Adult Role Playing Games For Your Sexual Health

By Joanna Smykowski|Updated June 22, 2022
CheckedMedically Reviewed By Robin Brock , LISW

Sex is a huge part of life. It is a way to express emotion, satisfy a need, and procreate. Sexual health is important for your well-being.

But what is sexual health? What falls under that umbrella term? According to the World Health Organization, “Sexual health is a state of physical, mental, and social well-being about sexuality. It requires a positive and respectful approach to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence.” This means a variety of things. Unfortunately, sexual health is often seen as a topic that almost has a negative connotation. Many people view sexual health as the absence of bad things that can happen when sexually active. Sexual health is associated with sexually transmitted diseases, sexual violence, unplanned and unwanted pregnancies, and other types of infections.

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While this is all true, there is a more holistic way of viewing sexual health. There are emotional and mental components to sexual health as well as physical. The way you view sex is important. Does sex trigger something terrible for you? If that is the case, then it is not at healthy levels. Sex and your sexual life should be looked at positively as related to your mental health.

Your physical health regarding sex is important as well, which is why people associate infections and pregnancies with the term “sexual health.” However, sexual health is also about your ability to enjoy sex. You can do many things sexually, whether it is different levels of intimacy, different positions, or exploring new options. New options can increase your sexual health. How comfortable are you with your body? Are you exploring your sexuality? Are you exploring your options in the bedroom? Are you and your partner trying new things and spicing it up? You can try so many different things sexually, and keeping things interesting can add a new facet to your relationship and your sexual health.

Adult role-playing games are an excellent way to explore something new and increase your sexual health. Adult role-playing occurs when you and your partner decide to be someone else that you are not, add a little acting into the buildup, and have it lead to a sexual encounter. Much along the acting lines, you both can choose characters to be and act it out with each other. You are playing the roles that you normally do not play in your everyday life. It is a category of foreplay. You can make it simple and dialogue between you two that you do in the bedroom as foreplay. You can also go more in-depth into role-playing and your characters by getting costumes, dressing up, setting the scene, and acting it out. How and what you do with role-playing makes it fun, flirty, and always interesting. The options are based on your imagination, and therefore are limitless.

Acting Out Your Fantasies

The very basis of role-playing is acting out a fantasy that you or your partner may have. If you do not have any fantasies that you have pictured at some point in your life, you can also choose one that seems fun and may want to try. There are a ton of roles that you and your partner can pretend to be. Many of these may have come about through movies, books, or erotic films, but sexy stereotypes exist such as:
  • Doctor and nurse
  • Librarian
  • Secretary or receptionist
  • Delivery person
  • Mail person
  • Handyperson and househusband or housewife
  • College professor and student
  • Nanny and single parent
  • Boss and employee
  • Police officers
  • Construction workers
  • Model and photographer
  • Masseuse and client
  • Trainer/coach and trainee
  • Real estate agent and buyer
  • Actor/actress and casting agent/director
  • Political people of power
  • Businesspeople at a work conference or event
  • Strangers at a bar

Some fantasies exist from watching specific movies and sex scenes.

  • Any superhero combination such as Wonder Woman, Poison Ivy, Batman, Batgirl, Robin, Black Widow, Captain America, Iron Man, Spiderman, and Superman
  • Movies such as Star Wars. Princess Leia is a common fantasy, as well as acting out other sexual tension built up scenes.
  • Celebrity couples

Acting out these fantasies is easy. All that you need to do is shop around for the costumes for you and your partner. Whether you have had any experience in acting or not, role-playing is all about getting lost in the moment and being comfortable in what you are doing. Dressing up helps you get into the character you are about to play. In addition to costumes, you can have the scene be somewhere that is not your normal bedroom. If you are acting out the strangers in a bar fantasy, for example, that is a scenario that would start at a bar before leading home. While some of those fantasies by default occur in a home, others can happen anywhere, such as a hotel. Changing the scene from where your normal intercourse happens can add a new and exciting element to the role-playing game.

Once you have the scene, costumes, and setting picked out, you are ready for role-playing. From there, all you have to do is think of lines that your character would say to build up the sexual tension in your “scene.” If you need inspiration, you can re-watch the movie or show you are about to act out or reference other scenes. While it may feel uncomfortable or awkward initially, it is a fun, new experience for you and your partner. Once you let go of your inhibitions, it can be a lot of fun pretending to be someone else in another universe, living a different life.

Having A Game Guide, You With What To Do

Everyone remembers playing board games and card games as kids and even as adults. What you may not have known is that there are sexual games now. Available for purchase at sex stores and online retailers such as Amazon. There are role-playing games out there if you do not want to use your imagination. The die and the cards each have different sexy actions on there. You can play the game in its entirety, or you can keep the die and roll it whenever you please. The cards may have some of the role-playing ideas listed above, but having it directed to you instead of needing to come up with the ideas yourself can sometimes pressure you and your partner.

Communication And Consent

If you and your partner have decided you want to role-play, make sure you do it right. First, open a line of communication between you. Discuss what you both want out of the experience. This is also a good time to discuss any apprehensions you may have. Whether you have role-played before or it is the first time, being nervous can be normal. You both may have the same worries or completely different ones, and discussing them with each other can help ease that.

Having an open conversation also helps you decide what you want to do. If you are acting out one person’s fantasy, explaining to the other person what you want them to do for that fantasy to be fulfilled is part of it. However, both parties can still contribute ideas. You can be as detailed or vague as you want and either have everything mapped out or throw in improvisation.

Within this discussion should also be boundaries. If you are acting as people other than yourself, it is important to remember that you still are yourself. Discuss sexual boundaries that you have, and have a safe word if needed. Rape fantasies are a common role-playing fantasy, and if that is the case, it is important to have clear boundaries and consent. Consent should occur no matter the sexual experience, but if you are doing a rape fantasy, be careful about acting it out. Specific behaviors that are on and off the table should be communicated, and know that you can remember that you and your partner can revoke consent and end the sexual game at any time if you are getting uncomfortable.

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Role-playing games are a great way to expand your sexual horizons. There are so many fun scenarios to act, and it goes beyond what is discussed in this post. Your imagination is the limit, and role-playing is a gift that can continuously keep on giving. Being vulnerable and opening yourself up sexually in this way is always a step. If you find that it is not easy, or you and your partner want a third party to help you discuss how to proceed with role-playing, you can always look into couples or individual counseling with sites like ReGain.

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