Is There A Difference Between Being A Dad Vs. Father?

Updated December 30, 2022by ReGain Editorial Team

What's the difference between a dad and a father? Most people familiar with the terms "dad" and "father" have heard the frequently used quote, "Any man can become a father, but it takes someone special to be a dad."

This particular quote, along with several other parenting quotes, statements, and jokes, tells us that many people feel that there is a big difference between the definition of a father and a dad. It seems that to most people, the word father has a negative connotation while the word dad is warm and loving.

What are the real differences between a dad and a father? Understanding the differences might encourage you to lean one way more than the other, but it can help open your eyes to the men you associate yourself with.

Knowing the difference is key to being the parent that you truly want to be.

What Are The Qualities Of A Dad?

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If a great dad raised you, you likely know some of his best qualities and try to emulate them. Dads are great guys that have their priorities straight and understand what is most important in this life.

They love their children no matter what and teach them the ways of the world. So, what is a dad?

Difference with Fathers

Loving And Doesn't Hide Emotion

They often get emotional at moving moments with their kids.

A good dad hugs his kids and does not feel weak for doing it in public. He will show love in many forms: gestures, attentiveness, and verbal affection.

Being a dad is a role that is not given by accident. He may have been a tough guy before kids, but living with his children has developed a soft spot in him that has made him better than the person he was before.

He works at ensuring that his children know that they are loved.

Playful Dad or Fathers

A dad is a man that plays with his kids. He doesn't pass up the chance to get a laugh out of his children.

Whether it's having a tea party or playing ball with his little one, he develops a relationship that his children value almost as much as he does. Bonds are formed during laughter and happy times that kids won't forget.

Being a playful dad is fun for both the dad and the kids, but it makes parenting easier! Having a few minutes of fun will make your child more agreeable and distracts them from the issue at hand. Dads are seen to have this figured out!

Definition of A Good Listener

The best of dads listen when their children speak. It doesn't matter if they are two years old and babbling about nothing or 17 and dealing with their first heartbreak; a dad will listen to every word.

They do so actively and make their child feel as though there is nothing more important than what they have to say.

Good dads are often loaded with great advice. A lot of men have advice because of how well they know their children.

After listening to them and being fully present in their lives, dads better understand their children's personalities and strengths.

That might mean teaching his children self-defense, how to change a tire, or how to mow their grass.

In reality, dads make sure their kids do not have to rely on other people to do everyday tasks.

Respects The Mother Of His Children

No matter the relationship between mom and dad, he always treats her with respect. They might be experiencing problems in their relationship, but he never mistreats her.

While relationship counseling might help immensely, even hard times require kindness. Demonstrating to your children how to treat others is an example that dads are half responsible for.

Dads teach their sons how a partner should be treated. They teach their daughters how they should expect to be treated. This is one of the most important things a dad can do for his family.

Qualities Of A Father

For some people, a father is simply another word for a dad. In modern explanations, however, fathers are the men that played a part in creating children. It has a negative connotation that dads like to avoid.

To be a dad, the following qualities should not be something that a man aspires to do.

When Dad or Father Is Asked To Be Present

A man should never have to be asked to be present in his children's lives. School plays, soccer games, and difficult homework should include the presence of both parents.

While it is understandable that he cannot be at every event, it should be prioritized.

A father in the modern sense is the guy that fails to see the importance of his presence in his child's life.

He might not see how important it is for him to be in the stands at a sporting event or make an effort to spend time with his children. He has to be told to do these things.

Has Priorities Over His Family

A modern father is an individual that has other activities, people, or things that take precedence over his family. It might be his favorite sports team, a new lady in his life, or even his Xbox.

Other priorities include alcohol addiction or drug habit. A father is a guy that fails to put his priorities in order when he has children.

If a man is missing out on important events in his children's lives because of something else that he finds more important, he is a father and not a dad. If he is missing everyday events that are not as important, he still should reevaluate his priorities. Being a dad requires being involved in the everyday just as much as the big things.

Selfish Definition: What is the Definition?

When a dad has a child, his selfish ambitions get placed on the back burner. When a father has a child, nothing changes. His money is his own, his time belongs to himself, and his interests remain the same. There is no desire for anything to change, so no effort is put forth in parenting his children.

Human beings are selfish creatures. However, when children enter the picture, parents become less selfish than they were. They must spend their hard-earned money on the needs of their children, give up their free time to take care of them, and even give up some hobbies and interests. A dad does this. A father does not.

Misses Important Events

Graduations, baptisms, championship games are treated as just another day of the week for fathers. They fail to see the importance of the event - or perhaps they fail to see the importance of their child. A father is a guy that has no interest in attending these events, so he doesn't.

A dad is always in attendance. Although a father can learn from a dad in all aspects of parenting, this is a good place to start. Fathers must attempt to be there for the big moments to take a step towards being a dad.

Too Busy For Family Time

A father might provide financially for his family by working non-stop, but a dad is someone who provides his time just as much as his paycheck. When work takes a father away from his family far too often, and he makes no attempt to lessen his workload, he finds himself too busy to spend time with his family.

A man that doesn't take the time to bond with his kids is a man that has strangers for children. He knows his kids as much as his kids know him - which is not at all. It is a sad way for a kid to grow up and a sad excuse for escaping parenting.

How Each Parenting Style Affects Your Children

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Were you a child with a dad or a father? If you had a father, try to remember the disappointment that you felt. That disappointment likely faded until you sadly got accustomed to the fact that you didn't have a dad. In many cases, children with an absent father may experience depression or other mental health concerns. If you had a dad, you might have wonderful memories and a continued relationship to this day.

Does the kind of parent you had as a child affect the kind of parent you are today? Put, yes. Many men feel as though they want to do better than their father, so they work extra hard to be a dad. Others had wonderful dads and worked hard to be just as good. Sadly, some men find it challenging to emulate a dad's parenting style that they never had.

Do You Want To Be a Better Dad? How ReGain Can Help

It is possible to learn how to be a dad when you had no example. By simply making an effort to be there for your kids and making it a priority, you can be a dad. All of the other things will come. A therapist can provide support and help you with this journey. 

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