Is Kissing On The First Date Okay? When To Know If It’s Appropriate

By Robert Porter|Updated May 2, 2022
CheckedMedically Reviewed By Wendy Boring-Bray, DBH, LPC

Getting ready for your big first date is something that might be making you more than a little nervous. Don't feel like you're alone. Many people get a bit anxious about a first date. There is so much to think about, and you want to make a good impression. You might even be wondering, "is kissing on the first date okay?" This is a somewhat complicated question, and you need to learn how to read the signs to see whether your date will be receptive to the idea.

First Dates Can Be Exciting But Overwhelming
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Take a look at the following information to get a better idea of getting ready for your first date. These first date tips will give you a bit more confidence, and you can learn how to spot signs that the person you are with is ready for that first date kiss. Once you've gone through everything, you should have a better idea of how to plan your date out. Take a deep breath and read on.

Is It A Date?

This might sound unusual, but sometimes people have difficulties determining whether they're going on a date or not. If you weren't using specific language when you asked the other person out, then you might be curious if they see your date as a real date. You want to make sure that you make your romantic intentions clear so that you don't accidentally cause an awkward moment.

Do what you need to do to let the other person know that you're interested in dating. It's always good to be clear from the get-go as to not run into little problems later down the line. Having this conversation before the first date also allows you to go into things with full confidence that your date is there for the same reasons as you.

Good Tips For the First Date

If you want some solid first date tips, then you need to think about what your date likes to do. Ideally, you should get to know your date through the phone or over text messaging a bit before going out. This will allow you to gauge their interests so that you can pick an appropriate first date activity. Some people like to stick with the tried and true dinner and a movie date. Others might want to spice things up a bit and try to do something memorable.

What type of person you're dating will determine what types of dates will wind up being a hit. Remember that thinking outside the box can be fun as well. You don't have to take them to a movie or go out to dinner. You could grab drinks, or you could invite them out to do something completely different. Some people like to do physical activities such as kayaking on a first date. Whether or not this fits your sense of style depends on you, but many first date ideas are to ponder.

The important thing is to pick something that you feel comfortable doing. You don't want to be out of your element and wind up having an awkward date because of it. If the other person might like fancy restaurants, but you know that environment would make you more nervous or uncomfortable, it might not be the right fit. This date's main purpose is to get to know your date and see if your click with them, so choose an activity or place where you can spend time together comfortably.

Should You Kiss On The First Date?

Once you've had a good date, it's time to start considering the goodnight kiss. Should you kiss on a first date? In some circumstances, it might be appropriate. It depends on how your date feels about it and whether you feel comfortable kissing someone that you're just getting to know. Some people are more comfortable about opening up to others swiftly. Others might not be comfortable with the idea of kissing until a second or third date.

If you're trying to determine whether your date is ready for you to kiss them, then you need to pay attention to the body language and signs. Try to read your date's body language to see if they are leaning in or encouraging physical intimacy.

Remember that some people won't be too comfortable with full-on kissing right away. It's also possible to take the half-measure of kissing your date on the cheek. This is a good sign of affection that isn't as intense as kissing someone on the lips. If you aren't too sure of what to do, then you could go in for the first date, kiss on the cheek, and see how they react. Otherwise, you could always end things with a hug, and ask your date if they'd like to go on another one soon.

Making Out On The First Date

You might be wondering about taking things further and whether that will send a bad sign. If you're thinking about making out on the first date, understand that this depends on your date and how they are feeling about the matter. If you had a great date and there was a lot of chemistry between the two of you, then you might feel the urge to make out with them. Some people like to take things slow and get to know who they're dating before they got this far, though.

Even so, you two are adults who can make conscious decisions of your own. If you're both comfortable with it and you want to go further, there isn't anything inherently wrong with making out after a first date. In fact, you might even consider that to be a rousing success. It means that your date went well and that your date likes you quite a bit. Or that they find you quite attractive, at the very least.

There are even people who go so far as to have sex after a good first date. You have your sense of morals and what two consenting adults decide to do in their own free time is up to them. 

First Dates Can Be Exciting But Overwhelming

Online Couples Counseling Is Available

If you hit it off with your date and wind up in a committed relationship, you might need some help somewhere down the road. Remember that online couples counseling is a good way to help you get through certain struggles. All couples will have problems with each other over time, and it can sometimes be tough to get over issues without the right help. This is why online couples counseling is so convenient.

Making use of online couples counseling is simple, and you'll be able to work on the problems that are harming your relationship. These licensed therapists can work with you individually, and they can also work with you as a couple. When you want to take your relationship to the next level, you should consider reaching out to the online counselors for assistance. You're able to reach out to them at any time, and it's always convenient to get counseling from the comfort of your own home.

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