Need A Self-Esteem Boost? 30 Inspirational Quotes About Confidence In Relationships
Updated July 06, 2021
Medically Reviewed By: Karen Devlin, LPC
Have you been struggling with low self-esteem? Are you worried it's impacting your relationships? If so, you may look at other people who appear successful and wonder how it's possible to feel that way. You may worry that you'll never reach that level of self-acceptance or that you're somehow flawed. The truth is, you're every bit as valuable as they are; you just haven't found out how to truly embrace your unique worth.
There's no secret to improving your confidence. You can feel better about yourself and your accomplishments no matter who you are or the tapestry of your life experiences. Knowing your value and accepting yourself will have ramifications in all areas of your life, including improving your relationships.
Everyone needs a boost to their confidence once in a while, whether it's after a sour first date, a breakup, or just after a bad day. These inspirational quotes about confidence can help you feel reassured about your relationships and your self-worth.
How Confidence Helps Relationships
Research has repeatedly established a link between high self-worth and relationship success. The connection is clear. Knowing your own self-worth helps you bring your best self to the relationship to fully connect with and depend on your partner while maintaining your independence.
By becoming your cheerleader, you can figure out what you want and how to discourage behavior from others that brings you down. You're able to be there for your partner and give your all to making the relationship work without believing that your self-worth is tied to whether or not the relationship succeeds or fails.
Feeling confident in your skin also helps you weed out those who do not have your best interests at heart. You'll be far less likely to waste your time with someone who does not treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
Develop true acceptance and love within yourself instead of looking outside yourself for someone to "fix you" with their affection and assurance. Research has shown that people who look for someone else to "love the whole" are more likely to struggle in relationships. Knowing you can count on yourself will cause you to radiate confidence. This, in turn, is highly attractive to other people and will increase the chances of someone special noticing you.
How to Build Your Self-Esteem In A Relationship
- Ask yourself this difficult question: are you looking to your partner to give you validation? Do you feel it necessary to earn their approval and love before you can feel good about yourself? If so, that should be the main target for you to work to improve. You have to work on accepting and loving yourself with all your flaws before you can truly give your heart to someone else.
- The next time you feel upset with something your partner said or did, take a step back and consider the situation from an outside perspective. Is your anger or hurt justified? Are you sure about your partner's intentions, or are you projecting?
- Increase your confidence in your abilities by setting achievable goals for yourself and meeting them. Face your fears and doubts head-on instead of waiting for someone else to save you. This process, while difficult, is the best way to build self-confidence.
- Don't allow yourself to ruminate about your relationship. If you sit there in between interactions with the other person and overthink and question everything that happened or wish that you had said or done things differently, you'll sabotage the relationship with your self-doubt. Instead, take your mind off of things and commit to doing better next time if you feel that's necessary.
- Learn how to trust your partner. If you have been betrayed in the past, such as a former boyfriend or girlfriend cheating on you, you may automatically be suspicious of your current partner. Therapy may be a viable option to work through deep-rooted trust issues.
30 Inspirational Quotes and Sayings about Confidence In Relationships
1. Maya Angelou
"Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option."
2. Joy Browne
"Sex appeal is confidence, the ability not to ask anything of another but a willingness to offer yourself."
3. Donna Goddard
"Courage is the starting point of everything good. To love another is to feed the fire of courage automatically."
"You yourself, as much as anyone in the entire universe, deserves your love and affection."
5. Elizabeth Kübler-Ross
"People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is light from within."
6. William Jennings Bryan
"The way to develop self-confidence is to do the thing you fear and get a record of successful experiences behind you."
7. Erica Jong
"I have gone ahead despite the pounding in the heart that says: turn back."
8. Dr. Robert Anthony
"You can have anything you want if you are willing to give up the belief that you can't have it."
9. Ralph Waldo Emerson
"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment."
10. Brene Brown
"Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love."
11. Dr. Jacent Mpalyenkana
"One's conclusion that you are not good enough is a reflection of their own interpretation of what "good enough" is. Your own personal concept is what creates your reality."
12. Sahaj Kohli
"The fact that someone else loves you doesn't rescue you from the project of loving yourself."
"Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have."
14. Barrie Davenport
"True beauty is the flame of self-confidence that shines from the inside out."
15. Mae West
"We must fall in love with ourselves. I don't like myself. I'm crazy about myself."
16. Louise Hay
"Love is the great miracle cure. Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives."
"If you aren't good at loving yourself, you will have a difficult time loving anyone since you'll resent the time and energy you give another person that you aren't even giving to yourself."
18. Nikki Rowe
"Don't let hollow heroes distract you from saving yourself."
19. Byron Katie
"Do you want to meet the love of your life? Look in the mirror."
20. Zig Ziglar
"Your value doesn't decrease based on someone's inability to see your worth. Never let someone else's opinion of you become your reality."
21. Steve Maraboli
"If you're not comfortable enough with yourself or with your own truth when entering a relationship, then you're not ready for that relationship."
22. Oscar Wilde
"To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance."
"Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength while loving someone deeply gives you courage."
24. Jodi Picoult
"You don't love someone because they're perfect; you love them even though they're not."
25. Toni Morrison
"Don't ever think I fell for you or fell over you. I didn't fall in love; I rose in it."
26. Colleen Hoover
"Sometimes two people have to fall apart to realize how much they need to fall back together."
"It doesn't matter who hurt you or broke you down. What matters is who made you smile again."
28. William James
"Whenever you conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude."
"You don't develop courage by being happy in your relationships every day. You develop it by surviving difficult times and challenging adversity."
30. Joyce Meyer
"We can improve our relationships with others by leaps and bounds if we become encouragers instead of critics."
How A Lack of Confidence Can Sabotage Relationships
Nearly all of us will have negative experiences during our dating adventures. You'll inevitably meet some people who aren't the right match and others that cause you pain and heartbreak. As uncomfortable and painful as these situations can be, they can help us grow and mature over time into a stronger person and better partner when the right person comes along.
However, those among us with hearts that have been wounded may have a harder time recovering, especially if we lack a strong support system. This can lead us to seek validation from someone else and makes it hard to meet someone else on the same level. Even if we find someone great, we could sabotage our efforts by constantly questioning whether or not they want to be with us. You may find yourself constantly testing your partner, even when you don't realize it, which can wear them down and put an unnecessary strain on the bond.
Overcoming Low Self-Esteem in Relationship
If you're struggling with low self-confidence, know that you're not alone. Almost everyone, even the most successful among us, has experienced episodes of doubt and uncertainty at some point in their lives. We may have the instinct to push down these painful thoughts and feelings, but until we deal with them, they'll continue to affect us.
You can build self-confidence and improve your relationships with effort and dedication. The right therapist can help you get there.
ReGain.Us offers professional counseling that you can access from the comfort of your home when you need it most. Working with a therapist can help you gain the self-confidence needed to improve your life and your relationships. Click here to get matched with an experienced counselor today.
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