How To Sexually Attract Men: 5 Tips For Making Yourself Irresistible

Updated November 23, 2019

Reviewer Lauren Guilbeault

Sexual attraction is an interesting feeling that may sometimes be difficult to predict or understand. Sometimes, there's instant chemistry, a physical attraction to another person, without you knowing much or anything at all about them. Other times, there is a bit of a pre-existing relationship where sexual attraction begins to develop.


Many women spend a significant amount of time trying to impress the opposite sex, grab their attention, and hope a guy will find her attractive. Women go through a rigorous grooming routine, plucking eyebrows, shaving or waxing just about every part of their body with hair, dyeing, cutting, and styling their hair, and then, of course, there's the issue of their personal style and wardrobe choices.

A lot of what women do is based around what men may find attractive. Most of the time, it seems like a complete shot in the dark. Is there a surefire way to sexually attract men and make them find you irresistible? In a world full of competition, is there a way to make yourself more appealing to men than the other women around you?

Readjust Your Thinking

Before we get into discussing some ways to make yourself more sexually appealing to the opposite sex, let's take a moment to restructure out outlook. We are fortunate enough to live in a time where female empowerment dominates, where strong, independent women are praised and looked up to. We no longer rely on the man to do everything for us, and we are go-getters.

While this is a truly powerful and modern way of thinking, when it comes to attracting a man, it may be helpful to try a different approach. This is not to say that you should put yourself down, but being a little less 'strong' will help make you less intimidating. Even though men are supposed to be the stronger sex, they do have feelings, and they are fearful of rejection.

It may be difficult for powerhouse women to readjust their way of thinking when it pertains to dating and attraction, but it will go a long way towards the bottom line.

Men Are More Sexually Attracted To Vulnerability

This may not come off sounding great, but men tend to be more sexually attracted to women they can exploit. This is not always intentional; some do this subconsciously. When women display any attributes that make them appear vulnerable (youth, immaturity, intoxication), men tend to find them more attractive and are more motivated to pursue them. Simply asking for their help or playing the role of the stereotypical damsel in distress will gain more of a man's attention. They enjoy feeling necessary. Men like the notion that because of whatever vulnerability, the woman will be easier to go after sexually.

According to a study by Goetz et. all, women who are perceived as intelligent or shy were perceived as less exploitable, and so, less attractive for short term relationships, though they were rated highly in terms of long-term relationships. What this shows us is that men enjoy the idea of being able to be in control be empowered, and have a woman in a position to bend to his will. Sexual attraction for the man is all about what he can get out of the experience. Vulnerability is sexy and enticing, while also giving them an advantage, making it an easier conquest, so to speak. If you're interested in gaining the sexual attention of a man, let go of your inhibitions a bit, loosen up, and give off an easygoing, vulnerable personality.

Go Out Alone


Every person must spend time with themselves and become comfortable with their own company. You're a great person. You should get to know yourself. Once you are comfortable and confident in going out to a bar or club alone, this can really help you attract a man.

We cannot stress this enough, even though many men give off this independent and 'couldn't care less' attitude, they are still vulnerable, even if they may hide it well. Women make the common mistake of going out in groups. This can be intimidating for some men. It's more difficult to approach a woman with a posse of spectators. There's not only the possibility of rejection, but an audience to watch the entire thing happen!

Additionally, if you're out with a group of your gal friends, you're creating your own competition. You're surrounding yourself with other beautiful options, giving men way more than you to focus on. It's a double-edged sword.

To make things easier for men, go out alone. It will be easier for you to get men's attention, you'll be more approachable, and being alone does inherently give off a sense of vulnerability, which they will thrive on. Men are more likely to go after the woman sitting at the end of the bar alone than the woman sitting in a group laughing and having a good time. He's always looking for opportunities to save the day, be the hero, and come to your lonely rescue.

Accentuate Your Womanly Features


If you're looking for a guy to find you sexually desirable, the first thing he's going to notice about you is your physical appearance. This isn't necessarily to say wear a short-fitted dress and nice make-up. What a man finds physically attractive goes much further than this.

Physical attraction plays a major role in sexual attraction and chemistry. Evolutionarily, men are looking at more than just your chest and booty, even if it's completely subconscious. Men look for curves. Curves show men signs of fertility and health, both of which are signs of a good partner (a strong candidate for producing offspring). Even if you guys aren't looking for something that serious, the male brain is still naturally wired to desire a strong potential for having the most children to carry on his line. Consider wearing clothing that shows off your figure and accentuates your clothing. Appear youthful, but still adult. When he notices these defining features, he'll be instantly more sexually attracted.

Your Eyes Are Your Secret Weapon

So they say "eyes are the window to your soul," and we agree! Your eyes can be used to tell a man everything you're feeling, no verbal communication required. When speaking to a man that you're sexually attracted to, while it may feel more natural to shy away and nervously avoid eye contact, do the opposite. When you're speaking to him and listening to what he has to say, smile and look directly into his eyes, raise an eyebrow (playfully), change your expressions a bit, have fun with your eyes. Give him looks of intensity, wink at him, even.

If you happen to be interested in a man that you're not yet speaking to, you can use your eyes to get his attention. Try to capture his gaze and give him an intense, smoldering look while smiling to show interest. If he's also interested, he'll surely make his way over and strike up a conversation.

Psychologist Art Aron was interested in learning about the power of eye contact. He gathered dozens of men and women together at a lab at NYU. These people had never met previously. He paired them up and asked them to stare at each other, eye to eye, for two minutes. No words were exchanged between the couples.

Once the two minutes were up, a majority of the participants reported feeling attracted to their test partner. One couple even ended up getting married the following year.

Your eyes can say quite a bit, so use them in your war of seduction. Men love women with intense, sexy eyes. Spend some time practicing your best gazes in the mirror to get a feel for what looks best on you!

Pay Attention To Body Language


Your body language says a lot about how you're feeling. Sometimes, you're giving off signals completely subconsciously that may be turning men away. Be aware of your body language and use it to your advantage. If your arms are crossed or if you're turned away from the person you're attracted to, they may feel like you're not interested and become discouraged.

When speaking to a man, you're sexually attracted to, use open body language. Lean into the conversation. Keep your arms open and inviting. If you're interested, show him that you're willing to break personal space barriers by touching his arm, shoulder, or thigh. He'll feel more comfortable getting closer to you when you show him it's okay.

Show him your fun and flirty side with your body language. Men find hair flips sexy and seductive. If your hair is down, give it a good flip or twirl your hair with your fingers. These are signs men are usually more receptive to that show your interest in them. Smile and be playful to show that you have an easygoing side. This will make a man more comfortable when making his advances.

When it comes to an understanding of what attracts men, the primary thing to reference is evolutionary psychology. We may have come a far way from the days of the caveman, but even with our progress, much remains the same. We are still animals at our core, and attracting the other sex still works in an animalistic way, though it is masked in more mystery these days.

Focus on making yourself seem vulnerable and easy to approach. You'll never get anywhere if a man is too intimidated to make a move in the first place. Allow him to feel strong and dominant, which will give him further confidence. Be sure to accentuate your femininity. You can do this by showing off your curves, smiling, or even by twirling your hair. The more feminine and fertile you seem, the more a man's brain will tell him that you're attractive. Use open and inviting body language. Even if you're hitting it off, closed-off body language can cause mixed signals that turn him off.

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