No one likes to feel like they aren’t liked or as someone hates them. The truth, however, is that there might be a situation in your life at some point where someone actually hates you. That doesn’t mean it’s going to be easy. Even knowing that there is a possibility doesn’t mean that you’re going to walk into this type of situation with no problems. Just like anyone, you’re going to feel upset by the idea of someone actually hating you, especially if they’re open about it.
On the other hand, maybe what they’ve heard about you is entirely true, and they don’t like it. Or perhaps they decided without even really knowing you or anything about you. In that case, there might not be anything that you can do. Or maybe there’s nothing that you want to do. The choice is entirely up to you, after all. And if you decide that you can’t or won’t do anything, or they decide that no matter what you do, it’s not going to change their opinion, you’re going to have to figure out how to deal with someone who hates you.If you don’t feel comfortable talking to the person, speak with someone else who knows them and find out if they really hate you. You may want to find out more about why they hate you or why they feel the way they do. It’s possible that you’ve had some form of miscommunication with them, or they heard something about you that isn’t true, or that they’ve misinterpreted something. If that’s the case, you may be able to correct the problem and get a second chance at making a good impression on that person.
The truth is there’s very little that you can do if someone hates you. It’s unfortunate, but it’s the truth, and all you can do is work on ways to interact with that person as little as possible. If they truly do hate you, they’re likely going to try and avoid you as much as possible. If that’s the case, your best course of action is to allow them to prevent you whenever possible. From there, you want to make sure you’re aware of times you might need to be around each other.
On the other hand, maybe what they’ve heard about you is entirely true, and they don’t like it. Or maybe they decided without even really knowing you or anything about you. In that case, there might not be anything that you can do. Or maybe there’s nothing that you want to do. The choice is entirely up to you, after all. And if you decide that you can’t or won’t do anything, or they decide that no matter what you do, it’s not going to change their opinion, you’re going to have to figure out how to deal with someone who hates you.If you don’t feel comfortable talking to the person, talk with someone else who knows them and find out if they really hate you. You may want to find out more about why they hate you or why they feel the way they do. It’s possible that you’ve had some form of miscommunication with them, or they heard something about you that isn’t true, or that they’ve misinterpreted something. If that’s the case, you may be able to correct the problem and get a second chance at making a good impression on that person.
What to Do If Someone Hates You
The truth is there’s very little that you can do if someone hates you. It’s unfortunate, but it’s the truth, and all you can do is work on ways to interact with that person as little as possible. If they truly do hate you, they’re likely going to try and avoid you as much as possible. If that’s the case, your best course of action is to allow them to avoid you whenever possible. From there, you want to make sure you’re aware of times you might need to be around each other.
The best thing you can do is always be polite, even to someone open about hating you. The reason is that you’ll show others you can be the right person and that you can be the bigger person if it comes down to it. It’s not about showing off or trying to be better, but if you can be polite and friendly without forcing yourself onto that other person, it’s going to look a whole lot better than if you are cold and distant.
Understand that there may be times when things are rather frosty between the two of you. There may even be times when they are downright rude or mean, and you can do nothing about that. The best thing you can do is take the high road and continue to be as polite as possible. Don’t be afraid to walk away if you need to, but make sure you always put your best foot forward. That doesn’t mean going overboard, but it does mean still treating that person with respect.
You may be able to make that person come around to you over time, or you might not. The most important thing is that you’re not going to make things worse, or you’re going to try not to make things worse. After all, you never really know what that other person is thinking or if they’re really going to be interested in creating a better relationship. But of course, it could be difficult to deal with someone who downright doesn’t like you at all, no matter what you do. In that case, you may want to look into professional help to aid the process.
No one likes the idea of being hated by anyone, so no matter how you feel about that other person, you likely need a little bit of advice and help in dealing with those feelings. So, what do you do? One thing is to find a friend that you can talk to about how this experience makes you feel. It’s okay to feel upset, and it’s okay to be concerned about it, but there’s nothing that you can do to control the way another person feels, so it’s also important to accept those feelings and learn ways to move on.
Writing about how you feel is another way that you might cope with the feelings and work your way through them. Remember, it’s okay to feel upset, and it’s okay for someone not to like you. It might not be the most comfortable, but it’s something that you can work through. This becomes even more important if you are required to be around that person for any reason. If they are friends of your friend or family member, you may need to be around them. If they are a coworker or even a boss, you may need to be around them.
Another method of coping is to reach out to a mental health professional who can help you with the feelings you’re experiencing. A mental health professional, like those available with ReGain, will be able to help you better understand what you’re experiencing and why. They can also help you develop the right type of coping mechanisms to work through these types of relationships and any interactions that you might need to have with that other person. By learning how to do this healthily, you will be better prepared for moving forward.
Dealing With Negative Relationships
Not every relationship that you ever have is going to be positive. There will be times when you have relationships that fit somewhere else on the spectrum, whether very bad or very good or somewhere in the middle. Learning how to deal with them is important, but learning how to accept them is even more. Recognize that this will happen in your life and recognize that sometimes you’re not going to have any control over the matter.
The lack of control is what bothers most people more, even than the person not liking them. After all, you want people to like you, and you want people to want to be around you. So, if you find yourself in a situation where that’s not the case, keep in mind that there are other people out there who do like you and who do appreciate you. There are people out there interested in building a relationship with you and spending time with you. Those are the people who deserve your time and energy. Please don’t waste it on someone who doesn’t deserve it or someone who doesn’t care about you.
Frequently Asked Questions
What is it called when someone hates you for no reason?
"Misanthropy" is a big word for hating or distrusting humans. A person who hates usually has an emotional reaction to a particular event or feels an emotional reaction to a person or a group. Hatred—like anger or disgust—is a negative feeling on the hater's part. Still, when it's directed at you, it can feel uncomfortable, upsetting, or even scary. Dealing with people who dislike you can be challenging, but there are healthy ways to deal with them.
How do you deal with someone who hates you?
There are ways to deal with people who hate and deal with your feelings and responses. It is normal to dislike and feel uneasy with the idea that someone hates you, but learning ways successful people deal with hatred can help. You can try talking to the person who you believe hates you. You can also try talking to someone else who is familiar with the situation and might have ideas about dealing with the person pushing your buttons. You can prepare yourself emotionally before you see the person to try to minimize negative interactions. People deal with people differently; you can try looking at the situation from their perspective to figure out why they might not like you or whether there's another explanation for the negative vibe you're getting from them. Also, remember that you are not a mind reader, so it's impossible to know what another person is thinking or feeling or why they act a certain way. Sometimes the way that hateful people deal with people is a mystery that's not yours to solve, and it's much more about the other person than about you. Sometimes people act in ways that are challenging to understand. Dealing with negative people can be difficult but not impossible. Remember that you can't control anyone else's feelings, but you can work on your own feelings.
What is the main cause of hatred?
There are many reasons why a person may hate. Often, people dislike others because of issues they are having with themselves. Sometimes people feel threatened or jealous. In some cases, people hate because they are projecting negative feelings about themselves onto the person they hate. They might lack compassion or empathy and be unaware or unconcerned with others' feelings. They might perceive others as dangerous or have an unhealthy view of competition. Hatred may also stem from a general feeling of anger towards people we dislike or fear of differences. Often, people hate because of their own feelings of inadequacy or helplessness. They may feel some power by pushing your buttons. It can be helpful to learn about ways successful people deal with challenging relationships.
What are the signs when someone hates you?
If you are the target of someone's hatred, you might notice that they actively or passively make you feel inferior or try to hurt you. Haters might make negative comments to you or about you. They generally make people feel unliked. You might find yourself feeling humiliated when dealing with people you feel hate you. People who dislike you might be intolerant of you or make you feel like you don't matter. If that's the case, there is help available to learn to cope with people who dislike you.
Why do I hate being around people?
People deal with people in social interactions in various ways. All people feel the need to be alone sometimes for positive reasons, but if hatred keeps you from being with others, seeking help can turn your life in a more positive direction. Negative reasons for hating being around people include feeling anxious when you're with others, unliked, that you can't be yourself, or that you'll say or do something that you'll regret. People we dislike can make us feel uncomfortable, so we try to avoid them. Depression and social anxiety disorder can also make you feel like you hate being around people. A therapist can help you learn ways successful people deal with social anxiety and overcome their discomfort around others. Learning to be with people can help you feel more connected and fulfilled.