12 Signs A Man Is Attracted To You Sexually
Updated February 07, 2020
Reviewer Lauren Guilbeault
If there's a certain guy you feel you have a connection with, you probably want to know if the feeling is mutual. Luckily, it's not hard to read how he feels about you once you know what to look for. Even if he's the mysterious type who has perfected his poker face, subconscious tells will still give him away. Signs a man is attracted to you sexually are universal and hardwired into men's biological code. Knowing the signs a man is attracted to you allows you to gain confidence and insight.
The Importance of Mutual Attraction
Nature has made us attractive to one another because it's essential for the continuation of the species. You may like someone as a person but if you don't experience a mutual level of romantic attraction, there won't be much hope for the connection. This doesn't mean that you have to instantly feel fireworks go off when you meet a guy, but you should be open to the possibility of getting to know him better.
We've all had experiences where someone is attracted to us, but we don't reciprocate the feeling. This can lead to uncomfortable situations, especially if they continue to pursue us. Mutual attraction is important because it sets the stage for a successful relationship.
On the other hand, most of us have had the disheartening experience of being turned down by someone we were attracted to. That's why it's good to have a clear idea of what to look for when you're trying to determine if the guy you're interested in has the same feelings.
If you feel like it's difficult to get a handle on how a guy feels about you, it may help you to know that research has shown that men may have a harder time than women recognizing signs of attraction. Brain scans have shown that different parts of women's brains activate when they are evaluating the behavior of potential mates, which may make them naturally more intuitive.
12 Signs a Man is Sexually Attracted to You
Knowing the common signs a man displays when he's attracted to you takes the guesswork out of the situation. You won't have to constantly agonize over whether or not he's into you and you can decide whether you want to be the first one to make a move with confidence.
While just one of these signs may not mean he's necessarily interested in you, displaying multiple signals on this list are a good indicator of what going on in his mind.
1. He Casually Makes Physical Contact
We're not talking about anything overtly sexual. He may briefly place his hand on your shoulder or the crook of your elbow. Or he may brush against you, seemingly on accident. While some men are just more physically forward, if these "accidental" touches happens frequently, you can be sure he's doing it on purpose. This is one of the most obvious signs he is attracted to you.
2. He's Always Looking Deeply into Your Eyes
If a man is sexually attracted to you, he'll probably frequently try to catch your gaze and hold it for an extended period. This type of eye contact radiates confidence and interest in the other person. While he may just be the friendly type, you can usually tell by the intensity of his stare how he feels.
His eyes can also express his feelings in different ways. He may raise his eyebrow playfully when you two are chatting. Or you may spot him staring at you from across the room and smile when you catch him.
On the other hand, if the guy you're interested in happens to be the shy type, you may notice a distinct lack of eye contact. He may break eye contact repeatedly, looking down self-consciously. Or he may glance at you when he thinks you're not looking, then quickly turn away.
3. He Starts to Take Extra Care of His Appearance
If a man is sexually attracted to you, he'll want to present his best self so you'll be more inclined to reciprocate. Depending on the settings in which you interact, you may notice he begins taking more effort to style his hair, wear cologne, and put on his most flattering clothes.
You may also notice him straightening his shirt, running his hand through his hair, or making other adjustments-all signs that he's trying to look his best around you. These are common grooming behaviors that are rooted in primal structures of the brain and mirror similar actions in the animal kingdom.
4. He Flirts With You Any Chance He Gets
Some people are just naturally flirtatious-it's a part of their personality. But if a guy is flirtatious toward you specifically, it's usually a sign that he's attracted to you. Flirtatious banter is a good way to foster mutual attraction and build up sexual tension between two people. It's one of the most enjoyable and fun signs a guy is attracted to you.
5. His Voice Deepens When He's Talk to You
This can be a subtle change but you might pick up on it when you pay attention to how he speaks to his friends and other people around you. If his voice seems to deepen when he's speaking with you, it may be a subconscious shift in order to appear more dominant and powerful. Research has suggested that women prefer deeper male voices to higher voices and men will often lower the tone of their voice without realizing it.
6. You Catch Him Staring…Not At Your Face
He might go to lengths to be discreet about it, but no matter how sly he is, you'll probably at some point catch a guy who is attracted to you checking out your body. Sometimes a guy might make it more obvious that he's scoping out your body to let you know that he's interested. Research has suggested that men are more easily turned on by visual stimulus than women.
7. He Tries to Appear Taller
One subconscious, deeply ingrained sign that a man is attracted to you is if he tries to make himself appear bigger and taller by stiffening his shoulders and straightening his spine. He may also adopt a so-called "power pose," by putting his hands on his hips and pushing up his chest.
8. He Seems to be Nervous, Even If He's Usually Calm
Have you ever gotten that "butterflies" feeling in your stomach when you're attracted to someone? Maybe you find yourself distracted or struggling to find the right words? If a man is very physically attracted to you, it can be intimidating, and he may experience the same internal anxiety. This can be one of the most obvious signs a shy man is attracted to you.
Even a confident man can find that his nerves get the better of him in this situation. If he finds you very attractive, it can leave him flustered. He may stutter, not seem to know what to do with his hands, or fumble with whatever he's holding on to.
9. He Shows Off When He Gets the Chance
If a man is very attracted to you, he may have the tendency to try to show off in front of you. This is especially true if he senses he's got competition. He'll want to catch your attention in any way he can. This kind of "preening" behavior is very common among males of various species. This is one of several signs a coworker is attracted to you.
10. He's Always Getting Close to You
When you're having a conversation together, whether you're standing around or sitting, you may notice him subtly leaning his body toward you, pointing his feet in your direction, or mimicking your gestures. These are all signs that he's highly attuned to what you're doing at the moment. A man who is interested in you will attempt to be in close proximity to you whenever possible.
11. You Put a Smile on His Face
Whether he's laughing at all your jokes or just seems to always crack a grin in your presence, it's an indicator that he truly enjoys your company. Men find smiling and positivity to be very attractive, as do women, and are especially attracted to someone who laughs at their jokes. Even if he's not aware of it, it creates a positive association that will make him more likely to want to spend time with you.
12. He Finds Any Excuse to Keep the Conversation Going
Whether in person or via messages, if he makes an effort to keep you talking, it's a sign that he wants to get close to you. He might engage you in talking about any subject he can think of, just to keep the connection going. He may ask you lots of questions, not only to determine if you're already taken, but to prolong the conversation for as long as possible.
Keep in mind that just because a man is attracted to you sexually, it doesn't mean that he's interested in dating or pursuing a relationship. If you're on the same page, then there's no problem. If not, however, it's important to be realistic about your expectations and clear about what you're looking for to prevent heartbreak.
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