Use These Marriage Counseling Worksheets To Help Boost Your Relationship
Updated September 04, 2018
Have you and your partner ever tried marriage counseling worksheets to help your relationship? Even if you think that everything is going great and you have no need to work on your relationship they can help to make things stronger. The important thing is finding the right worksheets that are going to help you. Well, you're in luck, because we've found some of the very important questions that you should be asking yourself (and your partner) to make sure that you're on the right track.
Marriage Counseling Worksheets To Try
Relationship Gratitude Tips
One of the most important things you need to learn when you're in a relationship is how to be grateful for the other person. It's not just about feeling that gratitude either, but about expressing it to them. Everyone wants to feel loved and appreciated. When they do something for you, they want you to appreciate the effort that it took, no matter what. With this type of worksheet, you can talk about different ways that you could show gratitude and what means the most to you or your partner.
You want to know what type of things trigger a bad response in you. Maybe it's something that your partner does that drives you crazy, but there may be something that you're doing that is the same for them. The important thing is that you each know what those triggers are and that you talk about them with each other. Your partner wouldn't keep doing those things if they knew it bothered you so much, but if you don't tell them then they don't realize and they'll continue to do it, which will continue to bother you. See how the cycle continues?
Being assertive is not being bossy (or that other 'B' word we all know). Rather, it's about letting someone know what you like or dislike and what you need or want in a relationship. It's about opening up and letting your thoughts and feelings be heard, which can be difficult sometimes. With this type of worksheet, you're going to start working on those thoughts and feelings and start telling your partner about these important things so they can continue to support you in the way that you need them to.
You may have seen these or even tried them out for yourself in the past. You both sit back-to-back. One of you has a drawing or a stack of blocks that are arranged in a specific pattern. The other person has a piece of paper and a pen or a haphazard array of blocks. The task is for the person who is looking at the finished project to tell the other person what to do so they can recreate it. The person with the drawing doesn't get to see what the other person is doing. The other person doesn't get to see the finished product,and they also don't get to talk. It's about learning to communicate so the other person can understand you.
Explore Your Boundaries
Even if you and your partner have been together for a long time, you might have boundaries that have never come up or that you have tried to stretch but felt uncomfortable about. By talking with your partner about what those boundaries are you're going to be setting yourself up for your partner to accept those boundaries. But you need to be careful about how you talk to them about boundaries because it can be difficult to understand how important something is to someone else and this is an area where you need to be sensitive.
Talking to your partner about your goals and your dreams for the future may not always be as simple as you'd like it to be or as easy as you'd expect. But this is an extremely important thing for your future. By knowing what the other person wants to achieve you're going to be much better off in the long run. Keep in mind that their goals and your goals may not be the same and that's not necessarily a bad thing. Talk about the different goals you have and then try to work out ways that you can achieve both.
Finding More Help
If you're not able to work on these types of skills and worksheets by yourself (or if you just don't want to), that's perfectly fine. Reach out to a professional who can help you and your partner to communicate more effectively and who can get you started on these types of worksheets and skills. They'll be able to find you even more worksheets as well and give you exercises to work on together.
You and your partner want to have a positive and fulfilling relationship,and while you may already be on the right track, there's always going to be room for improvement. Another thing to remember is that as your relationship continues even longer, it's very easy to fall into complacency, which could lead you to become less observant of your partner's needs and wants. By doing some of these worksheets over time, you'll be setting yourself up for more success and building a way to communicate with your partner.
If you're not sure where to find the right help you can get online. It's not just about checking the reviews online before you call someone either. You can find a therapist online that you'll be able to talk with the same way. Instead of having to go to a physical location for your appointments you'll be able just to log on to ReGain from anywhere that you have internet access. Then you'll be able to communicate with them even more openly because you're already in a space that you feel most comfortable. No matter what's going on outside or where you are at the time, you and your partner will be able to connect with each other and your therapist.