“Why Do I Hate Everyone?” 9 Reasons You Feel This Way and How to Overcome This

By ReGain Editorial Team|Updated June 23, 2022
CheckedMedically Reviewed By Audrey Kelly, LMFT

Everyone gets irritated with other people at some point or another, but for some, this can develop into strong negative feelings and what feels like complete hatred for another individual. It’s normal to dislike people and even develop stronger feelings towards individuals who have done something serious to negatively affect you or others. When you start to have angry feelings and feel like you hate everyone in general, this can cause some challenges in your life, affect your regular interactions with those around you, cause issues with your physical health, and may point to emotional processing difficulties. However, you need to decipher whether you truly hate others or if something else may be bothering you. Suppose it truly is hatred that you’re feeling so often. In that case, there are quite a few reasons why you may feel that way and some solutions to overcoming those sentiments to have healthier relationships and happier experiences.

Do You Hate Other People?

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You may need to ask yourself if you hate other people or if there may be other factors causing you not to want to be around folks or must deal with them as often. Plenty of us must regularly interact with others in our homes, workplaces, out in public when we have to run errands, or even on the internet when browsing social media regularly. Every individual is different and has their own ideological differences that you may not always agree with. We’re not guaranteed to like every person we come across. Still, sometimes these interactions can cause so much consistent frustration, draining our emotional energy  that we feel anger and grow to believe that we hate other people. At times, this may seem to be the case, but there are also a few other factors that may make you think you hate others when you’re just exhausted from the interactions you’re having so often.

  • Being an Introvert– Most of us have heard the terms “introvert” and “” Extroverts are generally considered outgoing while introverts keep to themselves, which accurately sums up the two types. Although introverts may have a close group of friends and occasionally step outside of their comfort zones for various reasons, they often prefer solitude and feel drained after being in social situations. If you’re introverted and experience this “social drain” phenomenon, you might become agitated at times by other people and begin to think that you hate them. However, it likely just means that you need more “recharge” time after interactions than you initially thought so you can decompress and lower your stress levels. Introverts are also notoriously shy and have difficulties opening up to others. This can reduce the quality of their social interactions and make them perceive that others are being overbearing or invading their personal space when they’re simply trying to be friendly or get to know them better. This can cause a good deal of distress. Sometimes, one’s internal defense mechanisms will set off anger and outrage at another person, making them feel uncomfortable, thereby leading to some potentially strong feelings of dislike for another person.
  • Burnout– Burnout from social interactions is real and can easily lead you to think you hate people. Sometimes certain jobs require a lot of social interaction, either over the phone or in person, and not everyone you speak to or come across is going to be pleasant or even nice. You may have a family with some strong personalities that can become exhausting after you’ve been around them too long. You may even have to deal with people as you visit certain stores or drive from one place to another, and these strangers can be irritating even at a distance. (Think about road rage; that is a situation that can make you feel some strong emotions about other people!) However, social exhaustion doesn’t mean you truly hate other people: you’re just mentally exhausted or experiencing chronic stress. It may help to have some alone time before having to deal with others or create boundaries that protect your emotional energy.
  • Social Anxiety– Social anxiety may also be a contributing factor to your feelings. While most people with social anxiety become nervous, panicked, or experience other common feelings associated with anxiety, it’s also possible for some of these individuals who get overwhelmed by social situations to react angrily. When you consistently feel angry as a defense mechanism, you may grow to feel like you hate whatever is setting off your condition, especially when people are involved. Rather than being fearful or overwhelmed in a more scared manner, you may end up trying to avoid situations involving other people with a mindset of strongly disliking them and getting angry by blaming your anxiety and stress solely on a specific person or the general population.
  • Having a Stressful Job– Some of the most demanding careers or jobs that involve dealing with other people can quickly lead to angry feelings in a person’s life. While this allows many opportunities to meet new and exciting people and have positive interactions, it often allows many negative ones. You may not truly hate other people, but be in a situation that allows you to have far more unpleasant interactions with other individuals than the average person may experience, thereby making you conclude that you don’t like anyone anymore.

How Hatred Can Affect Your Body, Your Mind, And Your Relationships

You may find it quite difficult to experience many positive emotions if you’re constantly consumed with anger and disgust for other people, which recent articles show can affect many areas of your life. Hatred is an incredibly strong emotion and can affect the body as well as the mind. When you experience such a strong emotion, your body’s “fight or flight” response is triggered. Feeling this consistently can contribute to high-stress levels, anxiety, depression, insomnia, weight gain, mental illness or personality disorders, and even chronic illness. Mentally, aside from anxiety and depression, you may also experience restlessness and paranoia.

These effects of constant or regular feelings of intense hatred can easily decrease your quality of life, as well as affect your relationships. It’s difficult to connect to another person if you’re consumed with negativity. And suppose you’re already in a relationship and prone to feeling hatred as a response to any unpleasant interactions with your partner. In that case, this greatly inhibits your ability to approach any problems reasonably and work towards healthily resolving conflict and restoring the quality of the relationship that the two of you have together. Love is so strong of emotion that it can easily be twisted into hatred when things go south in a relationship, and this can limit your ability to have a healthy partnership with another person. In the worst cases, you may even find yourself in a “love-hate” relationship, which can be highly toxic and potentially even abusive.

9 Reasons You May Feel Like You Hate Others and You Can Overcome These Feelings

There are quite a few reasons that you may grow to feel like you plain hate other people, but there are also solutions to all these potential triggers:

  1. Needing to Take Some Alone Time: Whether you’re an introvert by nature or you happen to deal with a significantly overwhelming amount of people regularly, it’s easy to experience burnout and need to take the time to step away to take a deep breath, recharge, and carve away some time for a bit of self discovery. Not everyone can be expected to handle a large volume of interactions without becoming socially and mentally exhausted from it. The fix for this often comes in the form of alone time. Make it a point to set aside time for a bout of isolation to relax, unwind, and reset so you’re better prepared for handling your interactions with others the next time it’s required of you.
  2. Needing to Learn To “Agree to Disagree”: The vast majority have different views on things in life, which is often due to several different factors. Many people have different beliefs, different upbringings, and different experiences that affect how they think and feel about things. Sometimes they may have some strong opinions that conflict with your own. There’s nothing wrong with a healthy debate, but allowing arguing and differing views on an issue makes you feel like you hate someone who isn’t accomplishing anything, nor is it good for your overall health. This is often seen online and on social media. People are provided with a platform to anonymously (or proudly) voice their opinions to the rest of the world, and arguments often ensue and escalate into banning, blocking, or harassment. Some people also love to provoke others who they know have a strong opinion on something. These kinds of interactions can easily provoke a person’s anger and make them feel compelled to lash out and passionately hate whoever has offended them or dared to challenge their perspective. Rather than indulging in bickering and hostility, the best option to help you become more accepting of others and less irritated with them, in general, is to learn how to agree to disagree. Rarely will people see eye to eye on every issue that life has to offer, but it’s okay to still get along with others who don’t see things the way you do. Agreeing to disagree means simply accepting that someone has views different from your own, but that doesn’t always mean they are horrible or deserving of hatred. Everyone has beliefs and experiences that affect how they feel about certain things. The healthiest and most mature response to this is acknowledging your differences and proceeding forward, interacting peacefully, distancing yourself, or walking away if approached with aggression on a topic.
  3. Focusing on The Negative Instead of focusing on The Positive: Some people struggle to focus more on the negative throughout their day than the positive. This can lead to feelings of strong dislike for the people and things around them. This requires a shift of perspective on your part to overcome it. Some people you’ll have to deal with will have strong personalities or maybe strangers simply having a bad day. Though they may not be pleasant when you encounter them, you’ll need to start working on not letting one bad instance in your day ruin the other hours in which you’re awake (or bother you even days later). Take time to calm yourself down from being irritated or upset with someone you’ve interacted with, and try to think of the good things you’ve experienced and are thankful for during your day. Was your coffee great this morning? Was the weather nice? Did you get to read another chapter of that book you like? Did you see a cute dog in your neighborhood on the way to work? Instead of focusing on how annoying or rude someone else was and wallowing in anger or other negative emotions, shift your perspective and thinking and acknowledge the little things and the good things that occur in your day-to-day life instead of giving so much attention to the bad.
  4. Holding Onto Anger Instead Of Forgiving The People That Did You Wrong: On a more personal note, sometimes feelings of hatred for another person can be due to personal experiences with them, such as them having said or done something to hurt you deeply or to cause problems in your life at some point. Although these feelings are often quite justified, holding onto all that anger will only hurt you more than it will ever affect the person those emotions are directed at. Finding a way to allow yourself to forgive a person that has hurt you will greatly decrease your emotional distress and give you freedom from dwelling on negative emotions that may be impacting your own life, relationships, and happiness long after an unpleasant interaction with the person you can’t stand has taken place.
  5. Needing To Make Some Changes: Sometimes, some larger changes may need to be made in your life, especially if you’re struggling with having a particular profession or other activities that may amplify your anxiety, stress levels, and negative emotions in regards to other people. Suppose you have a job that requires you to interact with others either in person or over the phone, causing you to become deeply unhappy and feel like you hate other people. In that case, it may be time to consider finding a new job that is less stressful and more suitable for your emotional and social needs.
  6. Needing to Set Boundaries: Much social stress leading to intense feelings of dislike for people can be due to not setting and enforcing boundaries with those around you. Some people are agitated by physical touch and need to express their need for distance and strictly verbal contact healthily. Some people may have friends, family members, bosses, or coworkers who ask too much of them and their time. They need to express their need for respecting their boundaries when it comes to not being overworked and pulled in too many directions regularly. You may worry that speaking up or disappointing those around you will only cause further problems. It may not always go over smoothly, but insisting upon being treated concerning your needs as an individual is necessary to avoid excess stress unpleasant feelings for other people.
  7. Lacking the Understanding for Why You Feel Negatively Towards Others:  Many hatred stems from not understanding other people somehow. Many people are afraid of the unknown, which sometimes can be distorted by anger and turn into hatred or discrimination. It would be wise to take some time to reflect on why you may dislike certain people. Is it their appearance, voice, or mannerisms? Do they remind you of someone who evokes a negative reaction from you due to your own experiences in life, and therefore you dislike this unrelated person as well? Maybe they have other traits that are like a familiar source of negativity to you. Many discrimination, often leading to hatred (seen in hate groups and the like), come from not understanding the differences between what you are most familiar and comfortable with and those that aren’t similar to you. It sometimes stems from simply being unfamiliar with certain beliefs, cultures, or other defining factors. In these cases, it’s best to educate yourself on the things you don’t know about to understand better why some people are the way they are. Not all words and actions should be taken personally when it may be completely normal for the person you end up directing your negative feelings. One of the more common factors in hating someone else also is recognizing in them something that we don’t like about ourselves, and this is an opportunity to reflect and realize what is bothering you and make changes on your end if it’s such a significant problem that you feel the need to project your lack of satisfaction with yourself onto someone else. We also may be blind at times to the idea of othersexperiencing mental health challenges that we don’t know about, which can easily affect their behavior as they interact with others and us. You’ve probably had your fair share of problems that have affected your moods and how you treat other people when out in the world, and this applies to everybody else as well; try to step into their shoes and understand that life throws a lot of curveballs and not everyone can maintain a happy, friendly façade when trying to cope with their hardships.
  8. Being Taught Hatred: Unfortunately, we live in times where hatred can sometimes be taught and passed down by family members or others we may have looked up to throughout our lives. Luckily, though, we also live in a world where we can overcome these instilled sentiments and learn to love and accept others for who they are. If you’ve heard nothing but bad about a person or group of people, it may be a good time to investigate the information you’ve been taught about why you should feel the way you do towards them. Misunderstandings and preconceived notions will only hold you back from learning more about others, their backgrounds, and their cultures and keep you from learning about what makes each person unique in their way.
  9. Envy and Jealousy: It’s easy to feel like life is unfair when someone else has something you want but don’t have. Whether they have money, a nice car, or an attractive partner, jealousy can escalate into more extreme feelings of dislike at times. Sometimes a person may inherit what they have from those who came before them, but plenty of people work hard to earn the things they have in life. If you’re struggling with jealousy, it is easy to pay attention to what someone else is doing or whatever they may have, but it may be more helpful to focus on your own life instead. If you’re feeling unhappy, you can set some goals for yourself that will help you get closer to getting what you want or remind yourself of the wonderful things you have accomplished. If you’re jealous of someone’s looks, remember that you do not have to look exactly like them to be attractive in your unique way. If someone makes more money than you do, you can try to find ways to improve your financial situation or think about the things you have in your life that bring you joy. Often, feelings of hatred based on jealousy or envy can originate from feelings of insecurity. This can often be remedied by taking the time to counter negative thoughts or putting in work to better yourself and your situation.

How ReGain Can Help

Constant Negative Emotions Can Impact Your Life - Don't Let It

Suppose hatred or a constant, strong dislike of other people seems to affect your life, happiness, and relationships. It may be helpful to seek professional help and emotional support through online therapy. There are many licensed professionals available to assist in helping you cope with your emotions and find healthy solutions to the problems associated with these feelings and the life factors that may be contributing to your sentiments. ReGain has professionals available remotely, making reaching out for advice (or even someone to vent and talk to) convenient, regardless of your schedule or location. If you want to improve your relationships with other people and receive guidance on implementing the changes necessary to have a more positive, fulfilling life, online therapy can be an incredibly powerful tool.

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