I Feel Like I’m An Unattractive Man: What Can I Do To Fix This?

Updated April 5, 2024by Regain Editorial Team

If you think that you weren't blessed with naturally good looks, there are things that you can do to help you boost your confidence and feel more attractive. What makes a man attractive is ultimately subjective to every individual and may consist of several different things you may address or learn to love yourself for yourself. In this article, you will learn about some possible ideas to start working on to boost your attractiveness and start feeling good about yourself.

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Look at your hairstyle

Some men may have very attractive faces, but their hairstyle may take away from it, hide it, or not compliment those handsome features well. If you are unsure what kind of haircut would suit your face shape best, try asking for a professional opinion at a barber or salon. Certain hairstyles may be able to compliment certain face shapes better.

If you are experiencing male pattern baldness, and it affects your confidence, there are ways to style your hair or other things you can do to make it less noticeable.

Some men may prefer to wear a hat or style their hair a certain way to cover the area in which they are beginning to lose hair. Male-pattern baldness may be upsetting for some men who start going through it, but there are things a man may be able to do to help. Embracing going bald can be incredibly attractive, and some people may even prefer it. Those who choose to shave their head may seem as though they exude confidence, dominance, and authority.

If the loss of hair affects your confidence, there are many treatments, such as hair transplants, that have had tremendous success. It's up to the individual whether this kind of treatment is necessary to make them feel more attractive.

Groom your facial hair

Like the hair on your head, the ones on your face may need to be maintained to optimize your chances of attracting a potential mate. Everyone has different tastes for facial hair, so it may be beneficial to seek advice from a professional stylist to find out what kind of facial hair looks best on you. What is important to most partners is keeping your facial hair clean and taking care of your hygiene.

For those men that find it difficult to grow a beard or prefer not to have one, a clean-shaven look or having short-stubble may be an attractive look. Sometimes less is more, and going for a minimalist look may be very attractive.

Buy new clothes

A great way to get a confidence boost and feel more attractive is to change your style or buy new clothes. Unfortunately, it might be one of the pricier ones to do compared to the other things on this list, but it's best to consider it as investing in yourself.


However, it doesn't mean that you need to buy anything too fancy. Choosing the right clothes that fit your body well and can be worn in various situations may be just what you need to make you feel more attractive.

Things that have the proper fit can make all of the difference in the world, and when you feel you look good in the clothes you're wearing, that confidence may make you seem very attractive to a partner.

Examine your physique

If your physique or body is affecting your confidence and you feel unattractive, it may be helpful to begin to work on your physique. Two of the main ways to do this are through diet and exercise.

Eating a well-balanced diet is important for optimal health. For example, if you feel overweight, cutting back on your calories from food and the ones you burn while working out will allow you to slim yourself down to your ideal weight. If you're eating healthier, you'll have more energy and may feel better about yourself.

On the other hand, if you feel you would like to put on more weight or muscle mass, it may be beneficial to start going to the gym to build muscle. Diet and exercise are not only good for our bodies but also our mental health as well. Exercise boosts endorphins, which are those feel-good hormones that can boost your mood, making you feel happier and more content.

Develop a good sense of humor

Many people find a good sense of humor incredibly attractive. If you feel like you're not physically attractive, a great sense of humor may be just what you need to feel more desirable. Studies show that 90% of men and 81% of women find a sense of humor to be the most important quality in a partner. Studies also show that having a sense of humor boosts your attractiveness and can improve both your physical and mental health. Luckily, we all have an innate sense of humor. If you want to feel more attractive and feel better about yourself, it may be time to start working on those jokes and punch lines.

Be confident, no matter what

Like humor, confidence is another facet of a personality that may be improved with effort, and everything in this list leading up to this point can certainly help boost your confidence. Confidence is a very desirable quality to many people. Even if you feel you're not physically attractive, having conviction and faith in yourself can carry you long.

Even if you are unhappy with how you look, it is essential not to let this affect your social interactions with others, especially those you might be interested in dating. To seem more confident, it may be helpful to stand up straight and tall, make comfortable eye contact and speak like you are sure of yourself. It may take practice, and you might have to "fake it until you make it," but if you can do this while addressing the other things that might be causing you to feel like an unattractive man, it will become easier, and eventually, it may become natural.

It's also important to distinguish between confidence and arrogance.  Confident men are with themselves and don't have to boast or brag. Arrogance can be a quality people find unattractive. Self-love is important, but never at the expense of others.

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Focus on what's important to you

When it comes to attractiveness, many other qualities are considered attractive in an individual. Some individuals may find other people's personalities their most attractive quality. If you feel you're unattractive, it may be helpful to focus on things that are important to you instead of caring so much about what other people think. What is important is what you think about yourself. It may help to work on improving the love you have for yourself as well. There are many ways to practice self-love in your life that can positively impact how you feel about yourself and your place in the world. If you focus on being a good person, having good values, and caring about what matters to you, you may find someone who the same interests, and they may think you're incredibly attractive.

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If you feel like you're an unattractive guy right now, hopefully, these tips can help you start feeling good about yourself. You might not feel like a million bucks right away. Still, with a combination of investing in yourself and practicing specific social skills, you can see a huge difference in how you feel about yourself, and consequently, interact with others. Others who know you already most likely will see these positive changes as well!

Attractiveness is perceived differently by different people, and there are people out there who will find you attractive just as you are. However, it helps if you feel confident and good about yourself. These tips are meant to make you feel more with yourself, which in turn, will hopefully make you feel more attractive to a potential mate.

Unfortunately, having a negative self-image can toll a person's self-esteem and motivation to do things that can improve themselves. For example, someone who struggles with weight issues might feel insecure about joining a gym, even though exercise will help them reach their personal goals. If this sounds like you and self-esteem issues prevent you from making progress, help, and support are available. Regain offers online counseling and therapy from licensed professionals who can help you resolve them and change these negative perceptions of yourself or any other mental health concerns.

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