What Makes A Guy Attractive? 20 Physical And Personality Traits
Updated November 22, 2019
Reviewer Cessel Boyd
It is no secret that the dating world is fraught with perils, and when you are not found attractive by women you are going to have a much harder time finding a partner for either short-term or long-term relationships. But what do women find attractive? Attractiveness goes far beyond physical attraction, although that is a large part of it in the beginning. However, there are many other behavioral and psychological traits that women also find attractive.
Traits Of Attractiveness In Men
There are several traits that women find attractive in men. Some physical traits have more to do with personal style and preference than they do physical features like cheekbones or eyes. Much more important than these physical traits are the physical traits that a man can control such as facial hair and clothing. Personality traits are often much more attractive to women than physical traits. Here are the most common physical and personality traits of men that are attractive to women.
#1 Facial Hair
Although many men prefer not to have facial hair because it is a pain to keep trimmed and can be itchy, studies have found that women are much more attracted to men with facial hair. You don't have to have a full-grown beard to be attractive, though. Even some kempt, or unkempt, stubble is considered attractive.
Today's society and dating world have gone into a hookup culture in which people seem to be more interested in casual sex and dating than they are in finding people to make a connection with. When a man is sincerely wanting to get to know a woman and is making an effort to be sincere in their interactions, it is a real turn-on for women because they don't get sincerity very often.
#3 Ability To Tell A Good Story
The ability to tell a good story is very attractive to women. Women love it when a guy can get involved in telling a story about something they did with the guys or an interesting event in their lives. Being a good storyteller also means that you are a good communicator, and this is a huge trait for women that turns them on.
#4 Body Hair
While men prefer their women to be smooth and without body hair, women find the opposite attractive in men. In fact, women prefer men who have a bit of body hair, although you don't want to let it get out of control. A little bit of chest hair poking up out of a slight v-neck shirt can go a long way toward making you attractive to the right woman.
#5 Signs of Physical Activity
It's no secret that men look at women's legs and use that as a trait to determine attractiveness. But legs are important to women too. Developed calf muscles are something that women notice. Developed calves are sexy because they not only look good; they mean that you are physically active. Toned chest, shoulders and arms are evidence that a man is physically active and cares about his physique. These toned areas of the body are easily noticed through clothing and are appealing to women.
#6 A Feminine Side
Women find men attractive when they like things that are not traditionally masculine. Showing your feminine side, a bit can land you additional dates and help you seem more attractive to women. In fact, women find men who find traditionally feminine things interesting very attractive if it means that the man is confident enough in their sexuality to be willing to show their true interests.
Believe it or not, your hands say a lot about you and your lifestyle. Women are obsessed with their hands. It might seem kind of silly, but hands are attractive. If you have large warm hands, this can be a turn on because the woman will imagine those hands on her body. If you have muscular and calloused hands, it shows that you are a hard worker, which is also attractive.
#8 Sense Of Humor
Women love a man who can laugh and make them laugh in return. Women find men who have a good sense of humor much more attractive than men who do not laugh much. In fact, guys who tell a lot of jokes and funny stories are going to be much more attractive than men who don't. Men without a good sense of humor often come off as simply boring and not worth the effort.
#9 Being Into Music
Women find men who are really into music very attractive. If you have some favorite tunes that are not in the top 40, you have a much higher chance of being attractive to a woman. Even if the woman doesn't share your musical interests and doesn't like the songs you play for them, the fact that you have a diverse taste in music is enough to make you attractive to them.
Intelligence is sexy, no matter what your gender or preferences. You don't necessarily have to be a massive brain or a huge nerd to turn a girl on, but you do need to be somewhat intelligent and able to carry on an interesting and equitable conversation. The more tidbits of random knowledge that you know, the more attractive you will be as well.
#11 Men Who Smell Good
While body odor in the way we think of it is bad, a certain smell to a guy is attractive. Some men have an amazing natural scent that is a huge turn-on for women, more so than colognes. Although colognes and other scents can also heighten a woman's interest in some cases.
#12 Good Hair
It's no secret that men like long hair on women, but did you realize that the same is true of women to men? Women love a guy with a full head of hair because it gives her something to grab onto. Although some women indeed prefer bald or shaved heads, it is a general rule that women like a man with good hair. If you have good hair, make sure it stays up to par with good hygiene habits and using hair products that are good for your hair rather than just cheap.
If you volunteer for a local charity organization, little league team, church, or other organization or group, you are much more likely to be attractive to women. Women like a man who is willing to give their time and energy for a good cause. It shows that you are kind, gentle, and care about your fellow man.
#14 Showing Passion
When a man shows passion about something specific, it is a real turn-on. Women are attracted to men who have a passion for something that they are really into. For example, if you have a nerdy obsession with comic books or a particular comic book character, you might think that this is a turn-off. But really if you are passionate about it, and that passion can be seen when you broach the subject, what might seem like a nerdy obsession becomes a trait of attractiveness.
#15 Work Ethic
Women want to know that they are interested in a man that can provide for them. Although women can and should be able to take care of themselves, they want a man who can take care of them if they need it. This means that a good work ethic can go a long way toward making you attractive to the right woman.
#16 Having Confidence
Women find confident men very attractive. If you have confidence in yourself, you are much more likely to come off as attractive to the women that you interact with. Being shy and indecisive or appearing weak in some way will not make you attractive. You should be self-confident, regardless of your other personality or physical traits.
#17 Being A Gentleman
Being a gentleman is about more than just opening doors and pulling out chairs. Being a gentleman is also about basic manners, saying please and thank you, and being generally respectful. Flowers or chocolates for your date can go a long way toward making you attractive to them.
A man who has integrity and is willing, to tell the truth, and be honest even in difficult situations is very attractive to a woman. Integrity is important, because if you have integrity and you are honest then it means that you are much less likely to cheat on them and you are more likely to be faithful and respectful.
#19 Dominance Or Prestige
In a recent study, it was asked whether women are attracted to dominant men or prestigious men. Dominant men are those that are behaviorally attractive or those that have eye contact, dominant body language, and overly masculine. Prestigious men are more psychologically attractive and are unique in their appearance and style. Women looking for short-term relationships are more attracted to dominant men; white women looking for long-term relationships are more attracted to prestigious men.
#20 Benevolent Sexism
Women have come a long way, and as general rule women do not want a sexist man. Yet studies have found that women still find benevolent sexism attractive. Benevolent sexism refers to things such as opening doors, pulling out chairs, offering to carry heavy objects, offering to parallel park or other tasks that require skill, and other sexist maneuvers that could challenge a woman's ability to care for herself. While these things can be considered sexist, especially depending on the context, most women still find these things attractive.
Getting Professional Help
If you feel that you are not attractive to women and you are looking for a way to be more attractive and have lasting relationships, you might need some additional help. One of the keys to being more attractive yourself is to know what you find attractive and what you should be looking for in your interactions and next relationship. To that end, a licensed therapist or relationship counselor can help you gain focus that will help you in your next relationship. Contact ReGain, an online counseling platform, for more information.