Domestic Violence Quotes To Give You Strength
Updated January 09, 2020
Reviewer Karen Devlin, LPC
Domestic violence is one of the hardest things a person can go through. You love your other half so much that you tend to excuse his or her behavior when you shouldn't. No one deserves to be abused, and no one should stay with an abuser, but sometimes it's not so easy to just walk away.
You may find it helpful to read a quote about domestic violence because it is often a comfort to know you're not alone, that someone else has gone through the same kind of horrors that you have and came out okay on the other side. It is possible to leave a relationship where domestic violence is present and enjoy a healthy and satisfying life on the other side. But it takes courage to leave, and a strong support network to help you when you finally get out.
Quotes Explaining Domestic Violence
It's may be easier for some to hear about domestic violence and think "that'll never happen to me," then to evaluate your situation and realize, sadly, that it already has.
If you are going through some hard times with your significant other, but you're not quite sure if what you're going through is, in fact, domestic violence, then the following quotes may be able to help you better determine whether you need to get out.
"Has he ever trapped you in a room and not let you out? Has he ever raised a fist as if he were going to hit you? Has he ever thrown an object that hit you or nearly did? Has he ever held you down or grabbed you to restrain you? Has he ever shoved, poked, or grabbed you? Has he ever threatened to hurt you? If the answer to any of these questions is yes, then we can stop wondering whether he'll ever be violent; he already has been." - Lundy Bancroft
"Now let's move on to the subject of how a real man treats his wife. A real man doesn't slap even a ten-dollar hooker around, if he's got any self-respect, much less hurt his own woman. Much less ten times over the mother of his kids. A real man busts his ass to feed his family, fights for them if he has to, dies for them if he has to. And he treats his wife with respect every day of his life, treats her like a queen - the queen of the home she makes for their children." - S.M. Stirling
"Domestic violence causes far more pain than the visible marks of bruises and scars. It is devastating to be abused by someone that you love and think loves you in return." - Unknown
"All violence consists of some people forcing others, under threat of suffering or death, to do what they do not want to do." - Leo Tolstoy
"The healthy man does not torture others. Generally, it is the tortured who turn into torturers." - Carl Jung
Quotes About Domestic Violence For Those Who Are Afraid To Leave
Sometimes, we fully recognize we are in a situation of domestic violence, but we're either afraid to leave, because we're not sure what our significant other would do to us if we did, or we blame ourselves for getting into the situation in the first place. If this sounds like you, then you may find the following quotes to be very relatable:
"I am living in hell from one day to the next. But there is nothing I can do to escape. I don't know where I would go if I did. I feel utterly powerless, and that feeling is my prison. I entered of my own free will, I locked the door, and I threw away the key." - Haruki Murakami
"The guarantee of safety in a battering relationship can never be based upon a promise from the perpetrator, no matter how heartfelt. Rather, it must be based upon the self-protective capability of the victim. Until the victim has developed a detailed and realistic contingency plan and has demonstrated her ability to carry it out, she remains in danger of repeated abuse." - Judith Lewis Herman
"She could just pack up and leave, but she does not visualize what's beyond ahead." - Núria Añó
"Today I wore a pair of faded old jeans and a plain grey baggy shirt. I hadn't even taken a shower, and I did not put on an ounce of makeup. I grabbed a worn out black oversized jacket to cover myself with even though it is warm outside. I have made conscious decisions lately to look like less of what I felt a male would want to see. I want to disappear." - Sierra D. Waters
Quotes About Why We Excuse Bad Behavior
Don't get down on yourself for excusing your abuser's behavior. You love this person, and you keep hoping every day that he or she will come to their senses or get help so that you can live the life together that you always knew you could. Except that you can't. If your significant other refuses to get help, then there is no hope. This is why you should run, not walk, away from people who abuse you.
Here, however, are some quotes, to sum up why sometimes, even though we know we should, we feel like we just can't.
"Domestic violence is frequently excused when alcohol and other substances are involved." - Asa Don Brown
"It is impossible to correct abuses unless we know that they're going on." - Unknown
"I've heard that people stand in bad situations because a relationship like that gets turned up by degrees. It is said that a frog will jump out of a pot of boiling water. Place him in a pot and turn it up a little at a time, and he will stay until he is boiled to death. Us frogs understand this." - Deb Caletti
"The next time the abuser tells you that the reason he is abusive towards you is something you have done, remind yourself that no one is ever responsible for another person's actions. The next time the abuser tells you that he wouldn't get so angry with you if you would just try harder, remind yourself of how hard you have been trying and how little effect your efforts have had on his actions. And most important, the next time you are lying in bed crying over something the abuser had said or done, remind yourself of who you were before you met him." - Source Unknown
Domestic Violence Survivor Quotes To Encourage You To Break Free
No one should stand for being mistreated. Whether he or she hits you, verbally abuses you, or makes you feel like less than you're worth, you do not need to stand for it. It can even be something as simple as taking you for granted, assuming you'll do the chores all the time, or that you'll take care of the kids. Or being condescending, like talking down to you in front of their friends.
Anyone who makes you feel like less of a human being needs to go. Period.
The following quotes are from those who survived domestic violence and lived to tell the tale in the hopes that you too would follow suit and break free. You'll find that this section has more quotes than the other sections. This is how important it is for you to find peace and get away from your abuser.
"What are you going to do? Are you going to live in the dark, locked in here? Afraid to look out, answer the door, leave? Yes, he's out there, and he's clearly not going to leave you alone until one of three things happens: he hurts you and gets arrested, or he makes a mistake and gets arrested, or you stop him." - Rachel Caine
"A woman should never invest in a relationship she wouldn't want for her daughter, nor allow any man to treat her in a way she could scold her son for." - Unknown
"Never forget that walking away from something unhealthy is brave even if you stumble a little on your way out the door." - Unknown
"Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it's better to leave them broken than to hurt yourself putting it back together." - Unknown
"You survived the abuse. You're going to survive the recovery." - Unknown
"You don't manage an oppressor or dictator. You don't love people out of being controlling or abusive. You come up with a plan to secure whatever is most important to you before they kill you." - Tonya GJ Prince
"When you are with someone who is never pleased, it is time to stop trying to please him." - Unknown
If you are a victim of domestic violence and you're not sure what to do to leave the situation, contact one of our ReGain counselors for support and more information.