App Etiquette: How To Flirt With A Guy Over Snapchat

By: Corrina Horne

Updated August 03, 2021

Medically Reviewed By: Whitney White, MS. CMHC, NCC., LPC

Texting can be boring, and regular chats can be too direct. But Snapchat is a fun, low-pressure app with lots of opportunities for flirting.

If you want to flirt using Snapchat, you can add face filters, backgrounds, play games, chat, and take cute selfies, all accompanied with flirty little messages. That said, we all need ideas from time to time to make ourselves stand out to our crush. We want them to know that we’re clever and funny, after all.

There are lots of ways to flirt, so remember to be true to yourself, and don’t be afraid to put yourself out there. If someone is going to fall for you, they should fall for the real you, and that includes the goofy and embarrassing parts.

Flirting is fun! So, enjoy this opportunity to flirt using Snapchat. Maybe someday you and the person you’re flirting with will have a more serious relationship, and you’ll miss those early days when you were nervous and sending silly snaps to each other.

And the number one rule of flirting? Put the focus on the other person. This goes for flirting in person and when you flirt using Snapchat, too. Ask questions, and really listen to his responses with genuine attention and interest. Many guys who stop responding to someone say that they ghosted that person because he or she never stopped talking about themselves. If you ask a lot of questions and put the focus on the other person, he or she will get used to that attention, enjoy it, and seek it out later on.

Let’s talk about the best ways to flirt using Snapchat.

What Makes Snapchat Different

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A lot of communication is lost when you are texting, and Snapchat aims to make interactions a little more personal, despite the fact that it’s fast and easy to use. That’s part of what makes it unique and exciting when you flirt using Snapchat. When you flirt using Snapchat, you and your crush will get a rush from each notification and can send a quick flirtatious message almost whenever you want.

Part of why it’s efficient to flirt using Snapchat is that people are very visual. And if this person likes you and is paying attention to you, then your appearance might have something to do with that. Don’t be afraid to take a nice picture and remind this person how cute you are!

You can also use your facial expressions when you flirt using Snapchat in a way that the other person wouldn’t see if you were just chatting on a phone call or sending text messages. In that way, they can read your emotions better and pick up the subtle cues that you’d usually need to be face to face to see. When you flirt using Snapchat, you avoid miscommunication for the same reason; they can see your mannerisms, and if you send a video, they can hear the tone of your voice.

Snapchat is also more causal, so when you flirt using Snapchat, it takes a lot of the pressure off everyone. You don’t need to worry about awkward silences, or getting distracted. You can respond at your own leisure when you flirt using Snapchat, and no one is going to judge you for taking a while to open a message. In fact, that might even make you seem mysterious and busy in your off-screen life.

Because Snap is fun and casual for friends, you can get to know each other better in a more relaxed environment. You can play a game, or send little jokes to each other when you flirt using Snapchat or use it to talk to others in your life that you have a more platonic relationship with. You can make “masterpieces” on the screen, or send each other little Bitmojis. You can add someone to a big group of friends, or you can start an individual streak. There are plenty of opportunities to play with each other and hang out in a chill way.

How To Flirt: Make Him Laugh

Because Snapchat is used in casual friendships and more serious relationships, when you flirt using Snapchat, it opens up the chance for you to be silly. Snapchat will help you make those jokes by providing tons of funny filters that can make you look ridiculous – or just plain cute!

If you’re sending selfies when you flirt using Snapchat, don’t worry too much about trying to take the perfect picture. You don’t need to always look like a solid ten. Snapchat is a good chance for you to get to know each other’s likes, dislikes, and senses of humor, which is why so many people choose to flirt using Snapchat in addition to the fact that it’s fun and free. If you want the relationship to extend beyond the physical, then give him a chance to get to know your personality. Be vulnerable, be silly, and have some fun when you flirt using Snapchat or through any other modality.

This goes both ways. People love to feel funny. If he says something that made you laugh, tell him. If you think he’s funny, or smart, or clever, let him know. We all love a little compliment now and then. When you flirt using Snapchat, you can add special effects to your compliments and jokes – for example, you can use a filter that changes your voice if you want to come off as playful or don’t want to be perceived as being too forward.

1) Puns Are Your Friend

You read that right. Yes, puns are usually reserved for dorky dads. But being nerdy and goofy is very endearing! If he judges you for fun little puns, then he might be rude or boring and he did you a favor in showing his true colors. And if he teases you or laughs along, then he’s a keeper.

Use puns to tease him and play around. Have some fun with it.

At the grocery store, send a picture of the corn and say “Still not as corny as you.” Take a picture of a beautiful view and say “You know something even more beautiful as this view?” to make him think you’ll say him or you, then send another picture of the view from a different angle and say, “This other view.” Or a picture of a soda and say “You know the only thing sweeter than this Coca Cola?” Then another picture of your dessert and, “This ice cream.”

Play around to show that you’re paying attention. If he always uses the same angle, then take pictures from that angle and say “Why do you always use this angle?” Or you could say his Bitmoji is so cute, and send a cartoon of your Bitmojis flirting and say, “I think my Bitmoji has a crush on your Bitmoji,” and cover your eyes as if you’re embarrassed to see them.

These are just suggestions, and really it will be up to you to show your true personality and play with each other. Don’t be shy!

2) Let Loose A Little

Letting loose doesn’t mean that you send pictures you’re uncomfortable with sending, and if he asks for pictures you don’t want to send then remember you should never feel bad about saying no. But if you’re open to flirting via pictures, then go ahead and make them cute or sexy.

Try taking a mirror selfie. Just remember to clean the mirror first, and look at the camera not at yourself, as looking at yourself might come across as vain.

Don’t be afraid to be honest. It’s okay, and even funny, to say, “Sending this snap because the lighting was good,” or “I have nothing to say, I just felt pretty.” Send him a picture with your pet and say “Who’s cuter? Be honest.” These things show confidence, and confidence is attractive.

Challenge him to do goofy and embarrassing things. Say, “What’s the ugliest face you can make?” and play with each other by sending ugly pictures back and forth. Say, “You’re too handsome, it’s intimidating, can you take uglier pictures please?” And see what he says.

Make some inside jokes and send them back and forth. Send him pictures of things that remind you of him, like his favorite sports team or show that he likes. If you’re eating his favorite food, send a picture and say, “Jealous?”

Poke fun at yourself, too. Send him a picture of your car with a message such as “I hope you aren’t too intimidated but… I drive a 2008 Corolla. Don’t get freaked out.” If you have a job like teaching or nannying you can say something like “Not to brag but I can name a few 7-year-olds who think I’m hilarious.” Just don’t unnecessarily draw attention to things that he might not otherwise notice. For example, you don’t need to say, “Sorry my room is messy!” because he might not even notice until you point it out.

And don’t let the flirting stop when you start dating. Send him a picture of yourself before you hang out and say “I got all dressed up for you.” Or you could even ask for his opinion while shopping. Send him two pictures in different outfits and say “Which one do you like more?” You could do the same thing with different hairstyles while at home. Even if he doesn’t know what to respond, it shows that you care about his opinion and you want to look nice for him.

Go ahead and be forward. Send a picture of a nice restaurant and say, “So… When are you taking me here?” Send a picture of yourself brushing your teeth and say, “Such fresh breath and no one to share it with.” Send a picture of a scary movie and say, “I want to watch this but I’m too scared to watch it alone.” If he posts a story of himself doing something interesting, respond to say, “Will you teach me how to do this sometime?”

Send him direct messages. Don’t send him something that you also added to your story, and don’t send him a generic picture that you sent to everyone on your friends list. He will never know that you are interested until you give him some specific attention.

How to Flirt: Make Your Presence Known

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He doesn’t want to see a picture of your lunch. He wants to see you!

The benefit of Snapchat over text is that he can see your pretty face. Some say that men are more visually stimulated than women, so don’t be afraid to show off your best features.

Being beautiful isn’t just something that happens naturally. Being beautiful can have a lot to do with being healthy, taking care of yourself, and having confidence. Go ahead and send pictures with big smiles, and flirty smirks. Take advantage of when you look nice to take a lot of pictures, like when you just got your hair done, or you’re wearing makeup. Even if you feel ugly, you probably still look nice to him, so go ahead and send a picture of yourself. It shows a lot of confidence to place yourself in front of the camera instead of always sending images of objects.

1) Make Use Of Filters

Even if you aren’t looking cute today, Snapchat has thought of that, and that’s why they’ve provided us with an array of cute filters to clean you up even on your worst day.

Just be sure to not use filters in every picture when you flirt using Snapchat. You don’t want to change your face so much that he forgets what you actually look like in person! It also shows a positive self-image to show your true face, so remember that confidence is sexy.

You don’t always need to use the beauty filters when you flirt using Snapchat, either. There are some pretty funny and strange filters that can make a good conversation starter or help you to flirt using Snapchat when you’re feeling shy. Put a silly filter on your face and say “Still cute.” If he puts a ridiculous filter on his face, you can flirt by saying that you still think he’s handsome.

2) Play It Just A Little Bit Cool

Remember, this should be fun for both of you. Relax, and just enjoy the process.

If you want to flirt using Snapchat, do not message him about his location on the Snapchat map. It might seem like a good idea for a conversation starter, but it might make him feel creeped out to be reminded that you can always see his location.

If he doesn’t respond immediately, don’t heckle him about his response time. You probably wouldn’t want to receive a message like, “Why did it take you so long to reply?” either. It puts too much pressure on someone, and no one wants to be pressured into a love affair. When you flirt using Snapchat or anywhere else, it should be natural and fun.

When you’re taking pictures, don’t get so self-conscious that you only send along edited, beautiful, glamour shots. It looks like you’re trying really hard, instead of just letting your natural beauty and confidence shine through.

Don’t take too many screenshots, because then he might get embarrassed and stop sending honest photos.

And remember, that goes for the chat feature as well. The chat feature on Snapchat has the ability to save messages, and it will notify you if they were captured. Keep it light, and fun.

How To Flirt: Focus Your Attention

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To keep someone engaged when you flirt using Snapchat or in real life, you have to ask questions and learn about his or her life. Even if your relationship ends up remaining platonic, it shows a lot of respect to get to really listen to someone.

As you get to know each other better, it’s okay to ask personal or philosophical questions. This will deepen the relationship, and it also might show you if this guy really is interesting, or if you just like him for surface-level reasons. Remember, you aren’t just trying to impress him; he’s proving himself to you as well.

Don’t Snapchat and message so much that it takes you out of real life. If you are eating with someone else, it’s very poor etiquette to be on your phone. If you are driving, Snapchatting simultaneously can be extremely dangerous. Don’t risk your life or anyone else’s to flirt using Snapchat or to use your phone for any other reason. Put your phone down and enjoy the moment. It will make him less likely to take you for granted because you aren’t available any time he picks up his phone, and it will also leave him wanting more.

  • Don’t Create A Conversation

This important point sometimes doesn’t get enough attention. If talking to a guy feels like pushing a cinderblock through sand, then maybe he isn’t interested. If a guy really likes you, he will make an effort to reach out first. He will keep you talking. He will care about your life even if you are away on a trip, or otherwise not immediately available for physical contact.

If your phone suddenly lights up once you’re physically available, then he might just be looking for a sexual relationship. If that’s what you are looking for as well, then go for it! But if you want something more, and you’re looking for a serious partner, then don’t waste your time with someone who is sending you signals that they don’t want the same thing. Go out and find someone who you’re more compatible with. Otherwise, you might end up feeling used.

Sometimes we fall in love with an idea of someone more than their actual person. When the actual person turns out to be disappointing, we might still be blinded by the potential of the idea we’ve built up around them. Letting go of that idea can be hard, but it’s important to do so. First, because it will free you up to meet people who you have real chemistry with, and second because you don’t want to put pressure on someone who doesn’t want a relationship or isn’t looking for the same things as you.

If you are always the one starting the conversation, if you are always the one to ask questions and keep the chat going, and if you’re constantly getting left on read, then it’s time to let that person go. If they come back, then maybe you misread the situation. But if they move on without a second thought and leave you with radio silence, then you did the right thing, and now you’re available to find someone who you really like.

2) Recognize Your Audience

There are a lot of people who never have someone to genuinely ask them, “How was your day?” “Do you like your job?” “Are you feeling any better today?” Showing someone that you really care by dedicating your time and attention to them can go a long way, not just for sexual relationships, but in all relationships.

Really listen to what he says, and respond to him. That way, when you see his favorite animals, you can send him a picture. When you’re eating at his favorite restaurant or bar, or visiting somewhere he loves, you can reach out.

It could just be a short message. “I wanted to show you this place, I think you’d like it here,” with a video of your surroundings. “Which one would you buy?” with a picture of a display of cupcakes. Or “I really enjoy talking to you,” or “I wish you were here. These people don’t have a sense of humor like you,” or “How did your presentation go?” You never know when you’re the only person asking those questions and sharing those little gestures.

Flirting With A Guy On Snapchat

Flirting comes down to a lot of listening and playing it by ear. Based on his responses, you can gauge what you want to do next, or the direction in which the relationship will go. You can figure out if he’s interested, learn about who he really is, and get to know him as a person, not just an idea, all just from listening closely. If you end up with a long Snap streak when you flirt using Snapchat, you can also use it as an opening to take things to the next level. For example, you can say, “whoa, look at our Snap streak! We’ve been talking for a long time. Maybe, we should hang out. What do you think?”

As you get to know each other you can tease each other, make jokes, and play with inside jokes. The whole process of flirting, whether you flirt using Snapchat or flirt outside of the app, should be fun and genuine. Remember, he wants to get to know the real you.

With Snapchat, you have the benefit of showing off your looks by sending a selfie, so find a place with nice lighting, flash your most genuine smile, and let your confidence shine through! Again, you don’t need to make every snap perfect or send a perfect selfie every time when you flirt using Snapchat – just put your best foot forward and enjoy getting to know each other.

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