Does This Girl Like Me? How To Tell If She’s Interested In You

For some people, it can be challenging to determine if a girl is interested in you or not. Is she interested in you genuinely? It can be hard to tell through predictions alone.

There are various physical signs that can show a girl is interested. After you start to get a better read on her signals, you can determine how to move forward.

Here are a few signs to look for:

The way she stands

If a girl stands straight and tall with stomach tucked in and her shoulders pushed back, she might be interested in you. Subconsciously, maybe she likes you and wants you to notice her. She might become attentive to her own posture when she's around you and whenever she walks in your presence.

She always comes around you

If she repeatedly finds her way to wherever you are, she might be watching you and wanting you to notice her. You may notice that she's allowed her friends to go ahead without her and she stays back to talk to you. She may ask a few questions or wait on you to strike up a conversation with her.

She appears curious

If she's asking personal question about your upbringing, likes, and dislikes, it could be a sign that she's into you. She might be interested in learning more about your career, hobbies, and life in general. 

She laughs at your stories 

She might be laughing because she likes you. If you notice that she laughs even when other people don’t, then maybe she could be biased toward your humor because she likes you.

As soon as you post, she's liking or commenting on it

If she comments or likes your posts almost immediately, she might have notifications that alert her whenever you post, or maybe she just saw that you posted something and got excited. When she's commenting with heart-eye emojis, kisses, and other cute ones, she might be flirting. 

She sends you random texts

If she's texting you good morning and good night, she might be letting you know that she's thinking of you. 

She grabs your hand during conversation

If you've noticed that she finds a way to grab your hand or otherwise touch you mid-conversation, maybe she wants to be close to you and show affection toward you. 

She calls you cute little nick names

This may happen on the first or at least by the third date, but if she's calling you by a pet name already, she's probably into you and can see the relationship progressing. 

She talks about future plans for the two of you

If she casually mentions plans that involve the future and the two of you, she's likely thinking ahead. 

All her friends know about you

If you happen to be around her one day and she introduces you to her friends, and oddly they seem to know all about you already, she may have been talking about you to them. That's could be a sign that she's into you. 

The pitch of her voice is different

There is a lot to be determined by the pitch of her voice. Studies suggest that your tone and pitch of voice can change when you’re flirting. A woman may flirt by softening or increasing the tone of her pitch. In some instances, you may notice that in a group of people the tone of her voice sounds different than when she's talking to you. This could be a sign that she's being flirtatious or is attracted to you.

She's often in agreement with what you say

It can be easy to get along with people who have the same views as you, right? Although opposites attract, it can be common for people to navigate towards individuals who have common interests, hobbies, beliefs, and tastes. If she's agreeing with almost everything you say, the chances are better that the two of you could progress towards more than simple attraction.

What to do if she likes you

What do you do once you realize she likes you? Are you prepared for that moment? Of course, you want to be yourself, but do you move forward and ask her out? Or, if you've already gone on a few dates, what's next?

Here are a few tips for moving forward after you realize a girl is into you.

1. Make an attempt to get to know her. Now that you have her attention, it might be time to get to know her. Doing so can help the two of you find out if you have anything in common. You can spend time talking on the phone, chatting over coffee, or taking nice walks in the park.
2. Set a date night for at least once a week. It's okay to start slow. Plan to go out with each other at least once a week or more if you'd like. Take turns planning the date and surprise each other with the details.
3. Talk about what you want out of a relationship. It can be easy to date someone, but if you want it to go further, you should perhaps discuss your futures. Find out what her future plans are to see if they are compatible with the plans you have for your life. 
4. Make sure you're ready for a relationship. It can be easy to become smitten when someone flirts with you or shows interest in you. You can be flattered and still not ready for a relationship. You may be okay to date but don't agree to a relationship if you know that's not what you want. It's okay to flirt back and not pursue anything more. And if you only want to keep it casual, but you know that she has feelings for you, then try to be upfront about your desires so she doesn’t end up disappointed or heartbroken.

How to let her know that you're into her

You may have your eye on a particular girl but you're not sure if she likes you. Sometimes you might need a strategy or game plan to make your feelings known.

The way you reveal your interest in her is up to you, but here are a few tips.

• Don't tell everyone that you like her before you let her know. It may make it hard for her to believe you if everyone else tells her that you're interested, but she never hears it from you.
• Approach her and ask if she's dating anyone. This question can come up just before a person is about to ask someone out. If she tells you that she's not seeing anyone, you can move forward with your plans to ask her out.
• Don't come on too strong. If can be a major turn off if your approach is too aggressive. Remember, even if she likes you, she likely doesn’t want to be pressured. You should always be genuine, but make sure your personality is pleasant, which could make her want to see you as more than just a friend.
• Find out what she likes to do. Once you know what her hobbies are, you can plan a nice date for just the two of you. Planning something that is enjoyable for her can be a great way to make a good impression on the first date.

Build the confidence to ask her out in online therapy

If you're constantly asking yourself "does this girl like me," because you don’t completely understand her actions, the signs above may help you determine if she's into you. It's normal to not know but you shouldn't obsess over the unknown. If you worry you might lack the confidence or self-esteem to approach her and strike up conversation or ask her out, you may benefit from individual counseling. It can provide insight and help you execute the necessary steps to feel more confident about yourself. In fact, studies show that online counseling is often just as effective as in-person counseling when it comes to treating various mental health concerns and symptoms. Online couples therapy is also very effective, with one survey showing that 95% of online counseling participants say that the process has been helpful. Check out Regain to take a quick survey and get matched with a counselor who works with your specific needs.