, or they decide that no matter what you do, it’s not going to change their opinion, you’re going to have to figure out how to deal with someone who hates you.

What to Do If Someone Hates You

The truth is there’s very little that you can do if someone hates you. It’s unfortunate, but it’s the truth, and all you can do is work on ways to interact with that person as little as possible. If they truly do hate you, they’re likely going to try and avoid you as much as possible. If that’s the case, your best course of action is to allow them to avoid you whenever possible. From there, you want to make sure you’re aware of times you might need to be around each other.

The best thing you can do is always be polite, even to someone open about hating you. The reason is that you’ll show others you can be the right person and that you can be the bigger person if it comes down to it. It’s not about showing off or trying to be better, but if you can be polite and friendly without forcing yourself onto that other person, it’s going to look a whole lot better than if you are cold and distant.

Understand that there may be times when things are rather frosty between the two of you. There may even be times when they are downright rude or mean, and you can do nothing about that. The best thing you can do is take the high road and continue to be as polite as possible. Don’t be afraid to walk away if you need to, but make sure you always put your best foot forward. That doesn’t mean going overboard, but it does mean still treating that person with respect.

You may be able to make that person come around to you over time, or you might not. The most important thing is that you’re not going to make things worse, or you’re going to try not to make things worse. After all, you never really know what that other person is thinking or if they’re really going to be interested in creating a better relationship. But of course, it could be difficult to deal with someone who downright doesn’t like you at all, no matter what you do. In that case, you may want to look into professional help to aid the process.

Seeking Help Coping With Someone Who Hates You

No one likes the idea of being hated by anyone, so no matter how you feel about that other person, you likely need a little bit of advice and help in dealing with those feelings. So, what do you do? One thing is to find a friend that you can talk to about how this experience makes you feel. It’s okay to feel upset, and it’s okay to be concerned about it, but there’s nothing that you can do to control the way another person feels, so it’s also important to accept those feelings and learn ways to move on.

Writing about how you feel is another way that you might cope with the feelings and work your way through them. Remember, it’s okay to feel upset, and it’s okay for someone not to like you. It might not be the most comfortable, but it’s something that you can work through. This becomes even more important if you are required to be around that person for any reason. If they are friends of your friend or family member, you may need to be around them. If they are a coworker or even a boss, you may need to be around them.

Another method of coping is to reach out to a mental health professional who can help you with the feelings you’re experiencing. A mental health professional, like those available with ReGain, will be able to help you better understand what you’re experiencing and why. They can also help you develop the right type of coping mechanisms to work through these types of relationships and any interactions that you might need to have with that other person. By learning how to do this healthily, you will be better prepared for moving forward.

Dealing With Negative Relationships

Not every relationship that you ever have is going to be positive. There will be times when you have relationships that fit somewhere else on the spectrum, whether very bad or very good or somewhere in the middle. Learning how to deal with them is important, but learning how to accept them is even more. Recognize that this will happen in your life and recognize that sometimes you’re not going to have any control over the matter.

The lack of control is what bothers most people more, even than the person not liking them. After all, you want people to like you, and you want people to want to be around you. So, if you find yourself in a situation where that’s not the case, keep in mind that there are other people out there who do like you and who do appreciate you. There are people out there interested in building a relationship with you and spending time with you. Those are the people who deserve your time and energy. Please don’t waste it on someone who doesn’t deserve it or someone who doesn’t care about you.