5 Signs A Woman Is Attracted To You

By Lindsay Hamilton|Updated June 21, 2022
CheckedMedically Reviewed By Lauren Guilbeault, LMHC

Figuring out if someone is attracted to you can be tricky. Men often have the most trouble figuring out of a woman is interested in them. A lot of attraction is subtle and easy to miss if you don’t know what to look for. Bias also plays a huge role as it is very easy to think someone is attracted to you if you are already attracted to them.

Men, be cautious when assessing if a woman likes you. Studies have skewed against men’s favor in showing that men will misread signals from women that will then lead to aggression. It isn’t true for 100% of men, but there is some concern about the research. Treat, Viken, Kruschke did a study, and McFall in 2011 asked men to look at pictures of women in various attractive attire that also varied in how attracted they looked to the camera. The men were then asked to remember which picture they looked at when seeing two different pictures of the same woman side by side. The results showed that if the woman was provocatively dressed and showed interest in the picture, they were more likely to remember them than another woman who did not show interest. The study also noted that not all of the men in the study remembered sexual interest in the same way.

All of this is to say that looking for signs that a woman is attracted to you is very tricky. Women will likely show more emotional attraction to you than physical attraction, meaning they will be sending out more emotional types of signals. It’s best to pay close attention and allow women to be more obvious before making a move. And always ask for permission.

Here are five signs a woman may be attracted to you.

  1. Her Body Language is Open And Accommodating To You

Signs Of Attraction Can Be Hard To Spot
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If you’re interested in finding physical signs, body language is a good place to start. Women will remain open and accommodating if they are interested in you. For traditional women, they’ll have open arms and palms when talking with you. You may also notice an unconscious mirroring action. When a woman mirrors you, she’ll copy your movements. It could be the way you are sitting, how you use your hands and even your voice’s tone. They’ll also likely give you lots of eye contact to show their interest. Very likely, she will remain close to you, lean in towards conversation, or brush up against you.

  1. She Reaches Out To Touch You Frequently

Another good sign is if she touches you frequently. Innocent touches on the arm, hugs, cheek kisses, and full-blown kisses on your mouth are really good signs that she is into you. If you give her the time and space, she will move towards you if she likes you enough. Touches won’t start heavy-handed, though. She’ll probably start with playful pats or sitting closer to you on the couch. If you ask for a hug and she reciprocates-it’s a good sign! The more she wants to touch you, the more she probably likes you. It’s still important, however, to make sure you have permission to touch her. She likely won’t make big moves until she knows that it’s what you want, so you should give her that same courtesy in return. Physical touch is an important aspect of relationships, but it should always be done with consent from both people.

  1. She Laughs On Your Jokes Or Smiles Often

When a woman likes you, she’ll want you to know she has fun around you. This means she’ll laugh and smile a lot. She may even laugh when you’re not all that funny, but she wants you to feel comfortable and have fun. A big smile goes a long way to get people to open up, so she’ll pay great attention to you and smile while you’re talking so that you know she’s tuned in to you. These are great emotional responses to a crush. It lets you know that she’s attracted to your personality and who you are as a person, not just physically attracted to you. This is a good sign for the possibility of a long-term relationship.

  1. She Shows You Gratitude For The Time You Spend With Her

Women are grateful for good dates and good conversation. If she thanks you for hanging out with her, she probably likes you. These thanks might be a verbal “thank you,” but they might also be good deeds for you, going out of their way to help you or make you feel special. If a woman wants you to know that she likes you, she will make sure she’s doing things to show her like for you. You will begin to feel appreciated and cared for by her, and a relationship may naturally follow from there. Once she is emotionally invested in you, she’ll want to know if you can commit to her in the same way. Doing nice things for her will then make her like you even more.

  1. She Pays Attention To You Over Everyone Else

Signs Of Attraction Can Be Hard To Spot

When a woman is into you, she’ll pay attention to you. It doesn’t matter how crowded the room is where you are. She will be giving you eye contact, asking you questions, hanging out close to you so that she can have good conversations with you and be near you. You’ll see that she acts differently around you from other guys. There’s something more than friendship going on with the two of you. Yeah, she’ll talk to your guy friends and maybe give them a side hug, but with you, she’s thoroughly engaged and open for any contact. Your friends will notice how she acts around you, too, and might even be the one to tell you that she likes you.

If a woman shows two or more of these signs when she’s around you, she may like you. You should never assume, however. Error Management Theory, developed by Haselton and Buss in 2000, found that both men and women are biased when trying to perceive if someone likes them. For men, they tend to overestimate when a woman likes them. For women, they underestimate who is attracted to them. This leads to a lot of errors and missed opportunities.

The above signs help lay the groundwork for figuring out if someone likes you, but only they can confirm it one way or another. Communication with a crush is, above all, the most important if you ever want to have a relationship with them. It is okay to ask them outright to go out on a date. You can even ask them if they have feelings for you. You’ll need to think about how you want to start that conversation and not just blurt it out, but there are ways to do it well and get a straightforward answer.

If you aren’t sure how to start those conversations, the ReGain text therapy platform can help. Both individual and relationship counselors can chat with you completely online about your questions and help you develop healthy relationships. The service is available for one-on-one counseling and couples counseling if you are in a relationship you would like help with. The platform is used to gather information about what you need and then match you with an appropriate mental health counselor to begin the counseling. If you start on your own and later have a significant other you would like to bring into the sessions, you can add them later.

The beginning stages of a relationship are difficult to navigate. Figuring out if you like each other the same way, going on a date for the first time, trying to get a read on each other and if you are even compatible. All of those things cause an emotional roller coaster ride. Hopefully, you can lean on each other and have open communication throughout the process.

If you need more help, that’s where ReGain can come in. It is a 100% secured platform, and you don’t have to see the counselor in person or even speak on the phone if you don’t want to. All of the chats will be in a secure chat room where you can talk about what you are feeling and read the advice given by the counselor. Tackle the hard parts of getting in a relationship with someone who can help. To get started and answer any questions, go to www.regain.us/start to be matched with a counselor.

Your relationships should be full of joy and excitement, especially in the beginning stages. Pay attention to the one you like. Have fun with them. With the help of ReGain, everything else should fall into place.

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