When you think of love, you probably think of one specific type. You may recognize that the love you feel for a child is different from the love you feel for a partner or love interest, but you may not think about the many different ways that we love other people around us. It’s not all about the relationship we have with a significant other. It can also be about a great deal more than that. So what are the various types of love that are out there?
Eros – Sexual Love
When it comes to the love that we have with our partner, it’s comprised of partially sexual love. In ancient mythology, sexual love was a type of madness that Cupid, the god of love, causes us to feel. In fact, in many instances, Cupid is depicted as making people fall in love even against their will, yet the love is so powerful and passionate that there is nothing they can do about it. With this type of love, there’s a romantic aspect to it alongside the sexual aspect.
Philia – Friendship Love
That feeling you have for your friends where you care about them and enjoy having them around is a type of love. It’s a familial love that’s a little different from what you feel for a brother or sister, but closer to that than the sexual love we just discussed. It comes from a foundation of trust, companionship, and even dependability. We believe that the other person is good, pleasant, and useful, and therefore we have a sense of goodwill toward them. This can also coexist with Eros and in all healthy and strong relationships.
Storge – Familial Love
This is the love that you feel for your children, for example. This type of love is based on simply being there and being familiar. It has nothing to do with specific qualities, interactions, or even a sense of someone being good in general. This is a love that exists simply because the person is there. In a sense that you would love your children no matter what they may do, you will feel a sense of Storge’s love toward them. Love does not change based on actions or inactions from the individual.
Agape – Universal Love
If you have a religion or if you have a strong bond with nature or specific charities or organizations, you feel a sense of love toward them in a way that has nothing to do with familiarity, characteristics, or anything else. You feel the love in a general sense, and therefore, it is considered a separate type of love compared to everything else we’ve discussed. With this type of love, you feel a sense of altruism, and that altruism can lead you to feel important, helpful, and better about yourself in general as well.
Ludus – Uncommitted Love
When you feel a sense of fun in your relationship rather than a sense of longevity or purposefulness, it’s a Ludus type of love. This is the love that you experience when you’re simply having fun with someone and not attempting to form a long-term relationship necessarily. When you’re flirting and having some fun, even in a romantic way, this is the type of love you experience. Many might not even consider it a type of love at all, but it plays a role in your life and makes things more interesting, as long as both parties feel the same way.
Pragma – Practical Love
The best way to think about it is to compare it to the days of arranged marriages when couples would often not even meet before they were married. It is not an overly romantic style of love, but it is comfortable.
Philautia – Self-Love
This is a crucial part of your ability to live a healthy and happy life. Being able to love yourself, no matter what may be happening in your life, will always be important to enjoy your life. Being too full of yourself is not a healthy type of love, but neither is putting yourself down too much. It’s important to have a sense of belief in yourself and your abilities, status, and accomplishments that is balanced. Finding this balance can sometimes be difficult, but it relates to self-esteem, self-confidence, and overall physical health.
If you struggle with self-love or any other type of love, you may want to seek professional help to work towards a healthier future for yourself. Getting professional help can allow you to express your thoughts and feelings comfortably and healthily and allow you to start a healthy and happy future. Whether you are currently in a relationship, just getting out of one, looking for something, or just focusing on your wellbeing, it’s important to speak with a professional to find out more about the types of love and how they affect you.
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Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
What are the 8 types of love?
There were thought to be eight different forms of the word love by the ancient Greeks. These eight forms of love are just as relevant today and can apply to situations you experience in your own life.
What is the best type of love?
According to mental health experts, the best kind of love is self-love. Even though you may love the experience of romantic love, falling in love, or affectionate love among friends, at the end of the day, you deserve to love yourself too. Make sure to find time in your busy schedule for self-care. Research the love languages, and you can use your love language to find an activity that will make you feel good. Practice affirming statements if you find yourself experiencing negative self-talk or self-deprecation. Make time for a nice warm bath or massage, read your favorite book, rest, or exercise if you need to recharge.
What is the highest form of love?
According to Plato, the highest form of love is the love of wisdom, or what came to be known as platonic love. This kind of love is not necessarily reciprocated, nor is it romantic love. However, it may be widely regarded as the highest form of love because, unlike romantic love, it does not need reciprocation to be an enduring love.
Is there a word stronger than love?
There are almost no words stronger than the word “love.” When you’re falling in love, if you can’t wait for your partner to utter the words “I love you,” you may realize that your love language is “words of affirmation.” If this doesn’t sound like you, you may align with one of four other love languages. The love languages include words of affirmation, physical touch, receiving gifts, quality time, and acts of service. Determining your most used love languages can be a great way to deepen your romantic love. For more information on love languages or determine which you align best with, visit the five love languages web page.
Is it true you have 3 loves in your life?
Many people say that we only have 3 loves in our lifetime. While this is true for some, it does not speak for all people. You are the only one who can determine when and with whom you fall in love. This theory also fails to emphasize the many other kinds of love one can feel aside from romantic love. You can love your friends, family, pets, nature, hobbies, work, and more. There is no need to limit the way that you feel love.