7 Signs He Wants To Make You His Girlfriend

Updated December 8, 2022by ReGain Editorial Team

Men are typically the last to express their true feelings in a relationship, even at the start of one. They see it as less than masculine or somewhat mushy to display their emotions to their friends or love interest. Women are usually the opposite and openly express or display their interest in taking a friendship or relationship to the next level.

In some ways, men express their emotions without ever saying a word. It happens all the time! Communication isn't always easy for some people, especially guys. Sometimes, you can be in serious relationship for years before realizing the signs he doesn't want to marry you. It's not that men don't know what they want to say, but they don't always know how to put their thoughts into words. Just because he's not verbalizing it, doesn't mean that he's not telling you something.

Take note of the ways some guys express themselves through actions.

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1. Stays Close By Your Side When You're Out. If he tends to stay near you when the two of you are out socializing or at an event, he's showing you that he likes and wants to be close to you. Rarely will a man stay near a woman during a party or social event unless he's romantically invested in her. If your man is like this right now, then you're in luck. You don't have to wonder, "Does he want to date me?" Yes, he does!

When a guy isn't interested in you, he'll mingle with others and rarely come near you. You may even see him flirting with other women if he's not interested.

2. The Kisses Are More Intimate. A guy will kiss you differently when they are interested in making you his girlfriend. The kiss is usually softer with more passion, and he may even gaze into your eyes or embrace you while kissing.

A guy that's not interested in you will likely give you a soft peck for the sake of saying hello or goodbye.

3. He Brings You Tea Or Coffee Just Because. If he surprises you with a cup of coffee or tea, he wants you to know that he's thinking of you. If he recalls that you take your coffee with two sugars and no cream, he's paying attention to your likes and dislikes and cares about pleasing you.

This only applies to a guy that you've been dating and not the co-worker who gets drinks for every girl in his department.

4. He Holds Your Hand In Public. Once a guy begins to initiate PDA, he's expressing his genuine emotions and may be wanting more from the relationship. It's his way of saying, I like you and enjoy being close to you, wherever you are, and obviously this is one of the best signs he wants to date you exclusively.

5. He Always Includes You When He Socializes With His Friends. If he's doing something casual but always invites you to come along, it's his way of expressing to his friends that you're his girl and things are pretty heavy between you two.

It's important to pay attention to his expressions and actions when dating a guy. Some men aren't naturally expressive and find it difficult to say what they're feeling. If you're dating a guy and think things should be moving forward, but they seem to be at a standstill, make sure you're in tune to his actions.

7 Signs He Wants To Make You His Girlfriend

  1. He's No Longer Dating Anyone Else. If he's expressed to you in countless conversations that you're the only person he's dating, the two of you are unofficially exclusive. Once a guy stops seeing other women and devotes his time to only one woman, he's interested in establishing a relationship. This is one of the top 7 signs that he wants to make you his girlfriend.
  2. So you met him online, and the two of you hit it off instantly. After a few weeks, you've noticed that his dating profile is no longer active. What are you doing browsing? This guy wants to take things to the next level with you. This is of course if you've been actively dating him and he only sees you. This is a sign that you should strongly consider as a hint that you may be getting a boyfriend soon.
  3. He Plans His Days Around You. If he's constantly making sure you'll be available to attend certain events with him or asking your opinion on going certain places, that's a sign that he's trying to establish something more than the next date. Once a guy begins to consider you before making plans, he's already planning to establish a relationship with you. He just hadn't officially proclaimed his intentions yet.
  4. He Rushes To Apologize After The Slightest Disagreement. If you've had an argument with him and he usually initiates the apology, it's because he doesn't want to run the risk of allowing things to escalate and threaten the relationship. Guys that don't care about you will allow petty matters to fester and sometimes refuse to accept their role in things going wrong. However, those that rush to offer an apology, even when it's not their fault are usually eager to take things further in the relationship.
  5. He's Dedicating Most Of His Time To You. If you've noticed that his schedule has changed to include more time for you, that's a sign. In the beginning, he may have had Monday nights out with the guys or Tuesday evenings on the basketball court, but now, he's spending those nights and evenings with you, it's clear that he considers you to be more than just a friend he's dating.
  6. He Makes You A Priority. If he tells you that he wants you to call him if you need him, regardless of the time of day, he's into you. Once he begins to prioritize you over friends, work, and others, you're already a girlfriend. If he rushes to your rescue because you forgot to bring lunch or you're not feeling well and have to go to the doctor, it's a sign.
  7. He's Eager To Introduce You To His Parents. This isn't something that most men take lightly. Meeting his parents is a big deal and makes a loud statement. It shows that he considers you to be an important part of his life and seeks his parent's approval or wants them to see him with the person he's committed to in life. This is one of the most important of the seven signs he wants to make you his girlfriend.

This may also be a sign that's tricky to interpret if he lives with his parents. It's a growing trend for young adults to remain in their parent's homes longer these days, which means you may have an early encounter with the parents before a relationship is established.

It's important to enjoy the dating process and not allow your eagerness to give yourself or the relationship a title. This could ruin the experience for you and could push him away out of fear that you want too much too soon. Relationships go through phases, and each person should try to balance themselves enough to be in the same phase at the same time. While it is common for women to be ready for a relationship before most men, if the feelings are there, it will happen when it's supposed to happen.

Here are a few non-invasive ways to ask him where he sees the relationship going if you're not too sure what he's thinking.

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  • Where Do You See Yourself In Two Years? Asking this question should prompt him to give an answer that does or doesn't include you. If he expresses his desire to pursue career goals in a place that's not aligned with where you are or where your goals are set, he may not be considering you long-term.
  • Have You Ever Thought About Kids? Keep it vague and don't go in with a direct question that asks how many or when. With this question, you're seeking to see where he stands on the family dynamic. You're looking to see if he references you in his response.
  • What Age Do You See Yourself Getting Married? This one opens the door for a great opportunity. He may clearly express that he has no desire, that it's years from now, or whenever you're ready. This allows him to tell you his plans regarding marriage and hopefully, if those plans include you. Until then, you're still stuck with thoughts of thinking 'what makes a man want to marry you?'

When asking questions, be prepared to accept vague answers or those that don't include you at all. Remember, it's a plan to find out if you're part of his bigger picture. You may find that it's best to have these type conversations before your feelings for him are too deep to prevent from being hurt or let down.

Sometimes it takes longer for a dating relationship to develop into something more or for him to begin displaying either of the seven signs he wants to make you his girlfriend. Factors such as location, career, school, and other life dynamics have an impact on how soon or how long it takes a person to be ready to move forward in a relationship.

Do You Need Help?

Have you found it difficult to establish or maintain a healthy relationship with others? Are you experiencing feelings of inadequacy or low self-esteem that are preventing you from living a fulfilled life? You may need to speak to a professional counselor to help you approach these challenges in a way that is healthy and beneficial to your well-being.

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