Are You Dating A Workaholic? What To Do When Your Partner Never Has Time

By Robert Porter|Updated June 20, 2022
CheckedMedically Reviewed By Cessel Boyd-Lewis, LCMHC

Some people are incredibly committed to their careers. It’s admirable to want to succeed and continue to advance in your career, but putting so much of your time into work can negatively impact other areas of your life. If you’re dating someone who works a lot and never seems to have time for you, then you might be very frustrated. Are you dating a workaholic? If so, then you should read on to learn what you can do to try to fix things so that your relationship can thrive.

Talk To Him Or Her About Your Feelings

Feeling Neglected By Your Partner Can Be Painful
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Talking to your partner about how you’re feeling about things is the first step that you should take. If your significant other has been ignoring you and just focusing on work, then that is certainly going to make you feel bad. Some people get so wrapped up in work that they forget about other things that matter. Your partner might have lost sight of how important you are and will need to take stock of things.

Just realize that some people are so dedicated to their work that relationships will always come second. This can be frustrating, and you don’t necessarily have to accept this if you aren’t comfortable with it. Working hard is a great quality, but neglecting your relationships isn’t so good. Try to let your partner know what you have been thinking and see if you can understand things.

Appreciate The Time That You Have

Appreciating the time that you do have is very important. You might be dating a workaholic, but you still probably get to see him or her sometimes. Perhaps you only get to spend time together one or two days per week. If you can make those one or two days count, then it’s going to be a good thing. You have to try to make the most of what you’re given.

Some people work jobs with very hectic hours. Some people work twelve-hour shifts and are so tired when they get home that they immediately go to sleep. This isn’t ideal, but you can understand how difficult it is for the person working so much, too. This will be tough on both of you, and it might be necessary to make a change.

Ask If He Or She Will Consider Changing Careers

If the career is the problem, then you could ask if your partner will consider changing careers. All the money in the world isn’t going to matter that much if you don’t have any time or energy to enjoy it. If your partner is really a workaholic, then they might not be too open to the idea of changing jobs. They might like what they do, and they might be interested in continuing to advance in that career path.

If the career is causing so many problems for your relationship, then you might arrive at an impasse. You’re going to have to decide whether or not you can continue if things don’t change. If your partner can figure out a way to make more time without changing careers, then that might work out just fine. It’s also possible that your partner might be working too much and should consider their health. This largely depends on the situation, but you do need to be truthful about how you’re feeling.

Try To Make More Time For Each Other

Trying to make more time for each other is very good. If your partner is willing to make some changes to the work schedule to accommodate you, then that shows that he or she truly cares. It might not always be easy to make this time, but you should appreciate it when your partner makes an effort for you. Try to schedule regular times when you can go have fun together.

If you can at least make time to go on a few dates per month, then it can make your time apart feel bearable. You want to enjoy each other, and it can hurt when your partner is distant due to being busy with work. Just try to get more time and try to let your partner know that you don’t want to feel secondary to their line of work. You might be able to come to some agreement that will be satisfactory.

Consider Taking A Regular Vacation Together

Some couples can cope with one family member being a workaholic due to getting regular vacation periods. If your special guy or girl works all the time, then vacation days might accumulate. This could allow you to take a long vacation together at least once per year. You could go somewhere truly special and have a great time enjoying one another.

Remember that this isn’t going to be an option for people who work in certain fields. Not everyone receives paid time off for their efforts. If you can take advantage of this, then it can help your relationship out significantly. Your partner needs to unwind, and you need to be able to enjoy spending time together. A week away from the hustle and bustle will certainly work wonders.

Spend Time With Friends

If you’re trying to keep yourself from feeling lonely while your partner is busy with work, then it might be smart to spend time with friends. Your friends can be a great source of companionship when you’re feeling down. You might wish that you could have a substantial amount of time to spend with your significant other, but it might not be possible due to the nature of their job. In this situation, your friends are going to be very helpful.

Remember that relationships outside of your romantic partnership are also important. You can cultivate stronger ties with your friends, and you’ll enjoy being able to do things together. Spending some time with friends, even a couple of times per week will help you feel better. If you don’t have many close friends who live nearby, you can meet new like-minded people in your neighborhood.

Take Up A Hobby

Taking up a hobby might also be helpful. This isn’t going to solve your dilemma of not getting enough time with your partner, but you will be able to start enjoying your free time more. Some people love being able to split up their time between work, dating, friends, and hobbies. What hobby you decide to take up is completely up to you.

Some people might want to learn how to play the guitar, and others might be interested in taking salsa lessons. Whatever appeals to you is going to be just perfect. This isn’t meant to force you to deny your feelings or desires to get more time with your significant other. It’s just healthy to have other entertaining and satisfying things in your life to help fill your time. Consider whether a hobby would help you feel better, and then take steps to start it.

Be Honest With Yourself

You might need to be honest with yourself if you feel that you just aren’t getting enough out of your relationship. It could be true that your partner simply isn’t putting effort into the relationship and that he or she isn’t as committed to it as you are. If you aren’t happy in the relationship, then breaking up could be a better option. Before going through this line of thought, it’s important to discuss things with your romantic partner.

As mentioned earlier, discussing your feelings with your partner is crucial. He or she might not be aware of how you’re feeling neglected, and they might be willing to make changes if they know that they’re hurting you emotionally. Dating a workaholic isn’t always easy, and it’s up to you to decide whether you’re comfortable with it. Your partner might be willing to try to change and fit more time for you into the schedule. If not, then you always have the option of moving on and trying to find someone who is more in-tune with what you want out of a relationship.

Remember That Online Couples Counseling Can Help

Feeling Neglected By Your Partner Can Be Painful

Always remember that online couples counseling can make a difference when you need help. There are dedicated licensed therapists online who have helped many couples overcome their differences. If you’re worried that your partner isn’t putting enough effort into the relationship, online counseling is a good idea. You can work on relationship issues while learning how to strengthen your bond.

This will be very convenient for your partner, who always seems to be busy with work. Unlike traditional couples counseling, you’re going to be able to attend couples counseling online at any time. You can reach out even during odd hours. It’ll be easy to find a time that works for you, and you’ll be able to fix things that might be holding your relationship back. Reach out to these online counselors today if you feel like you could use a bit of help.

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