Online Therapist Can Help You Heal From Childhood Trauma

By Jessica Saxena|Updated July 19, 2022
CheckedMedically Reviewed By Dawn Brown, LPC
“Childhood trauma can be so difficult to heal from and enlisting the help of a professional can be extremely important. The complexities of the impact of trauma are real and an expert can be a safe guide. Affirm yourself for taking that brave step towards healing in your life.” - Ryan Smith, LPC, NCC

Childhood Trauma Sticks With Us

Child and adult trauma can impact a person more than one could tell from the outside looking in. Trauma disrupts our lives and can even impact our ability to move through the world on a daily basis. Online counseling isn’t just about convenience; it’s about progress and moving forward. You can accomplish real emotional growth with an online therapist. One of the things that you can work on in online therapy is childhood trauma. It can be painful to dig up emotional scars from childhood. An online therapist has experience helping people work through childhood trauma. There may be wounds that we are not aware of because we’ve repressed these painful memories. With a psychologist’s help, we can uncover these painful moments from our childhood and start to look at them clearly, without judgment. Doing this begins the healing process.

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How Do You Know Your Family Trauma is Impacting You?

Family trauma can impact your life in ways that you never thought possible. Issues you thought you moved on from begin entering your subconsciousness and consciousness. They may even start affecting the way you interact with your own family.

Imagine you are a mother and you notice you’re developing anxiety attacks. The attacks happen in the morning, but you don’t know why you’re having the attacks. Your therapist can help you identify the root of the problem. It could be that you were bullied as a child at school. Maybe, you tried to tell your parents about the bullying, but they didn’t listen. Perhaps, you attempted to report it to the school officials and they didn’t believe you. That can cause a lot of pain. As you get your children ready for school, you start worrying that they will also be victims of bullying. You start to get a panic attack, and you can’t stop it. Due to the anxiety attacks, your kids are late for school each day. This becomes a chronic problem for you.

Now, your anxiety attacks are impacting your family, and you don’t want that to happen. You want your kids to get an education and to be on time for school. However, your anxiety disorder, caused by your childhood trauma, is in the way. Working with your therapist you can heal from this trauma.

Big T Trauma and Little t Trauma 

There are many types of trauma, and each kind is valid. When you hear about traumatic experiences, you might think of natural disasters, sexual assault, or witnessing a violent crime. These events are known to cause PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder). They are described as big T trauma because they are major events. On the other hand, there are events that are traumatic but don’t necessarily fall under the category of big T trauma because they are not as pervasive or easily defined. The little traumas that take place in our lives can build up and affect a person over time. Something that seems small or that you’re tempted to gloss over, saying that it “wasn’t that bad” could actually really hurt you. For example, your parents may have separated when you were a child. Perhaps, you didn’t understand or feel comfortable with the change that was happening, and it was traumatic for you. There may even have been emotional abuse in the household. Everyone reacts to divorce differently, and as children we can’t always understand what’s going on in the world around us or why something like a divorce might be happening. A child could carry this traumatic event as well as other childhood wounds into their adult life. Maybe, they don’t feel that it’s significant at first since the event didn’t appear major or catastrophic from the outside looking in, but after speaking with a trauma specialist or attending a support group, they begin to understand that the divorce impacted them and how that shows up in their life now as an adult. Understanding that little t trauma is valid is crucial in helping yourself and others heal from childhood trauma. A situation doesn’t need to appear to be extreme for it to affect you or change the way that you react to events around you, whether that emotionally or tangibly. You might fear closeness because of that divorce, or you may experience a fear of people leaving. Even if someone else around you witnessed a divorce as a child and didn’t have the same reaction, your reaction and your experiences are still valid.

All Trauma is Valid 

There are many events that might influence a person’s traumatic experiences. When the individual gets trauma treatment, they might discuss these happenings in a support group. If they feel comfortable, group therapy is a great option for trauma treatment. Here are some common traumatic experiences and events that people experience: the loss of a loved one, childhood neglect, physical abuse, and sexual trauma. These are not the only kinds of trauma that a person lives through, but they are some examples. Healing from trauma is possible, but it takes time, therapy, and patience. It’s crucial to validate your trauma. You know what happened to you was real. Even if the people involved in the trauma or abuse deny it, your experiences are valid. Don’t let another person gaslight you and try to convince you that your pain doesn’t matter. One of the steps to healing is to confront the trauma that caused you pain and work through it. Part of that is acknowledging that it happened, and it is valid.

Trauma Impacts the Mind and Body

You may feel frustrated by your trauma symptoms. That’s where therapy can help. You can find a therapist who understands the variety of symptoms associated with trauma. Maybe you experience panic attacks, eating disorders, chronic pain, or depression. You may be surprised at some of these symptoms. If you have chronic pain, for example, you might not connect it to traumatic experiences. Sometimes when people have trauma, they don’t know that their physical and emotional sensations are exacerbated in their bodies. Their trauma symptoms seem like body aches that are unrelated to their psychological issues. When they speak to a therapist, that misconception is cleared up. A trauma expert understands that there are many different trauma symptoms. One of the most frustrating symptoms is when you feel emotionally numb. If you are experiencing numbness, take deep breaths. It’s likely that your nervous system is on overload, and needs a break from the anxiety associated with trauma. You can find a therapist who will help you decide what symptoms you’re having. When you start talking about your trauma, you may feel a physical release in your body. That catharsis will give you a greater sense of confidence that the therapy is working. It can be scary to find a therapist when you need help. But, it’s worth the search when you’re going through it. It’s true that there are different emotions associated with traumatic experiences and healing. Depending on how trauma impacts you, there are many types of therapy that can help.

Childhood Emotional and Psychological Trauma 

There are a wide variety of traumatic occurrences and events that could lead to emotional and psychological trauma. Emotional and psychological trauma is sometimes talked about less than physical trauma, but it’s serious nonetheless. Like the example of divorce used earlier, with trauma it’s about how an event affects someone rather than the grandiosity of the event itself – this is especially true for smaller traumas that occur in our lives. Emotional and psychological trauma, however, is not often or always small. Emotional and psychological trauma causes can be prolonged and pervasive, but they can also be singular occurrences. Here are some events that may lead to emotional and psychological trauma in children:

  • Emotional, psychological, or verbal abuse
  • Grief or the loss of a loved one
  • An accident or a serious injury (this could be a car accident, drowning, or something else)
  • Illness, whether it’s experienced by the child or a family member
  • Witnessing domestic violence
  • Living around or being the victim of criminal activity (theft, violence, and so on)
  • Neglect
  • Bullying

Childhood sexual abuse can also lead to emotional and psychological trauma. Additionally, any of these events can lead to psychological trauma in adults as well as children. Emotional and psychological trauma can lead to PTSD, C-PTSD, or other mental health conditions, and it must be taken seriously. Some types of trauma including trauma related to a car accident, injury or similar events can cause both physical trauma and emotional and psychological trauma.

Types of Trauma Treatment

There’s no one way to treat trauma or trauma symptoms. It’s important to find the right type of treatment for your symptoms. Some people pursue exposure therapy, while others don’t feel ready for that intense level of treatment. Many people who have trauma pursue EMDR therapy or Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing Therapy. EMDR therapy is a common type of treatment for people who have endured traumatic experiences. Others who have experienced trauma may pursue positive psychology, hypnotherapy, cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), or prolonged exposure therapy. Healing childhood trauma takes diverse kinds of therapy for individuals, and what works for one person won’t necessarily do the trick for another, so it’s important to give yourself time and compassion while you discover what’s most effective for you.

Trauma can influence the development of mental health conditions outside of PTSD in some cases, including eating disorders such as anorexia nervosa, bulimia nervosa, OSFED, or binge eating disorder. In the case that trauma survivors are struggling with multiple mental health or life concerns in addition to trauma symptoms, trauma treatment will likely coincide with therapeutic attention or treatment related to other matters in their life. If you have any eating disorders, you might choose a Cognitive Behavior Therapist that practices CBT or CBT-E. You want to treat the most pervasive issues first. Once you reach a greater level of stability, you can start working on trauma in addition to concerns like eating disorders and substance use. Eating disorders can be deadly if left untreated, as can addiction and substance use disorder. You can find a therapist who understands your symptoms and start healing from childhood trauma.

Searching For a Trauma Therapist

Children pick up on more than we realize as adults at times. Earlier trauma can impact a person substantially, whether it’s psychological and emotional trauma or another form of trauma. It’s important that a therapist find a treatment that works for you or that they refer you out to someone who can. The search for a trauma therapist involves doing your homework. It’s crucial to understand what is effective for treating survivors like you. Read up on the various types of therapy or therapy approaches and decide which one you want to pursue. You can learn about the different kinds of treatment available for trauma survivors. Whether you find a therapist who does positive psychology, exposure-based trauma therapy, EMDR, or talk therapy, you will discuss your life childhood trauma. If your traumatic experiences began in elementary school, then start there. Some people have trauma that dates back to infancy, while others experienced traumatic events in adulthood. If you have an inkling as to what you think you might benefit from in terms of trauma treatment, you can find a therapist who practices the type of treatment you want to pursue. If not, it’s okay to start with a trauma-informed therapist who will help you discover what works for you. You can ask about different treatment specialties and how they work. Not every therapist will practice every modality, and that’s okay. It might take some trial and error, or you might get a perfect fit the first time around. When you’re seeking a mental health provider, make sure you feel comfortable with that person. After all, you will be talking to them about deep issues. You want to find a therapist who understands how you communicate and can support you through this difficult time. You are choosing to open up about your traumatic experiences, and that takes bravery. It’s crucial to find a therapist who can help you navigate the various emotions that come up as you’re talking about your pain. You can shop around for that person. It may take you a while to find a therapist, but it’s worth the search. Once you find a therapist who you trust, then the work begins. You will take your time talking through the trauma, and find ways to heal.

Unpacking Childhood Trauma

An online psychologist will talk to you about your childhood. They’ll find out if you have any history of anxiety or depression from your past and look at your reactions to trauma. They will explore what issues are causing you to stagnate in your life. Childhood trauma can leave scars and make it difficult to function on a day-to-day basis if the wounds are deep enough. Sometimes trauma is buried so deeply that it can be difficult to get to the source of what happened to you. But over time, as you develop a relationship with your psychologist, you will figure out what is causing your anxiety or panic attacks and get to the source of the trauma.

It doesn’t necessarily have to be anxiety that’s bothering you. It could be anger issues or any other potential mental health problems. Your therapist can help you decipher what’s happening for you and why. It’s important to be patient with yourself during the process of figuring out what is causing your mental health issues. Understand that digging up trauma is not easy, so be kind to yourself. Remember that if you need to cry, that’s okay. If you need to scream, do it. There’s no wrong way to feel about what happened to you. You have a right to process your feelings however they make sense to you. You will figure out the source of your trauma and explore it with your psychologist over time and there will be a variety of feelings and emotions involved.

A Therapist Can Support You

The journey you are embarking on to figure out why you are hurting is intense. You’re lucky to have the support of an therapist who is there to make sure that you are safe when you are discovering who and what hurt you in the past. Childhood trauma may have affected you to the point it is destroying your adult relationships, but the treatment of trauma is possible. That’s where a psychologist can help. They will work with you to develop strategies to minimize the impact of your childhood trauma on your everyday life. You want to have healthy friendships and hopefully a healthy romantic partnership. And if your childhood trauma is making those things difficult, it’s time to address these issues with your therapist. Just because you experienced traumatic childhood events doesn’t mean you can’t live a happy life now.

Many people go through horrendously traumatic experiences and come out the other side. You don’t deserve to be miserable. You can heal from your trauma no matter how intense and how painful it was. You are not those experiences. They are something that happened to you. Your online psychologist is there to support you in that healing process. If you’ve been holding in a traumatic experience or have shied away from reaching out for help with a traumatic experience in the past, know that it doesn’t need to stay that way forever. Trauma therapists are trained to help people who have been through extremely painful events and experiences examine them and realize that they survived.

Healing Takes Time

There is no timeline for healing. However long it takes you to work through your childhood trauma is how long it takes. You don’t have to push yourself when it comes to processing the pain you’ve been through because that’s not going to speed up the process of healing from trauma or trauma recovery. You are allowed to feel your feelings. Be patient with yourself as you heal from trauma.

Healing takes time and you cannot fast-forward through the process. You are allowed to analyze what is happening to you. Talk to people from your past and ask them questions if it helps you figure out how to process what you’ve been through. You can discuss all of these things with your therapist. If there are people in your past that are toxic to you, talk about those relationships with your psychologist and figure out how to navigate them. They are there to help you figure out how to work through these painful memories and realize that you’re strong and in control of your life.

Vulnerability is Strength

There is power in being vulnerable. The more that you express yourself, the more that you know who you are. It’s powerful to be able to see your strength and your flaws and embrace all of you. You are vulnerable to opening up about your trauma to your therapist and helping them know that you’ve been through something that impacted you. Just because you experience something traumatic doesn’t mean that you’re broken. You are a beautiful person. You’ve experienced something that affected you profoundly. Now, you have the chance to work with a trained professional who is there to help you figure out how to integrate your trauma into your existence. You will learn that you don’t need to define yourself by what you’ve been through because you are not your trauma. Instead, you will move forward, learn to care for your inner child as well as your current self, and reach the goals you have for your future. Many people who have experienced childhood trauma prefer to see a mental health provider who specializes in trauma specifically. A therapist, social worker, or counselor who specializes in trauma will have a deep understanding of how trauma affects someone as a whole person. They’ll empower you and help you in a way that will improve your daily life over time.

To find a therapist with experience treating trauma, search the web for “trauma therapists near me” or use an online therapy website that can help you find the right fit. There are also organizations such as The National Child Traumatic Stress Network that help children, adults, groups, and families gain access to the services and information they need. The National Child Traumatic Stress Network website has information on child trauma, trauma-oriented care, kinds of trauma, assessments, and more. Coping with child trauma is challenging, but you don’t have to do it alone.

A Therapist Will Help You Process Your Pain

We have all been through extensive life experiences, some painful and some full of joy. Life is extraordinarily unpredictable, and we cannot know what will happen from one moment to the next. You did not bring your childhood trauma upon yourself, but it did happen to you. It is real and you have a right to move forward. Seeing a therapist will help you process your pain and heal from the trauma that you’ve experienced. If you’re ready to talk about the childhood trauma that you’ve been through, the counselors at ReGain are here to help you and support you along the way on your journey to mental health.

Working with a therapist can make you feel more comfortable discussing your childhood trauma. By communicating with your psychologist online you can have more anonymity, making it more comfortable to discuss the trauma you experienced as a child. This can be especially helpful with childhood trauma that involves sexual abuse. Additionally, working with your psychologist online means you can communicate with them when you need them. You also get access to someone who has experience dealing with helping others overcome childhood trauma regardless of geographic location.

A Therapist Gives You Privacy

Many times individuals are hesitant to get the necessary help to overcome childhood trauma for fear of the social stigma that is often associated with going to counseling. However, when you work with a therapist, you can access help from the privacy of your own space. It eliminates the need to go into a counseling center for a face-to-face appointment. The online nature also provides a safe space to discuss uncomfortable issues connected to your trauma. This can help you get to the root of your issues more efficiently as you are more comfortable opening up in an online format as opposed to going to a traditional appointment.

Easy access to your psychologist is another benefit of getting online help. You can message your psychologist online and read their responses. This can be beneficial in remembering and reflecting on the guidance that they have given you in overcoming your trauma. Many individuals have overcome their childhood traumas by working with a therapist. Below are some reviews of ReGain counselors for you to review, from others who have used them to help overcome their own childhood traumas.

Counselor Reviews

“Even when I had no idea what kind of counselor to pick, I was matched with a beyond certified and compassionate woman who was a GREAT listener. I really connected with her and she will be in my contacts forever. Andrea has been flexible with her scheduling even in the chaos that was my life. I’m so appreciative of her abilities to help me. She helped me learn to love myself through a divorce, childhood trauma, and overcome my fears for the future.”

“Joiet understands that I come from a very toxic childhood and I thank her sincerely for pushing me along the way to become a better person and stop the cycle.”

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Conclusion

Working with a therapist can help you overcome the issues presented by your childhood trauma so you can heal and minimize the impact it has on your life. It’s time to finally be free of your trauma and ReGain can help make that happen.

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