How You Can Benefit From Interpersonal Therapy
Updated September 04, 2018
When it comes to personal therapy, you have plenty of types to choose from. Today, we'll be looking at one such type. Interpersonal therapy or interpersonal psychotherapy (IPT,) is a form of therapy that looks at relationships and roles in society.
What Is IPT?
IPT focuses on the social roles in one's life, as well as life changes. While many therapies focus on remedying the past, IPT focuses on the present, and how to fix the problems in the now. The therapy is quite short (around 2-4 months on average,) but it can be longer depending on the severity of the problem.
The Four Problem Areas
IPT fixates on four problems in life:
- Role Disputes
Role disputes are when you and someone else in your life have different opinions on what the roles should be in your relationship. This can be parents who are figuring out who does what, or simply friends who do not know how they should handle their friendship. The therapist will help the client figure out the problem, look at the patterns, and find a solution that satisfies both parties. However, if the relationship just can't be fixed, the therapist should not try to fix it.
- Role Transitions
This is when a big life change happens. Someone has a new job, and just can't seem to get into it. A young man finally leaves his home and is stressed about trying to make it in life. Someone who was once happily married is now divorced. Changes in life happen fast, and while some people can adjust, others need help. Especially if you've been in the new role for a while, but still haven't adjusted and instead yearn for the past.
Your therapist will help you learn how to move on from your old role and embrace your new one.
- Unresolved Grief
Losing a loved one is something that takes a while to heal from, especially if the loved one died unexpectedly or young. It's normal to feel upset for a while after the death, but when it gets to the point where it's stopping you from living your life, then it becomes a bit of a problem. Sometimes, the grief comes later, and delayed grief can be confusing, as you might not know the earlier loss causes your depression. Your therapist will tell you how to cope with your grief in a healthy matter. You'll learn to move on from your life and fill the void that was left behind.
- Interpersonal Deficits
This is when the client has never had a relationship that was fulfilling. Whether it's a friendship or a relationship, they have not had a deep friendship with someone, or have had constantly failing relationships. The client feels like something is missing in their lives, and they may feel depressed or isolated. The therapist will look at the client's past relationships, their present ones, and teach the client how they can have relationships that will last.
As you can see, most of the problems IPT solves comes from a void being left in your life. With the grief problem, you feel a void where that loved one once was, and you must fill it with something else. With the role disputes, there is a void left over about what your role should be. Role changes involve a void from your last role. You suddenly don't have experience in your new role, and it can be damaging. Finally, interpersonal relationships can be a void if you have no good ones to fill it with.
IPT originated at Yale University in the late 1960s. Myrna Weissman and Gerald Klerman were seeing how an antidepressant works alongside and without any psychotherapy. They discovered IPT, which they originally called high contact therapy.
How Can IPT Benefit Me?
IPT has plenty of benefits for clients. These include:
- Better Relationships
The client will learn how to have relationships that are healthy and fulfilling, instead of meaningless relationships that fall apart.
- Coping Skills
When coping with grief or an undesired emotion, you'll learn how to handle it in a way that's much healthier. For example, when you feel anger, you'll learn how to calm yourself down instead of letting it out on someone else. If you're grieving, you'll learn how to grieve without it interfering your life.
- Problem Solving Skills
When you go through an IPT session, you will learn how to solve your problems in productive, safe ways. You can learn how to handle stress, communicate your thoughts, and more. You won't be finding yourself struggling to solve a problem, but instead solving it yourself.
IPT can also help treat mental disorders, including:
While you can never cure your depression, you can learn how to handle an episode and make it easier for you. You'll learn how to look up when everything else has you down. IPT can also treat mental disorders similar to depression, such as bipolar disorder, anxiety, and more. Of course, with these mental disorders, the best treatment is a combination of medication and therapy. Talk to your doctors and see what the best route to treating your condition is.
Addiction can be a tough problem to admit you have, but once you admit you have a problem, you can take steps to learn how to handle it. IPT can help you get the skills that you need to cope with your addiction. It won't be easy, but with some therapy, and willpower on your end, you can succeed. You've admitted you have a problem, and that is a good first step in treating it. Now, you need to figure out how to rid yourself of your addiction.
There are other mental disorders IPT can treat as well. Talk to your therapist and see if IPT is right for your situation.
Now that you know what IPT can do for you, you may wonder how it can benefit you. The techniques used in IPT are quite numerous, and they include:
Emotion Identification - One of the ways a therapist can help a client figure themselves out is by identifying the underlying emotion. Sometimes, what we think is anger may be sadness or vice versa. By figuring out their emotion, and where that emotion originates, you can move on to the next step.
An example: You're having a hard time controlling your anger at your friend. Your friend just got a new job, and you got rejected from it. You discover that your emotion is disappointment from the job rejection and a bit of envy, and you can now figure out how to handle your emotions.
Healthy Expression - Now, the therapist must help the client learn how to show emotion in a way that is not destructive.
An Example: If you talk to your friend with anger, your friend is going to be angry back. Instead, you want to talk to your friend about how you feel calmly. You're not going to resolve any issue if you're angry all the time. You learn how to calmly talk to your friends or partner about your issues and not keep it all bottled up, only for it to explode in your face later on.
Dealing With The Past - While IPT focuses more on the present, it still looks at the past as well. The past can affect the present, after all. By teach the client how their past affects the present, they can learn how to be aware of their biases and instead look at the present situation with more objectivity than they could if the past blinded them.
An Example: With,the job rejection example, let's say your parents had trouble getting jobs in the past. This led to trouble in the household. Your parents could barely afford to raise you, and they sometimes took their anger out on you. Now that you're grown, you thought that you moved on from the past, but as it turns out, you have not. You're taking the past frustrations and applying it to the present. By realizing this, you can now learn how to cope with the present without being blinded by the past.
IPT can help you cope with many problems, but some people think there is a shame when it comes to seeking therapy. This is not the case at all. There is no shame in seeking help if you need it. We all have our problems, and sometimes, we need someone else to talk to. A professional knows how the mind works and can teach you some techniques so you can learn how to cope productively. IPT can teach you this and more.
If you're interested, speak to a counselor today. A good counselor will tell you if they can help you, and you can try a session and see if it's for you. Odds are, you'll find yourself improving little by little, and you'll come out with a new outlook on life.