The Pros And Cons Of Dating Multiple People

Updated April 4, 2024by Regain Editorial Team

The world of dating is certainly not what it was 50 or even 20 years ago. In today's age, many people are taking new approaches to date and relationships. There are, of course, debates about whether these new approaches are for better or worse. Either way, they're here and unlikely to go anywhere anytime soon. What's important is not to police how people choose to date, whether exclusively or with multiple individuals, but rather to inform people of certain dating styles' pros and cons.

Dating styles can be different for everyone

This principle is particularly applicable as it pertains to dating multiple individuals. In certain circles, this practice is viewed as taboo, and many people choose to abstain from this form of dating. However, some folks choose to date multiple partners; this comes with unique pros and cons. Determining whether the pros outweigh the cons (and vise versa) is an important choice that each person will have to make. Dating multiple people is not for everyone; however, each individual deserves the ability to determine whether this is the right path.

The pros of dating multiple people

Dating more than one person comes with some inherent benefits which people deserve to be aware of. Certain benefits will carry more weight than others; however, this doesn't make them any less relevant when dating multiple people.

Exploring your options

The ability to explore your options is one of the largest benefits of dating more than one person. Each relationship's dynamic will be inherently different; in many cases, people can have fun, learn more about themselves, and discover what they do and don't want in relationships. Dating multiple people may also keep things exciting for individuals who get bored easily or appreciate variety. If dating multiple people interests you, you owe it to yourself to explore the waters and see what is out there.

Learning more about yourself

No two relationships are the same. When you're dating more than one person, you will inevitably learn about yourself. You may find that one relationship brings out a certain part of yourself, whereas another relationship brings out a different side of you. Unless you're used to it, dating multiple people can require an adjustment period, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. In dating more than one person, you may have experiences and revelations that never would have come your way had you stuck with the more traditional dating manner. Regardless of how your relationships turn out, learning more about yourself will benefit you and allow you to grow as an individual.

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 Inspiring others

Many people wish to go against the grain but feel scared to do so due to fear of what others may say or think about them. Dating more than one person goes against the grain in many ways, and that's OK. By staying true to yourself and doing something that interests you, you may inspire others to follow suit. This may involve them dating multiple people or simply having the courage to step outside of their comfort zones, despite what others have to say. You never know who is watching you and what they're picking upon. Setting a good example and following what feels right to you benefits yourself and others around you.

The cons of dating multiple people

There's no denying the benefits associated with dating more than one person; however, it would be disingenuous to pretend as though there are no drawbacks. Dating more than one person will not be a good fit for everyone, and that's OK. However, before making your decision, it's only fair for you to be equally aware of both sides of the coin.

Disapproval from others

Going against the grain and following your heart despite what others think should always be lauded and encouraged. However, if relatives, friends, and others close to you don't approve of you dating more than one person, this can be challenging. It doesn't mean that you should stop what you're doing; nevertheless, you should be aware that external disapproval is a real possibility that comes with unconventional dating. This is something that you deserve to know as you go into dating more than one person.

Lack of acceptance from certain partners

Not everyone approaches dating in the same manner. As such, some people have no issues with dating multiple individuals; however, others believe in only dating exclusively and dating one person at a time. If one of your partners happens to be someone who doesn't believe in dating more than one person, this can be problematic. 

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Dating styles can be different for everyone

Of course, there is always the possibility that none of your partners will have any issues with you dating multiple people; if this works out for you, great! Still, certain partners' potential to have issues with dating multiple people is a real possibility that ought to be pointed out ahead of time.

Complications with deeper connections

At some point on your dating journey, you may develop an interest in developing a deeper connection. Dating multiple people does not automatically eliminate getting closer to someone; however, the dynamics complicate the process to a certain extent. If you do get to a point where you're interested in dating exclusively, ending the other relationships may be more emotionally difficult than you anticipated; then again, maybe not. Either way, it goes; you can't go wrong by knowing the potential complications of developing deeper connections when dating more than one person.

How should you date?

Whether you're dating one person or multiple individuals, your happiness and your relationship's health (s) are the most important factors. Any person that you're in a relationship with should treat you with kindness and respect. Dating more than one person does not change the general rules of having healthy relationships. Speaking candidly with your significant other(s) and feeling comfortable with all parties involved are both still very important.

If you don't have everything figured out as it pertains to dating, there's nothing wrong with that either. Sometimes, the answers we seek come to us when we least expect them. While dating more than one person comes with its pros and cons, this isn't something which you should feel as though you have to rush into. Taking all the time you need will benefit you in both the short term and the long term. There's nothing wrong with simply living your life and taking the time to discover who you are and what you want.

Sometimes, the best relationships in life come when you're not looking for them. This doesn't mean that you should close yourself off from dating; however, having other things going for yourself also will contribute to who you are as a person. The longer you live, the more you learn that relationships are truly meant to have a way of working out. We cross paths with people for a reason; those reasons are revealed in time more often than not. Trust yourself. Be OK with figuring out what you want. Keep an open mind.

If you're struggling with dating

If you find yourself struggling in the world of dating and relationships, this can be quite challenging and upsetting. However, the good news is that you are not alone. Confiding in people close to you or even in a therapist can work wonders. Talking to others has a way of helping you to get things off your chest. The bonus of getting additional feedback from other people can also be of value and help you find the right solutions.

Online therapy

Whether you're dealing with dating struggles or other issues entirely, one of the best ways to find help is to sign up for online therapy with Regain. Working with an online therapist is easy, effective, and convenient. Unlike more traditional therapy methods, you don't have to be burdened with making it to an office every week. 

Life can throw all kinds of challenges at us, but you should know that asking for help is one of the bravest things someone can do. Far too often, people are led to believe that strength means doing everything on their own. Of course, there's nothing wrong with independence and self-sufficiency; however, the ability to seek help when necessary is just as imperative.

Working with an online therapist will not make your problems magically disappear. However, it will contribute to your personal growth and ensure that you have the necessary tools to overcome challenges and come out stronger than ever.

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