Is The Cost Of Therapy Worth It? A Look At Couples Counseling

By Mary Elizabeth Dean|Updated July 12, 2022
CheckedMedically Reviewed By Wendy Galyen, LCSW, BC-TMH

Many couples who are considering handling their issues through couples counseling worry about the cost, and understandably so. Though times are changing (albeit slowly), many insurance plans still do not cover the cost for mental health services. Plus, the cost of counseling varies based on location, availability, and experience of the therapist you consult.

Fortunately, there are many excellent and affordable options for those who have a smaller budget. And there are also many expensive options for those who are looking for the best money can buy. No matter which end of the spectrum you are on, there is one thing that’s undeniable: the cost of therapy is almost always worth it. Here are some of the reasons why:

Unparalleled Support

Many people think that the support they receive from their loved ones is enough to get them through difficult situations. And while this may be true for some, the truth is that if you are having relationship issues, your loved ones may not be the most qualified or unbiased people to help you see these problems through right now. 

The advice and support from a trained therapist are unmatched. This is someone who has dedicated their lives to helping people just like you and your partner, and who has extensive education and experience. Countless hours of education and practice have gone into becoming a professional and an authority in mental health and relationship matters. There are many techniques that a couples' counselor can utilize that the average person is probably not aware of or able to utilize.

Another thing you risk by relying on someone who is not trained is getting the wrong advice. Although your friend or loved one may have your best interest at heart, they could still unknowingly steer you wrong. Some of the advice that you receive could even cause more harm than good. Relying on the words of a non-professional, you could end up putting your relationship at risk.

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Getting help from someone who knows how to help you find right things to do for yourself is imperative. The best thing you could do for your relationship would be to get the right help from the start. This way, you can avoid making things worse than they were in the first place. Seeing a couples’ therapist can help you and your partner apply positive changes and get back to a mutually healthy and fulfilling relationship much more quickly and easily than if you were to try to do so alone or simply by talking with loved ones.

Productive Conversation

Many people who seek out couples' therapy do so because of constant arguing. If you are having issues communicating, you may need expert help to get back on the same page again. The cost of therapy is worth it when you take this into account.

A couple’s therapist is very likely the best person to help you with this problem. It is not likely that you want to have just anyone come in and help mediate a conversation in your relationship. Even if you do, the disagreements we have with our partners are often kept private and you probably do not want to reveal the innermost workings of your relationship to others, particularly if they are not unbiased and experienced in such matters.

In couple’s therapy, you will both be given a chance to express your feelings and work through your problems. A couple’s therapist will carefully listen to both accounts of the issue without taking sides. They will guide both you and your partner in your conversations to be more productive overall.

Communication is the best tool you can learn to help your relationship and build, or rebuild, a strong foundation. You must be sure the person that you bring in to facilitate that is an expert. The problems that you and your partner have will need to be handled with great care to better ensure healthy preservation of the relationship.

Bedroom Talk

Lack of intimacy is a top complaint of those having relationship issues. If you are struggling with being intimate, a couple’s counselor can help.

Sex and intimacy can be fragile things in a relationship. When it comes to sex, the lack of regular sexual activity in a relation can be a warning sign that something is wrong. It doesn't necessarily mean that your partner is not attracted to you. It could be that they are dealing with an issue that you do not know or understand, such as depression or stress.

Therefore, it is so important to get the help of a professional. A trained couple’s counselor will be able to dig down to the root of the issue and apply the right resolutions. They will know how to conduct the conversation regarding sex in a way that is comfortable for everyone.

This is a great tool to have because, in our society, it can be so difficult to talk about sex. You will be able to relax with the help of a counselor because these conversations are nothing new to them. They will direct the conversation and can help both of you get back to a good place in intimacy.

For most couples, this has a ripple effect throughout their whole relationship. Displays of passion and love release serotonin, which creates a happy feeling in the brain and body. This can help remind the two of you why you chose each other in the first place. And sometimes, this can be enough to give you the morale to keep pushing, even when it gets tough.

When you take this into account, the cost of therapy is worth it. You will gain tools and understanding that will be invaluable to your relationship and happiness. You might even gain a stronger relationship along the way!

Treatment For Underlying Issues

There are times when issues in a relationship are not rooted with the relationship at all. If you or your partner has an underlying issue that is causing your problems, a therapist can help you get the help that you need.

A couple of examples of underlying issues that could be causing relationship issues but that are not a direct result of the relationship are anxiety or depression. If this is the case, it can be incredibly difficult to fix issues that have seeped into the relationship, because they are not themselves rooted in the relationship. It takes great patience, understanding, empathy, and sometimes professional help, and that’s okay!

Underlying issues such as these may need to be identified and treated by a professional. It is likely that once these are taken care of, your relationship will become better. Taking care of ourselves is of the utmost importance, whether in a relationship or not.

A therapist can guide you down the path of treating underlying issues while also dealing with relationship problems. There are some things that you can do concurrently with your partner and some that will need to be done independently as individuals. With the help of a licensed professional, you can determine which one applies to you – may be both!

Higher Success

If you’ve been having relationship issues for quite a while, going in to see a counselor or therapist is often significantly more effective than trying to ignore the problem. 

Therapists have worked with countless other families and helped them to reach a better outcome. They can assist you in ways that you would not be able to imagine. The benefits are tremendous.

If you want to give your relationship the best chance for survival, choose therapy. You don’t have to do this alone.

Homework

Couples therapy does not stop when your time in the office is up. A good counselor will give you homework to continue the work you are doing throughout the week.

These homework assignments will be custom-tailored to the issues you and your partner have. A therapist has valuable experience with common couples' issues. This ensures that they know what works to work through your relationship problems and what does not.

Finding A Therapist

Online Couples Therapy Is Less Expensive Than Traditional Therapy

If you have decided by now to see a therapist, your next step will be finding one.

The counselors and therapists at ReGain are fully accredited and equipped to help you. They have thousands of hours of experience handling relationship problems and will be a good person to have on your team.

The best thing about ReGain is its platform. Being entirely online, they are extremely convenient and easy to access. The cost of this option is a fraction of what you would see in an office. This makes it great for those that are working with a more modest budget.

You have all the tools and know-how now to make a good decision. Make sure the one you make is ultimately the right one for you and your relationship.

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