How You Can Benefit From Online Marriage Counseling
Updated March 02, 2020
Reviewer Karen Devlin, LPC
Many practicing therapists agree that online marriage counseling can be just as beneficial as seeing a therapist in person. In fact, licensed professionals provide some of the online counseling services that are currently available. The method through which you receive counseling is not necessarily as important as the skills and experience of the therapist you and your spouse are working. How you receive that guidance is more a matter of convenience and personal preference. To back that up, here are some of the benefits of online marriage counseling.
Benefits Of Online Counseling
Getting a couple's therapy online is different in some ways from seeing a therapist in person. As you'll see, some of those differences can be an advantage to you and your marriage.
In many cases, online counseling can be a great first step for people who have never had experiences with professional mental health services. There can cause skepticism and various reservations; however, the ability to receive counseling online can help put people at ease and assure them that counseling is taking place in a safe and healthy environment. Online counseling will also certainly help those who are eager to be able to get marriage help regardless of where they are or what they're doing at the given time.
Easier To Convince A Resistant Spouse
Often, one partner or the other does not want to attend marriage counseling sessions. When that's the case, being able to have the counseling session online can help convince them to participate. After all, they don't even have to leave the house. If your marriage needs a mediator, getting help in whichever way you can get your spouse to cooperate is better than no help at all.
When trying to convince a resistant spouse, it's important to be sympathetic and cognizant of the reasons which they may have reservations. Sometimes they may need to understand more information about online counseling. In other cases, your spouse may have undergone a negative experience in the past, which turned them off to counseling or therapy in general. It can be easy to get frustrated when you are faced with a resistant spouse, but openly directing your frustration towards them is unlikely to bring them around to your side. Instead, your time and energy would be better spent getting to understand their reasons and assuring them of the benefits associated with online marriage counseling.
Fits Into Your Schedule Better
Most of us have full schedules. And fitting in anything extra, including marriage counseling, means we must take time away from other priorities. Arguably, taking care of your marriage should be a pretty high priority. But if you do need to find time in an overfilled schedule, online counseling takes away the time commuting to and from a counselor's office.
Fitting in online marriage counseling can be tough if you and your spouse travel frequently or maintain a series of obligations. However, it's not impossible. You could set aside an hour or two per week, and you also have the luxury of being able to get counseling regardless of your geographical location.
Balancing and managing the various obligations and demands of life can be challenging, which is why time management matters so much. Depending on what you work out with your counselor, you and your spouse don't necessarily have to engage in counseling at the same precise time. No matter what your schedule looks like, it's important for both you and your partner to understand that you have flexibility.
Can Be More Affordable
The truth is that price can be a factor for many couples considering marriage counseling. You may be weighing whether your marital problems are concerning enough to warrant the cost. Online therapists don't have to pay for the upkeep of a clinic, which may allow them to reduce overhead costs. And those savings may translate into lower prices for you.
Affordability is such an important factor that many mental health service providers forget about. Everyone deserves to have access to proper care, regardless of their financial situation or what they may be dealing with. Struggles, challenges, and tough times are universal; they do not discriminate based upon how much money someone earns or what tax bracket they find themselves in. If you and your spouse are on a budget, yet still interested in seeking help from a professional, then online marriage counseling will certainly prove to be of value.
Traditional in-person marriage counseling requires you and your spouse to get guidance once a week or less. But you may need mediation more often than that to help you through the rough periods of working on your marriage. Online counselors are often available for a brief chat or phone call outside of a regularly scheduled weekly appointment. And email allows you to send a message and get responses at yours and your counselor's convenience. This can take the burden off you and your partner of trying to get everything off your chest at one session, reducing some of the tension.
There are so many situations in life which cause people to require help. Sometimes people feel as though there's something wrong with them. Sometimes issues that we're facing can become less daunting or scary when we have a strong support system in our corner; this is especially applicable when marriage issues arise. One of the most important things to understand about marriage counselors is that they specialize in helping married couples. This means they can understand where both you and your spouse are coming from; also, a marriage counselor can assess the situation from a professional, neutral position and then guide you both on the path to solutions. There is never any shame in asking for help when it's necessary.
Better access to options
With online marriage counseling, you are not limited to counselors within reasonable driving distance. That means you can choose from a wider range of techniques and experience levels, to find the counselor that is right for you and your partner. Finding a therapist that both you and your partner work well with can be a challenge, so having more options can be a real advantage.
Some so many people feel as though they need help, yet seemingly lack access to options. This is something we strive to combat every day; no matter what issues someone is facing, whether personal, marital or something else entirely, having access to the proper care and services always makes a significant difference. You'd be amazed at how many people have transformed and improved their lives thanks to online marriage counseling and other professional forms of therapy. The more options you have, the easier it is for you to take the next step towards improving the quality of your life and marriage.
Both in-person and online marriage counseling can benefit your relationship with your spouse. Choose a counselor that can give your marriage its best chance.
Important Details to Keep in Mind
Sometimes there are unrealistic expectations associated with counseling, even counseling that takes place online. Harboring unrealistic expectations can lead to tons of frustration and resentment in the long term, which is why it's important to be fully informed about online marriage counseling and what you should know going into it.
An Open Mind is Everything
Whenever you and your spouse are preparing to work with an online marriage counselor, it's always important to keep an open mind. Your counselor may make suggestions, observations or statements which you didn't necessarily anticipate...and that's OK. It's simply part of the process, and it can be a learning experience. If you or your spouse truly feel comfortable with something your counselor is saying, then it's completely fine to bring that to their attention; however, if your counselor makes suggestions or gives feedback which you didn't necessarily anticipate, then it's important for you to remain receptive. Being open to feedback will truly help your marriage.
Results Won't Happen Overnight
As you and your spouse go through the process of online marriage counseling, it's important to maintain patience. Rome wasn't built in a day, and problems don't develop overnight. Remember, it's going to take time for your counselor to get to know you and your spouse, understand your situation and then come up with the best course of action going forward. Sometimes, it can be tempting to make comparisons in regard to how long you and your spouse are in marriage counseling, but this won't change anything. Each situation requires its solution and its own pace. You and your spouse may require counseling for longer or shorter periods than others, and that's OK.
Asking for Help is Always the First Step
Facing issues in your marriage is normal and nothing to be ashamed of. Even the best spouses run through rough patches and otherwise are faced with challenges which they did not initially anticipate. In cases like these, it's good to know when the time for outside help, such as online marriage counseling can be of value.
At the end of the day, your happiness and the success of your marriage is what matters. This is why Regain is here. We value helping others and aiding people as they work to improve the quality of their lives. We know that this is possible for any person or people who are willing to put in the work and make necessary changes in their lives.
Whether you are married, single, divorced, or otherwise simply interested in having someone to speak with, Regain will always be available. Counseling is a well-documented form of mental health treatment which can aid anyone, regardless of who they are or what they may be dealing with in life.
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