10 Cute Ways To Ask A Girl Out Over Text

By: Angela W. McShan

Updated August 03, 2021

Medically Reviewed By: Rashonda Douthit , LCSW

People often say that no one talks anymore, thanks to the wonderful advancements of technology. There is a lot to be said about technology. In fact, texting is a top form of communication. For one, it helps people accomplish some important achievements, such as asking a girl out. It may not be considered the most natural form of asking a person out, but it can work wonders when done correctly.

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Most guys become nervous at the idea of approaching a girl and asking her out. Choosing to ask her out via text doesn’t mean he likes her any less. Communication through text messaging can relieve some of the nerves that arise when you are nervous about something. Some men find it easier to ask a girl out over text because it removes the need for a personal encounter or possible rejection.

Here are a few steps to take to work your way up to asking a girl out over text.

The initial text is the equivalent of asking a girl out for the first time. You can’t just type the words ‘will you go out with me’ and hit send. You must be tactful in your text approach. After all, there is no tone in the text, and it’s important to make sure she’s impressed by your approach. Be playful and say something to make her smile if possible. Keep it light and consider mentioning something that you both are familiar with to ensure that she gets the point. The goal is to establish a string of texts that are light-hearted and positive in nature. This creates a good mood and opens the door for you to pop the big question, even if it’s only a date you’re asking for.

Keep the texts going to spark an interesting conversation. When you approach someone to ask him or her out, you never walk up, ask the question, and walk away. There is a great deal of conversation to engage interest. Texting should follow a similar protocol. You should strive to send a few texts that encourage her to share a bit about herself and her likes. Think about it, if she tells you her hobbies, favorite foods, or favorite things to do via text, planning a date will be easier. Utilize texting to get to the point of asking her out on a date.

The time has arrived, and you’re ready to ask her out. Once a point of interest has been determined or easily seen, it’s time to ask her out. It’s easy to remain in the conversation or getting to know each other phase for too long because it becomes comfortable. It’s okay to converse via text, but don’t avoid moving towards that goal if the goal is to ask her out. Texting is a quality means of communication, but it doesn’t replace personal interactions. You must remain in sync with your initial goal, asking her out.

The moment you recognize that the conversation has elevated beyond mere chatter, take the conversation’s tone in a different direction. Suggest that you meet sometimes. She’ll like the idea that you remember her favorite spot to eat or dessert shop and likely say yes to your asking. Don’t think about what her answer will be but focus instead on your plans for the date. Prepare to receive a “yes” answer before you even ask the question.

After she replies yes and agrees to go out with you, it’s time to start planning. The logistics are always the fun part of asking a person out. You get to try and plan the perfect date. However, it doesn’t need to be all that perfect. Simple is a good place to start on the first date. It gives you both something to look forward to on the second or possibly third date. While perfection isn’t necessary, you want to make sure the date is enjoyable for both of you. Once you’ve taken care of all the details and arranged an enjoyable date, text her and let her know that you’re looking forward to going out with her.

Now that you know the proper technique or approach for initiating the texts, it’s time to discover a few cute ways to ask a girl out over text. You don’t want to send a corny text after putting in such effort to learn the proper strategy.

Here are 10 cute ways to ask a girl out over text.

1. I’ve wanted to try this new restaurant, and they have your favorite food. What time are you free?

Assume that she’ll say yes. This is an ideal text to send after you’ve engaged in a few text conversations. Most girls will smile at the idea that you remembered something they told you, such as their favorite dish. Please make sure the mood is light before texting her this question and not opening the dialogue. Lead into the question instead.

2. Good morning, are you free for lunch?

It may seem simple, but many girls like to receive “good morning” texts. It shows that they’re on your mind or that you care enough to send a text first thing in the morning. Don’t worry if she doesn’t text back right away. Keep in mind that schedules may conflict, but if she’s interested, you should hear back from her by the end of the day at least.

3. How’s your day going? Would you like to have dinner?

Show her that you’re interested in what she has going on by asking about her day. Too often, guys send short texts with no substance. Engage her thoughts and emotions by being cordial and caring simultaneously. Girls appreciate guys that care and show interest in their daily activities.

4. I hope you rest well tonight. Would you like to meet for coffee or breakfast in the morning?

The “good night” text should be sent after you’ve been communicating via text for a while. However, saying good night is a great way to lead into asking her out casually. Make it a point to say something more than good night but indicate the same, such as I hope you have a good night or rest well tonight.

5. I’m so proud of you and can’t wait to see you. Let’s go out and celebrate!

Congratulatory moments are one of the easiest and less intimidating ways to ask a girl out over text. Keep in mind that you don’t want to make it sound too casual. Your goal is to let her know that you’re interested in her and want to date her. Make sure to include how excited you are for her and that you’re proud of her accomplishments.

6. I’ve missed talking to you, let’s get together for dinner.

This is a great way to reintroduce yourself into her life if communication has been non-existent lately. Be clear about your feelings, and it’s okay to say that you’ve missed her. This lets her know that you like to spend time with her and miss doing so.

7. I enjoy talking and texting with you and would like to take you out.

This is a straightforward text that explains exactly what you want. There’s no beating around the bush or sugar-coating at all. You state your intentions and await her reply. Girls appreciate honesty and a guy who can express himself. This is a form of pure self-expression at its best.

8. I have an extra ticket to that movie you wanted to see. What time should I pick you up?

Now, you may not already have the ticket, but it leads to opening the door to a movie date. If you know that she likes going to the movies or she’s mentioned once that she’d like to see, go ahead and text her to make it a date.

9. I have this event coming up and would like you to accompany me.

If you’ve received an invitation that includes a plus 1, ask her to accompany you. It may be a wedding, dinner, or other formal affairs. This sets the pace for a second date because attending an event is less intimate but still considered a date.

10. My family is getting together this weekend. I’d love it if you’d join me.

Inviting a girl to spend time with you and your family is big. It would be best if you only introduced her to the family once you’re exclusive unless she’s already familiar with the family. Having her around you and your family allows her to see you in genuine form. She can see what type of person you are and find out what’s important to you in life.

After you’ve successfully found cute ways to ask a girl out over text, you can’t stop there. Of course, asking her out should come easier after the first couple of dates, but it’s important to continue communicating with her, even via text. Most people prefer to text than to talk over the phone. Girls often complain that they send lengthy heartfelt text and receive a single-word reply or nothing at all.

Sometimes men have things they want to say but are not always sure what to say or respond to in a text. Remember, it’s always best to say something as opposed to nothing at all.

Here are a few text ideas to get you started and keep you going along the way.

• Hello gorgeous! I hope your day is as great as you are.
• You’ve been on my mind a lot today, and I wanted you to know that I’m so glad you’re a part of my life.
• I hope you know just how much you mean to me.
• I know we just saw each other earlier, but I can’t wait to see you again.
• I hope you know that you’re more beautiful each time I see you.
• Just in case I don’t tell you enough, you bring me so much joy.
• I’m so glad we met.
• Thank you for always listening to me and giving me the best advice.
• I like that we can talk to each other about anything.

How to Let Her Know That You Want to Date Exclusively

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After many texting and a few dates, you may be ready to take it to the next level and date exclusively. It’s sometimes difficult to come right out and ask her, but it can happen. If you want to become exclusive, you should never let her know via text message.

There are several reasons that a guy decides he wants to be in a committed relationship. Following texts, dates, and meaningful conversations, it’s common to want out or want more. If you want more and are unsure how to let her know, you should consider the following.

• She may be anticipating the moment that you become exclusive but waiting on you to take the initiative.
• You’re likely already doing most of the things that exclusive couples do but without the label.
• You already know a lot about her and making it exclusive is a sign that you’re not interested in getting to know anyone else.
• You’re not obligated to date exclusively. If you don’t feel that it’s right for you, don’t present it as an option.

Texting can be relaxing and should be used for casual communication only in dating or relationships. While asking a girl out over a text is easy and works great, it can be misleading because there is no tone. Make all texts clear and try to avoid asking any open-ended questions.

If you are interested in someone but not sure how to approach them because you’re afraid of rejection, you should strengthen your communication skills. Some people miss out on the best moments of their life because of their fear of communicating. A professional therapist can help with overcoming anxiety or communication issues.

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