App Etiquette: How To Flirt With A Guy Over Snapchat

Updated March 21, 2023by Regain Editorial Team

Some people find that texting can be boring, and regular chats can be too direct. Snapchat can provide a fun, low-pressure platform with many flirting opportunities. There are many ways to flirt, so the most fundamental thing to remember is to be true to yourself and not be afraid to put yourself out there. If someone is going to fall for you, they should fall for the real you, including the silly and embarrassing parts.

Flirting can be fun, so enjoy this opportunity to flirt using Snapchat. Maybe someday you and the person you’re flirting with will have a more serious relationship, and you’ll look back with fondness on the early days when you nervously sent silly snaps to each other.

Not Everyone Is Comfortable With Flirting

What Makes Snapchat Different

Communication is often lost when texting, and Snapchat aims to make interactions more personal. You can use your facial expressions when you flirt using Snapchat in a way that the other person wouldn’t see if you were speaking over the phone or sending text messages. That way, they can read your emotions better and pick up the subtle cues you’d usually need to see in person. When you flirt using Snapchat, you avoid miscommunication for the same reason; they can see your mannerisms, and if you send a video, they can hear the tone of your voice.

Snapchat is also more casual-you don’t need to worry about awkward silences or getting distracted. You can respond at your leisure when you flirt using Snapchat, and no one will judge you for taking a while to open a message.  You can play a game, send jokes, or use it to talk to others in your life with whom you have a more platonic relationship. There are plenty of opportunities to play with each other and hang out casually and comfortably.

How To Flirt Using Snapchat

Talk About Him

Many say that the number one rule of flirting successfully is to put the focus on the other person. This goes for flirting in person and over Snapchat, too. Ask questions and listen to his responses with genuine attention and interest. Many guys who stop responding to someone say that they “ghosted” that person because they never stopped talking about themselves. If you ask a lot of questions and put the focus on the other person, they will get used to that attention, enjoy it, and seek it out later.

Make Him Laugh

When you flirt using Snapchat, you can add special effects to your compliments and jokes – for example, you can use a filter that changes your voice if you want to appear playful. Because of its funny filters and other features, Snapchat allows you to be silly and make him laugh. This goes both ways. People love to feel funny. If he says something that makes you laugh, tell him. Let him know if you think he’s funny, smart, or clever. We all love a little compliment now and then. 

Let Loose A Little

Letting loose doesn’t mean that you send pictures you’re uncomfortable with sending. You should never feel bad about saying no if he asks for pictures you don’t want to send. But if you’re open to flirting via photos, then go ahead and take a selfie. Don’t be afraid to be honest. For example, it’s okay, and even funny, to say, “Sending this snap because the lighting was good,” or “I have nothing to say; I just felt pretty.” Send him a picture with your pet and say, “Who’s cuter? Be honest.” These things show confidence, and confidence is attractive.

With Snapchat, you can show off your looks by sending a selfie if you choose, so find a place with excellent lighting, flash your most genuine smile, and let your confidence shine through. You don’t need to make every snap perfect or send a perfect selfie whenever you flirt using Snapchat – just put your best foot forward and enjoy getting to know each other.

Challenge him to do goofy and embarrassing things, too. For instance, say, “What’s the ugliest face you can make?” and play with each other by sending ugly pictures back and forth. Make some inside jokes and send them back and forth. Send him pictures of things that remind you of him, like his favorite sports team or show that he likes. If you’re eating his favorite food, send a picture and say, “Jealous?”

Don’t Force A Conversation

If a guy genuinely likes you, he will probably try to reach out first. He will keep you talking. He will care about your life even if you are away on a trip or not immediately available for physical contact.

If your phone suddenly lights up once you’re physically available, he might just be looking for a sexual relationship. If that’s what you are also looking for, go for it! But if you want something more and you’re looking for a serious partner, don’t waste your time with someone sending you signals that they don’t want the same thing. Go out and find someone whom you’re more compatible with. Otherwise, you might end up feeling used.

Sometimes we fall in love with an idea of someone more than their actual person. When the real person turns out to be disappointing, we might still be blinded by the potential of the concept we’ve built around them. Letting go of that idea can be challenging, but doing so is important- first, because it will free you up to meet people whom you have natural chemistry with, and second because you don’t want to put pressure on someone who doesn’t want a relationship or isn’t looking for the same things as you.

If you are always the one starting the conversation, if you are always the one to ask questions and keep the chat going, and if you’re constantly getting left on read, then it’s time to let that person go. If they come back, then maybe you misread the situation. But if they move on without a second thought and leave you with radio silence, you did the right thing, and now you’re available to find someone you really like.

Not Everyone Is Comfortable With Flirting


Flirting comes down to a lot of listening and taking each day as it comes. Based on his responses, you can gauge what you want to do next or the relationship's direction. You can figure out if he’s interested, learn about who he is, and get to know him as a person, all just from listening closely.

If you end up with a long Snap streak when you flirt using Snapchat, you can also use it as an opening to take things to the next level. For example, you can say, “Whoa, look at our Snap streak! We’ve been talking for a long time. Maybe, we should hang out. What do you think?”

You can tease, make jokes, and play with inside jokes as you get to know each other. The whole flirting process, whether you flirt using Snapchat or outside of the app, should be fun and genuine. Remember, he wants to get to know the real you.

If you’d like to start flirting but feel insecure or want to brush up on your communication skills, seeking support is a great way to come out of your shell. Speak to friends and family if you’re comfortable doing so. If you feel the conversations should be more comprehensive, talking to a mental health professional specializing in dating, relationships, and intimacy is an excellent option. 

Professional counselors can do much more than help you hone your flirting skills- they can work with you to explore your personal challenges and cultivate overall mental health and well-being. Although therapy is beneficial in many ways, many people don’t seek the advice of an expert—the reasons for this range from the perceived stigma associated with talking to a counselor to financial concerns. 

Online therapy is an all-inclusive solution to barriers like these and more. Platforms like ReGain provide a resource for people to connect with therapists from all walks of life from the comfort of home on a schedule that works best for them. You can speak to a ReGain counselor via phone, online messaging, text, and video chat, often for less than conventional therapy without insurance. 

Virtual therapy is as effective as traditional models, as well. For example, many studies indicate that iCBT (internet-based cognitive behavioral therapy) is not only effective for treating most mental health issues and cultivating wellness, but the level of patient adherence to treatment was higher, too. 

If you’re ready to take the first step towards cultivating stronger self-esteem, confidence, and communication skills– the three critical aspects of a healthy romantic relationship– reach out to an experienced, licensed professional from ReGain. 

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