Is She Interested In You? Female Body Language Signs Of Attraction

By Angela W. McShan|Updated June 21, 2022
CheckedMedically Reviewed By Lauren Guilbeault, LMHC

In the world of animals, it’s common for the male to introduce the idea of mating, while the female can choose to reject or accept the advancement. The male introduces the idea of mating through their body language. This can result in a happy relationship, or a rejection of the advance. No one likes rejection, right? However, it’s common. Sometimes, the inability to read the signs that indicate interest may be hard for a man to read, and he can take it as rejection.

Humans traditionally share the same manner of approach, but both men and women can approach the other and express their interest using body language. While it may seem typical for men to ask the women out first, sometimes it’s difficult for the man to tell how the woman feels about him. There are multiple reasons why men fail to read female body language and vice versa. However, for every reason there is a clear solution.

A man isn’t always comfortable enough to approach a woman without knowing if the interest is mutual. Asking her out is always a great place to start, but what if her responses and actions are vague and her body language difficult to read? Men may also not ask her out right away because they fear that she is not interested in him. They may also worry about being seen as awkward or use negative body language in their attempt to ask out the woman, potentially ruining a good friendship. Regardless of a man’s attempts, it depends on the woman if they want to pursue a relationship.

Not Sure If She Likes You?
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Women typically make the final decision regarding a romantic relationship with the man. Men may have a difficult time understanding or reading the woman, the body language, or any nonverbal cues regarding accepting or rejecting his advances. Even if he understands the approach, it may be that he’s not knowledgeable of the body language signs that women emit when they are interested. Men may be oblivious to the body language of women, resulting in them misreading a situation and causing a blunder that can get in the way of a potential relationship. Women sometimes wonder why a man hasn’t made a move on her or asked her out. Many times it’s because he has no idea that you’re the slightest interested. As such, there are specific rules of language learning to read yourself so that you can use the body language yourself and show that special somebody in your life that they mean something to you.

In learning the body language you want to read from somebody who you think is interested in you, it is important to familiarize yourself with a few of the female body language signs of attraction. In other words, by paying attention to the signs that women give to show their interest in a man, you may be more observant of a woman or man showing interest in you.

Signs A Woman Is Interested In A Man

Many experts have revealed that there are more than 50 signs that women display through their body language to show they’re interested in a man. There is no specific order or significance of one over the other, but they are clear flirtations. It is important to note that if a woman is displaying several of these signs, then she’s likely interested so try asking her out and respond accordingly to whatever follows next in the interaction.

Common female body language signs of attraction:

  • She smiles at you often
  • She glances at you briefly but often
  • She looks away when you make eye contact with her
  • She engages eye contact with you
  • She strokes her hair while gazing at you
  • She licks her lips softly while looking at you
  • She leans in when speaking with you
  • She faces you while talking or sitting with you
  • She strokes your shoulder or hand when speaking with you
  • She laughs when you tell corny jokes
  • She fiddles with objects in her hands or near her when you’re in her presence

Out of each body language of women listed above, those that are most commonly seen are the smiles, engaging eye contact, and the consistent glances.

Read The Signs Correctly

You can’t assume that a woman is interested based on those instances of body language alone. It’s important to be able to read them correctly and not misinterpret her friendliness for something more. Make sure to not misinterpret her verbal communications if her potential jokes are done out of friendship and not anything more. In many cases, men have difficulty reading social signs, especially sexual signs. On the other hand, if you find that a woman is showing their physical or sexual interest in you but do not reciprocate these feelings, then respond to the negative body language by asserting that you are not interested.

Some clues are complicated and indirect. Others are upfront and easy to read. It is important to see these signs of body language correctly. Consider the following signs when you search for female body language:

  1. She Stands Erect With Stomach Tucked Tightly, And Shoulders Pulled Back. If a woman stands with a tall posture, stomach tucked, and shoulders pulled back, she may be interested in you. It’s a sign that she wants to appear her best and make a good impression. It’s easy to take note of her posture and its changes as she walks away from or towards you. If she senses that you’re looking, she may make adjustments to her posture. She could subconsciously lick her lips or stroke her neck when approaching or passing you. Women do this to emphasize their body or face. Another way she may emphasize her body is if you notice her hands on hips. In doing so, she is further emphasizing her body language as paying direct attention towards you. She may also tilt her head or stroke her hair.
  2. She Points Her Feet Towards You. This is a nonverbal sign that may seem a little weird to you, but there’s something more to the pointing foot than chance. This is a notable sign because people aren’t always conscious or aware of what position their feet are in. If a woman’s feet are pointing in your direction during the conversation, it may be a sign of interest. If they are turned in a different direction, or facing the door, there is likely no interest. A woman who sits with her feet beneath her or with tightly crossed legs, her body language indicates that she’s nervous or not comfortable in your presence. However, a woman is relaxed when her feet are distanced from her body, which could mean that she’s somewhat comfortable around you.
  3. She Reacts To Your Touches.The reaction she gives to your touches is an indicator of how she feels about you or if she’s interested in you. If a woman is into you, she will notice the slightest touch, even the platonic ones. She may blush, giggle, or flash a quick smile. If she’s not interested, she may pull away or not even notice your touch. Be selective with your touches and make sure you’re careful not to make inappropriate advances or touches. Pay careful attention to the body language of women and understand if your actions are making her uncomfortable. If engaging in a conversation, a gentle touch on her hand can show her reaction.
  1. She’s Become Comfortable Enough With You To Touch You.Women will often place their hands on a guy if they are interested in him. She may graze his arm in agreement with something he said or rub his hand as a show of affection. This type of body language portrays how the woman feels comfortable enough around the man that she does not feel scared or awkward when physically interacting with a guy. This isn’t an invitation to start a relationship or engage in a sexual encounter. Her body language could merely show signs that she likes you. Once she begins to make adjustments to your clothing or prick pieces of lint away from your collar or clothing, she may be romantically interested in you. You could always touch her gently to test out her response during this engagement. Some women are touchy-feely with almost everyone, and therefore, a slight touch isn’t any indication that she’s interested in you.
  2. She Mimics Your Gestures And Motions.This is one of the big signs given off by women who are interested in a man. She begins to mirror or mimic your levels of energy by talking similar to you, using some of the same expressions as you, and suddenly making some of the same movements as you. Another one to notice is that she begins using some of the same terminologies as you do, especially certain phrases. One more detail is that she is using similar hand gestures as well, such as moving her hands to emphasize something or putting her hands on hips. These hand gestures may not indicate anything, but it is something to look out for regardless.
  3. She Constantly Fixes Herself Up Around You. When a woman preens, she’s fixing or fidgeting with herself to make herself presentable for you. She may do something as simple as apply lip gloss, fix her bangs, or straighten her blouse. In reading female body language, it may be a sign of her nerves or wanting to look great for the guy she’s interested in. Fidgeting or preening is a natural display of nervousness in her body language. Some studies show that women will preen or pout if they’re interested in a man. This is typically a sign of extreme attraction and sometimes easy to pick up on. In noticing her fixing herself up when you are around, you are taking note of her body language, learning to find body language cues, and you understand what is a positive body of language as opposed to a negative one, such as somebody coming onto you too strongly.
  4. Her Body Language Is Loose When Around You.If she’s relaxed in your presence, she’s seemingly comfortable around you. This isn’t an indicator that she’s attracted to you, as it may just be how she is around those she’s comfortable with. You’ll have to put a little thought into this sign. If the two of you haven’t known each other long, but she uses a relaxed style of body language, it could mean that she’s interested. By using a relaxed style of body language, such as constantly touching you or being close to you, she is showing that she can be herself when around you. If you find her using the same hand gestures as you are, it shows that the two of you are exhibiting each other’s physical traits, thus pointing to a positive sign of body language of women. Most women need to feel comfortable before they allow their body language to express relaxation around the person they’re interested in.
  5. She Tilts Her Head Towards Yours During The Conversation.If you’re talking and she’s leaning inward, she’s engaged with you and what you’re saying. This is especially true if she does this while the two of you are with a group of other people. It’s your conversation that she’s most interested in. It’s also a sign that she wants to feel closer and connect with you more intimately. When this body language of women is given, be respectful of her space. Don’t tilt your head forward. You don’t want to seem overly eager but show that you’re listening by engaging eye contact.
  6. She Blushes Uncontrollably When You Come Around. Blushing is one of the most noticeable and traditional signs that a woman is interested in a man. She will blush when a man that she likes offers her a compliment or says something nice to her. It’s a positive body language as it is a surefire sign that she feels something for you.
  7. She’s Unusually Shy. There’s shy, and then there’s shy only when she’s around you. When a woman is interested in a man but doesn’t know him yet, she may become shy or slightly nervous when around him. It is important in understanding female body language in regards to the woman being shy only around you, as it is a clear indication that she feels something toward you. She’ll make sudden movements, blink her eyes quickly, yawn continuously, or contort her hands. These are signs of nervousness, which typically happens when a person is shy and around someone they’re interested in.

Not Sure If She Likes You?

There are several female body language signs of attraction that women demonstrate when attracted to a man. Studies reveal that usually, women will make the initial advance, but imperceptibly. It’s more common today than it was years ago for women to let a man know that she’s interested in him. Women’s body language when they make the initial advance is related to their body language when they have feelings for a guy but they have not expressed their interest directly to you.

If you’ve been wondering if a woman is interested in you but not sure, make a note of some of the signs above along with other signs of female body language. If she’s displaying a few of those around you, she may be interested in you. It’s important to be perceptive when noticing these signs, as they aren’t always indicative of interest by her and may easily be misconceived. It is important to take verbal communication into consideration and ask her directly if she has any feelings for you. After seeing these signs, they may be an indication of her interest in you. They may also not be an indication of her feelings and could be a sign of something else. By talking to her, you can find out the reasons behind her behaviors, and if it turns out it has nothing to do with a romantic attraction, take the initiative and help her discover what her feelings mean, thus demonstrating that you care for her as a friend at the least.

If you face challenges recognizing signs of interest or not comfortable expressing your interest in someone you’re attracted to, you may consider speaking with a therapist. They can assist you in addressing issues of communication that may be hindering you from engaging in healthy and fulfilling relationships. It is always a good idea to find a therapist for any reason, but speaking with one for relationship advice is a good idea that may lead to you and the person you are interested in being involved in a stable relationship.

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