10 Cute Ways To Ask A Girl Out Over Text

Updated May 21, 2024by Regain Editorial Team

The world of dating is ever-evolving, and communication platforms have grown with it. There are many socially acceptable ways to ask a girl out, whether in person, through online dating, or through text. In this article, we’ll explore different ways to ask a girl out over text.

Unsure how to approach someone you like?

It is estimated that 81% of Americans text regularly, making it unsurprising that many people utilize text messaging and dating apps to ask people out on a date. In most circumstances, asking someone out through text is appropriate, and there are several ways to go about asking a girl out on a date. 

10 clever ways to ask a girl out through text

If your crush has given you her number and you want to ask her out, you can get a conversation started through text. After sending a few texts back and forth, you may be able to get a sense of whether she’s interested in you. If you’re unsure how to tell, try answering these questions: 

  • Does she respond to your texts with engaging messages? 

  • Does she ask questions about you? 

  • Does she use enthusiastic language? 

  • Does she readily share information about herself? 

  • Does she ask you about your future plans? 

If the answer to most of these questions is yes, it may be more likely that she’s interested in you. If you think she likes you but you’re not sure how to ask her out, consider some of the following examples: 

  1. “You said you like vegan food? There’s this new place that just opened around the corner, want to check it out this weekend?”  

Remembering what she’s told you about herself, like her dietary preferences or restrictions, demonstrates that you were listening. Plus, a new restaurant can be fun for a first date because you can both share a novel experience together. 

When you’re meeting someone for the first time in person, always pick a public location.

  1. “What are you up to later this week? Want to grab a drink on Friday or Saturday?”

It can be nice to give someone multiple options for dates and times. It’s possible that she’s already busy on Friday, but she might be available on Saturday.  

  1. “I’m headed to see that new Wes Anderson film with some friends Thursday night, want to join?”

If you’re asking someone out who’s new to town and doesn’t have many friends in the area, it can be nice to introduce her to some of your friends. Additionally, going out in a group can be less intimidating than a one-on-one date. 

  1. “I lucked out and just got tickets to the Kendrick Lamar show next week, I remember you telling me you’re also into hip hop? Want to go with me?” 

Remembering a shared interest—like baseball, standup comedy, or painting—can be handy when you’re thinking about a first date activity that you’ll both enjoy. She will probably appreciate you remembering her interests and asking her out on a first date you think she’ll enjoy. 

  1. “Congrats on getting the job, let’s go out and celebrate some time!”

Congratulatory moments are one less intimidating ways to ask a girl out over text. If she’s just graduated, had a birthday, gotten a job, or gotten promoted, you can help her celebrate the achievement on a first date. 

  1. “Hey, I’ve been really busy with a work project lately, but I’d love to go out to dinner when things settle down. Free next week?” 

If you haven’t been able to communicate with your crush lately, you can let her know you’re still interested and make plans for a future get-together. 

  1. “I’ve really enjoyed getting to know you better. Any chance you’d be interested in grabbing dinner or a glass of wine later next week?”

Online dating and texting can make people feel insecure and unsure. Letting someone know that you enjoy their company may help improve their confidence and reduce anxiety. Offering an option for a more formal date (dinner) and a more casual meetup (grabbing a drink) is considerate. It allows your date to choose based on their comfort level and availability. 

  1. “I do these volunteer events on weekends. I really enjoy them and think you might, too. Want to meet me there on Saturday and maybe we could get lunch afterwards?”

Research shows that volunteering can improve both physical and mental health. Volunteering together can make you both feel better, and it provides an opportunity for a unique first date. After spending time together volunteering, you may be more comfortable around each other and have a shared experience to talk about over lunch. 

  1. “My friend is getting married next month, and I’d love to have you come as my date if you’re interested.”

Formal events can be an enjoyable place for a first date. If you’re introducing her to your friends, she’ll have the opportunity to get to know you better, too. 

  1. “So, you said you haven’t been to that art gallery on Main Street? It’s really cool, I’d love to be your tour guide there next week if you’re free!”

An art gallery can be a nice place to spend time together with less pressure for constant conversations. If you enjoy hanging out together at the gallery, you could extend an invite to grab tea or window-shop afterwards. 

Unsure how to approach someone you like?

Consider seeing a therapist

Texting can be stressful, especially if you’ve been ghosted in the past. If you cannot bring yourself to ask someone you like out on a date, it could be a good time to work on your own self-confidence. 

A 2018 meta-analysis found that one type of therapy, called cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), can improve self-esteem, and reduce symptoms of depression in many people. Additionally, 2022 pilot study found that internet-based CBT can effectively improve self-esteem for young people, in addition to reducing symptoms of anxiety and depression. 

If you find it easier to talk about your emotions without a therapist physically present, you may get more benefits from online therapy. Licensed online relationship therapists, like those available through Regain, can help you work to improve your relationship, quality of life, and sense of self.  

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Asking a girl out over text messaging can be intimidating. Starting a text conversation to gauge her interest can be a good first step. When you’re ready, you may want to consider asking her out to a casual social outing, or recommending an activity that you both enjoy. If you’re finding it difficult to talk to your crush, it may be helpful to reach out to a licensed therapist. Online CBT therapists can help most people improve their self-esteem and reduce symptoms of anxiety and depression, which may in turn make it easier to put yourself out there.

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