Should I Start A Relationship Blog? 10 Reasons Why Writing About Your Partner Helps

By ReGain Editorial Team|Updated July 12, 2022
CheckedMedically Reviewed By Audrey Kelly, LMFT

Thanks to the advances in technology, we live in a world where we can share our thoughts with the whole world through a blog. Blogs are mini-websites where people can post their opinions, articles, stories, photos, videos, and whatever else is on their minds. There are several pros and cons to blogging about relationship issues and wins. There are ways to approach writing about partner relationships that can be helpful to a relationship.

Communication has a great impact on relationships. If you're seriously interested in blogging, writing may be one of your favored ways of communicating. While it may be your preferred way to communicate, be sensitive to the fact that your partner may have a different way of communicating with others. He or she may not want the intimacies of your relationship shared with the rest of the world.

The term blog is a short version of the term weblog. Blogs can have several pages, but it's also common to have just one page. Blogs often have a title and a theme so readers can quickly assess if it's the type of blog that interests them. As the internet has grown and people have learned how to put up their web pages, blogs have gotten more recognition and merit.

What happens if the blog is a success and your relationship becomes a mess due to the things you choose to share, even if you're only sharing the wins? All is not lost. It just means that one or both of you may need a little professional guidance on making the blog, and the relationship cohabitates peacefully.

Why Blog? Does Everything Have To Be Public?

The simple answer is no; everything doesn't have to be public. The point of a blog is to express what you, as the writer and author, are feeling and thinking about. Depending on how you arrange your settings, your followers may also have an opportunity to respond to your writing. One of the great things about this is that they're nearly always genuine, honest, and forthright in their comments and opinions because they have the benefit of being able to post anonymously.

Writing a blog is an exciting journey. You'll love waking up to find that you've gained followers overnight and that they're interested in your content. You have a lot to learn from each other. Mostly, you'll learn that you're far from alone in experiencing many of the joys, challenges, and expectations as others worldwide.

10 Reasons Why Writing About Your Partner May Be Helpful

Besides writing a blog for your purposes, there can be many benefits to writing about partner relationships. If you're in a thriving, healthy relationship, you're learning new things about each other every day. Why not share those things with your readers? And why not listen to what they have to say in response?

Take a lot at ten reasons how writing about your partner can enhance your relationship:

  1. It will strengthen your friendship. If you're writing about your partner regularly, it sends a clear message to them how often they're really on your mind. This is the basis for a deep and thoughtful friendship, which is a good foundation for all romantic relationships.
  2. It gives you a voice. Have you ever thought about how much easier it is to say things to a friend about your partner rather than talking directly to them? When you write things down, it allows you to communicate openly.
  3. It will help you problem-solve. Every relationship has conflict and differences of opinion. The goal is to resolve those conflicts compassionately and effectively. As you describe conflicts and challenges, your readers will chime in and share how they resolved those same conflicts. Blogging is a great way to pick up some valuable advice.
  4. It makes your exchanges more meaningful. Often, we tend to communicate only part of what we want to say. Writing a blog allows you to dig a little deeper and explore things in more depth. Once the issue is in writing and your partner reads it, it opens a new, deeper conversation about it.
  5. As you become more open and vulnerable with your followers, they will also be vulnerable and share their experiences with you and your followers. Having shared experiences and talking about them will bring your followers and your partner closer to you.
  6. You can use your blog to honor and encourage your partner. Your blog is a good place to write your partner a love letter or share how various other writings made you think of them.
  7. Writing a blog is sort of like writing a long, focused letter where you can go into greater detail than you would in a conversation or a short note. Who doesn't want a letter dedicated especially to them?
  8. Blog writing also serves as a way of being self-reflective. Through writing, we're learning about ourselves and others. Each of us is a work in progress. Over time, writing demonstrates our journey toward personal growth. Personal growth is certainly healthy for your relationship.
  9. Writing gives your partner a chance to understand your thoughts more fully. When you send a text or email, you're likely to get one back just as quickly. When your partner reads your blog, you're less likely to get a quick response and more likely to get a response that meets the thoughtfulness of your blog writing.
  10. Both of you will look forward to what the next blog posting will bring to the relationship. Over time, you'll come to treasure the opportunity to share your innermost thoughts.

What Do The Experts Say About Blogging About Your Partner?

Blogging, and specifically blogging about your partner, is a new phenomenon. There haven't been any studies done to date that explore the impact of relationship blogging on relationships.

There have been studies completed on other types of communication between couples, such as texting. Also, researchers have performed studies that analyze the health of partner relationships when they bring certain facets of their relationship out into the open.

For example, a recent study shows that couples that send texts too often can inhibit communication in relationships.

In another study which was later popularized by the article 'To Fall In Love With Anyone, Do This,' psychologists paired up strangers and asked them to ask personal questions to each other. The experiment showed that "escalating, reciprocal, personalistic self-disclosure" brought strangers closer together. That speaks volumes to the level of intimacy that partners can create when they practice communicating with a greater degree of closeness.

Relationship bloggers should always be aware that their partner may not accept the spirit in which a piece was written. While this may be an outlier, your partner's feelings are still valid, and it's important to acknowledge that. Couples therapy can be helpful when a blog post caused a little tension or the feeling that something is a little "off." Even when things are going well, couples' therapy can incorporate your blog writings into your sessions to help you be vulnerable and open up about the deeper issues with the relationship. Counseling sessions by a licensed counselor through ReGain offer a safe space where both of you can explore your relationship with each other and the impact of a relationship blog on your relationship.

Tips For Drawing Healthy Blogging Boundaries

Every healthy relationship should have boundaries. Don't make the mistake of assuming that you know where your partner's boundaries are. Blogs are public writings that are open to the world. As much as your relationship must gain from blogging, there is just as much to lose.

The topic of boundaries will need to be an ongoing conversation. What aspects of our relationship are you comfortable with others knowing about? What would things make you uncomfortable to share publicly? What are some things that you both agree would never be told? Don't be surprised if your partner's answers don't match up closely with yours.

As a rule of thumb in relationship blogging, it's always a good idea to focus on the positive. Refrain from sharing anything that you wouldn't say if your partner were standing right in front of you. A relationship blog isn't the place to air your dirty laundry!

Tell your side and if your partner decides that he or she wants to tell their side, allow them a section in your writing for that.

Be aware that a public blog is open to the whole world reading it. Your friends, family, co-workers, bosses, and in-laws may read it and form judgments about you or your partner, whether you ever learn about it or not. Even one comment can go viral across social media outlets within minutes, causing you to spend days, months, or years doing damage control.

Remember, with the right approach; a relationship blog can uplift and enhance your relationship. Keep it focused and positive. Keep your partner in the loop. If it's not working out, it's easy enough to put your blog in a private setting.

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