I Feel Like I’m An Unattractive Man: What Can I Do To Fix This?

By: Michael Puskar

Updated November 23, 2019

Medically Reviewed By: Lauren Guilbeault

If you think that you weren't blessed with naturally good looks, all hope is not lost, and there are things that you can do to help you raise some attractiveness points. What makes a man attractive consists of several different things that you can address, some not everything is out of your control. In this article, you will learn about some possible ideas that you can start working on to boost your attractiveness and start feeling good about yourself.

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Look At Your Hairstyle

Some men might have an attractive face, but if you don't have a good hairstyle to compliment it, it takes away from your facial features. If you are unsure of what kind of haircut you should get, try going asking for a professional opinion at a barber or salon, or ask a lady friend to see what they think would look great on you. A hairstyle might just be what you need to start turning things around.

However, if you are losing your hair, there are ways to style things to make it less noticeable; however, there are times where people can tell that you are just trying to hide the fact that your hair is falling out.

Male-pattern baldness can be a shocker for most men who start going through it, but it's best just to keep it closely-cropped or shaved off completely. Making the decision to be bald is much more attractive than balding and holding onto what is gone; this is because it is often described as exuding confidence, dominance, and authority. [1]

Groom Your Facial Hair

Similar to the hair on your head, the ones on your face will also need to be maintained to optimize your chances of attracting women and men alike. This doesn't mean that you're not allowed to have a beard though - having a beard works well with a lot of men, especially bald ones, because it helps create a nice contrast and balance with the lack of hair on the scalp.

Like regular haircuts, there are several options you can try out, but the key here is to keep things clean looking. While it can work with some people, the consensus is that an unkempt beard is unattractive, and can be distracting from the good features that you do have.

If all else fails, and you can't decide on anything too specific, you can't go wrong with a clean-shaven look or having short-stubble. Sometimes less is more, and going for a minimalist look is the best way to go.

Buy New Clothes

Having a bad wardrobe can be holding you back from achieving your potential, and it should be the next thing you should take a look into fixing. Unfortunately, it might be one of the pricier ones to do in comparison to the other things on this list, but it's best to think of it as investing in yourself.

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Even though it will cost you money to get some new clothes, it doesn't mean that you need to buy anything too fancy - just things that look good and that you can wear in a variety of situations. For example, if you want to stay casual, jeans, a stylish t-shirt, polo, and a jacket, and some clean shoes can do just the trick, but if you need something more professional, you can opt for button-down shirts and some slacks that fit properly.

Things that are the proper fit can make all of the difference in the world, and nothing can kill your entire look by wearing clothes that are way too big or small, aside from maybe having gaping holes or stains. If you haven't been too mindful of what you're wearing, it's time to change that, because it can be what's causing you to be an unattractive man.

Examine Your Physique

Even if you think you have a below-average face, or you have a decent one, and you're unhappy with your body, you can take matters into your own hands by taking care of your physical appearance and staying in shape. Two of the main ways to do this is through diet and exercise.

Diet is the first thing to look at because it's what allows you to see results from exercise. For example, if you are overweight, cutting back on your calories from food in addition to the ones you burn while working out is what will allow you to start slimming down and start fitting into some new clothes. If you keep eating more calories than what you burn through, you will see little to no progress, which is why diet should always be looked at first. [1]

On the other hand, if you are too skinny, you can start going to the gym to build some muscle. Though just like losing weight, calories are also king, and you'll want to be in slight a caloric surplus to gain weight from muscle while minimizing fat gain. Essentially, you will need to eat more, but don't splurge!

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Develop A Good Sense Of Humor

Some people are just naturally funny, just like how others are born with features that make them good looking, but if you're neither, you need to take into consideration how your humor comes off to other people.

Humor doesn't cost a cent to work on, but like improving a physique, it does time and effort to hone in on. Yes, some people are gifted in this regard, but if anyone says things along the lines of "you're either funny or your not" is wrong. Humor is certainly something that can be developed, and it's how stand-up comedians can get to where they are.

Sometimes it might not be an issue of a person not telling jokes, but rather, they aren't thinking of how they're saying things and how others might perceive a joke. For instance, a crude sense of humor that's sexual, sexist, racist is a surefire way to make you look bad in front of a woman, and it can make them turn their backs to even the most handsome men. What do girls find attractive? Men who can make them laugh, and if you're able to do this, you'll be thought of as the "funny guy" and not "the disgusting one."

Be Confident, No Matter What

Like humor, confidence is another facet of a personality that can be improved, and everything in this list leading up to this point can certainly help boost your confidence. What makes a guy attractive to anyone is his ability to be confident. Even if you are ugly, having conviction and faith in yourself can carry you a long way; it's how a lot of old rock stars can be successful with women (or men) still, aside from having money.

Even if you are unhappy with how you look, it is essential not to let this affect your social interactions with others, especially those who you might be interested in dating. Stand up straight and tall, make comfortable eye contact, and say what you mean. It will take practice, and you might have to "fake it until you make it," but if you can do this while addressing the other things that might be causing you to feel like an unattractive man, it will become easier, and eventually might just become natural.

It's also important to distinguish between confidence and arrogance. It's possible to be "overconfident" but still not be arrogant and cocky. [3] Confident men are secure with themselves and don't have to boast. In fact, arrogance can potentially sabotage your chances with someone; not too many people like others who are self-centered. Self-love is necessary, but never at the expense of others.

Conclusion

If you think you're an unattractive guy right now; hopefully these tips can help you get out of a rut and start feeling good about yourself. You might not feel like a million bucks right away, but with a combination of investing in yourself and practicing specific social skills, you can see a huge difference in how you feel about yourself, and consequently, interact with others. Others who know you already most likely will see these positive changes as well!

Unfortunately, having a negative self-image can take a toll on a person's self-esteem and motivation to do things that can improve themselves. For example, someone who struggles with weight issues might feel insecure about joining a gym, even though exercise is what will help this individual reach their personal goals.

If this sounds like you and self-esteem issues are preventing you from making progress, help is available. Regain offers online counseling and therapy from licensed professionals who can help you resolve them and change these negative perceptions.

You can take things one step at a time, or you can start using some of these solutions at the same time that you are working time you are working with a therapist. No matter what you choose to do, you can become the most attractive man that you can be.

References

  1. Stoneham, B. (2017, February 25). Bald Men Are More Confident, Attractive, and Dominant Than Guys With Hair. Retrieved from https://www.menshealth.com/trending-news/a19539277/bald-men-confidence/
  2. Frey, M. (2018, October 27). Creating a Calorie Deficit in Your Diet Is Important for Weight Loss. Retrieved from https://www.verywellfit.com/what-is-a-calorie-deficit-3495538
  3. David, T. (2016, December 19). Confident or Cocky? Retrieved from https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-magic-human-connection/201612/confident-or-cocky

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