Is He Still Interested? Signs A Relationship Is Over For Men

Most people who are divorced or separated have a common complaint. They wish they had ended the relationship sooner. It usually does not come as a surprise that one or both partners decide to end the relationship. There are many clues that you should have picked up on to know it was time to split. However, there are none as blind as those who refuse to see. Denial is a powerful defense mechanism. Most often, people are afraid to commit to separate because it is easier to do nothing. Making a life as a single person is often difficult, and many decisions have to be made. Men and women find it easier to end a relationship if they have someone else in the wings to turn to. Making it on your own is more difficult but ultimately more satisfying. For men, it is extremely difficult if they are being forced to leave a relationship, and there are children involved. They’re not interested anymore, but it can be difficult to walk away.

When a relationship is developing further and rising towards new plateaus, love is in the air, life is beautiful, and it seems like your happiness will go on forever. This is natural at the beginning of the relationship. As things slow down, perhaps because one of you is faced with stress from outside the relationship or you've just reached a level of intimacy you're both comfortable with, your partner becomes a source of support and enjoyment, and all is well. Maybe it seems like your partner isn’t interested in maintaining the relationship any longer. At other times, though, things seem to be stagnating or noticeably heading south. Is this a temporary slump, or are the signs a relationship is over for men there? Even if the answer is staring us in the face, it's often something we'll do anything not to acknowledge. Sometimes, it isn’t easy to pinpoint why men lose interest in their partners, so here are some signs they’re not interested anymore.

Picking Fights For No Reason

Some irritation and frustration are normal when you spend a great deal of time with another person. If, however, this ends up hardening into constant resentment of the other person, finding any excuse to resort to verbal aggression imperceptibly begins to seem natural. However, it could be a sign that your partner is starting to lose interest; they’re not interested anymore.

Often, the things you argue about won't have anything to do with the real issues in anything more than a symbolic way. If it's impossible to work through this and address what lies between you, your relationship may no longer be worth saving. It may be time to admit you’re not interested anymore.

Wavering Attentiveness

People's beliefs and attitudes change only slowly, but feelings can zig-zag without any apparent reason. This is also true for men, who have hormones and an inner life just like women do. We all have moods, but a man oscillating between fiery hot and arctic cold is not a good omen. It could be a sign he’s not interested.

While you'd like to think that his emotional compass always points to you, you may find that he only really notices you at certain times, such as when he desires sex and the guy isn’t interested in anything else. Can you be happy in a relationship that only exists when he wants it to? He’s not interested anymore in spending intimate time with you.

Avoiding Conversations About The Future

When just starting, many couples play that game where they talk about what their dream house look will like, what they'll name their children, and which places they'd like to visit. Men tend to be goal-orientated and do things for a reason, so if he's unwilling to make plans for a future together, he might not see that future as a strong possibility. A guy isn’t interested in spending the future with you.

Lack Of Physical Affection

This can manifest as no longer having sex or finding enjoyment in it, but non-sexual touching and body language are equally important, and he’ll do so if he’s interested. You can learn a lot about a couple's level of intimacy just from observing them. If they feel close to one another, they'll tend to hold eye contact for longer than with other people, sit with their knees angled towards each other, and find reasons to touch. If this doesn't sound like your relationship, it may be that he is subconsciously trying to avoid you and isn’t interested anymore.

Why The Usual Signs A Relationship Is Over For Men, Don't Always Matter

Men are notoriously unable to express their true feelings. Yet emotions bottled up will always somehow force their way out, often in unexpected and hurtful ways. Even if your man is displaying one or even several of these signs that he’s no longer interested in, it's not a given that your relationship is on the rocks. Instead, find out what's bothering him, which may have nothing to do with you. Although it may be difficult and painful, try to re-examine your relationship together, and above all, talk to one another to determine if he’s no longer interested.

If you need sound and helpful advice, you can get in touch with any qualified therapists from ReGain. They have highly qualified advisers who can guide you and your partner to resolve your relationship challenges.

Consider these conditions that could indicate to your partner that he’s no longer interested in maintaining a relationship with you, and it is time to realize it is over. It is time to move on.

1. Your partner is spending most of her time with friends and family. You are often not invited. If you suggest going out together, she prefers to invite friends along. Obviously, you are less interesting to be with than her friends and family. He’s not interested in you anymore.
2.  You don't spend time just talking to each other. You used to discuss matters with each other, and sometimes it created arguments. But now, she seems to be finding things that need to be done instead of talking. She no longer offers opinions. She says whatever you decide is ok with her. She encourages you to spend time with your buddies - as often as you wish and never complains about how late you are coming home. In fact, sometimes, she acts like she didn't even know you were gone. She doesn't ask questions about where you went, who you were with, or what you talked about. She is not interested.
3. If she needs advice about something important in her life or wants to share exciting news, you are not the first person she turns to. She contacts her friends or her mother to discuss important issues. Their opinions mean more to her than your opinion. You realize that somewhere along the way, you are no longer her confidante or her closest friend.
4. You've become bored. Nothing seems exciting anymore. Your work is tedious, your family activities are boring, and your life with your partner has lost its spark. Maybe she is feeling the same way. Actually, maybe you are boring. If you are bored, it is because you and your partner no longer have shared interests. If you no longer have anything interesting to say to your friends about what is happening in your life, it could indicate that your home relationship is not what it used to be. He’s not interested in you anymore. 
5. You have to say things twice. Whenever you start a conversation with your partner, is she distracted or not paying attention? Do you have to repeat yourself? Does her attention wander in the middle of your discussion? Or are you guilty of not paying attention? This is an indication that she is not that interested in what you have to say anymore. The passion between the two of you has dissipated. One of you, or perhaps both of you, have lost interest in the relationship. He’s not interested in you anymore and doesn’t hear what you have to say.
6. You no longer do things together. If they have been together for a while, every couple starts having ritual activities, such as pizza Fridays, movie night on Wednesday, or pub night on Saturday, and it becomes a habit to do those types of things together. When you notice that your partner no longer seems interested in continuing your ritual activities together or decides to do something else that doesn't include you, it is time to look at your relationship. Find out why she wants to do other things, and if they're someone else she prefers to do things with. The reverse is also worth considering. Ask yourself why you want to do things without her. The relationship is in trouble.
7. You or your partner refuses to consider counseling. This is a major indicator that the relationship probably is not going to survive. It is alright for one of you to go for counseling initially, but the goal for couples counseling is for both parties to agree to go together after the initial session. Both parties have to be willing to try counseling - this indicates that there is some hope. If one of you does not see that counseling could help the relationship and is unwilling to try, then it is probably a good idea to consider separation or divorce. He’s not interested in you anymore.
8. You find yourself not wanting to go home. Perhaps the atmosphere is toxic at home, and avoidance is preferable to confrontation. Home should be a refuge, a place where you can relax, talk over your day with your partner, and find peace and enjoyment. If all you ever do at home is argue or meet silent, it isn't surprising that you don't want to go home. Counseling could help, but if that fails, it is time to end the relationship.
9. You are considering alternatives. Are you starting to think that you have outgrown your partner and you no longer have anything in common? People age, change, and grow over the years. Couples inevitably grow at different rates, and their interests change. Perhaps your partner is perfectly comfortable with where they are, but you are beginning to be dissatisfied with the status quo. The inner you is telling you that you need to be elsewhere. He’s not interested in you anymore.

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