Are You Having Relationship Problems? How To Find A Therapist Near You

Medically reviewed by Paige Henry
Updated November 14, 2023by Regain Editorial Team

Stress is a normal part of everyday life. In abundance, however, stress can become a hindrance which begins to affect other aspects of our lives. The immense pressure of keeping up can cause us to feel uncomfortable and upset and may cause us to direct our energy inward. During this process, we may push others away without being aware, especially when we're a part of an intimate relationship.

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Being a part of any relationship requires an exchange. If one person is contributing more than they are receiving over a long period, this person may start to question the fairness of the relationship. 

Spotting Problem Signs In A Relationship

The problem signs of a relationship can be challenging to see at first. When life applies pressure, we can unknowingly vent it onto our partners, causing unnecessary arguments without foreseeable solutions. But the effects can be also more gradual.

Here are a few of the most common signs of trouble in a relationship.

Communication Has Been Poor

If you're misunderstood or you can't anticipate your partner's actions, there may be a concern with how you two are communicating. Cultivating healthy communication can be incredibly difficult because it requires the mutual efforts of both people to be involved.

Communicating our issues can help us resolve them. If someone in a relationship isn't feeling heard when they are expressing their problems, then they may cease to communicate. Pay close attention to what your communications patterns have been. If you are often misunderstood, you and your partner might need to work on your communication style.

Mistrust

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If you feel that your partner has betrayed you in some way, then there may be a justified cause to feel mistrust. If there isn't such an event and you still question your partner's actions, then there may be feelings of distancing or dishonesty.

Mistrust is a sensation that can feel real, but without any evidence, it's just that: a feeling. Whether it's a lack of communication or your partner is genuinely dishonest, these negative feelings are an indication of relationship problems.

Distancing

Distancing can cause a feeling of a lack of belonging in a relationship. This can be particularly tricky as we may blame ourselves for the consequences of a faulty relationship. We may see our partners spending more time alone, whether from stress or circumstances outside of our control and feel that our partners are slowly fading from our lives. 

Relationship Therapy

If you're dealing with problems in your relationships or your marriage, you may choose to find a therapist to speak with about your concerns. It doesn't mean that your relationship is a failure; it just means that you need some help.

Most relationships encounter problems of some sort. For example, minor arguments are not considered unhealthy in a relationship, but frequent or intense arguments are considered unhealthy. It's important to discuss these concerns as there can be differences in values that can't be bridged. It's often better to identify the red flags early before committing to longer term agreements like marriage.

Relationship therapy can help you identify these values and learn to communicate with your partner to avoid major arguments and conflict.

How Relationship Therapy Works

Relationship therapy consists of a third person – the therapist – entering the system to listen to the concerns you both have about the relationship. They aren’t there to determine who may be right or who may be wrong, but to find the root of the problem and see how each person can contribute toward a solution.

The practices in this kind of therapy vary on whichever method or intervention a therapist chooses. They often involve identifying behavior that each person contributes to the relationship as a whole and then changing said behavior into healthier ones. This could be on an individual level or a more general relationship level; it depends on your therapist. Either way, relation therapy works by offering each person a voice to express opinions.

How To Find A Therapist Near You

Research the types of therapy you think may benefit you. From there, you can search online databases to find a therapist local to you who specializes in that therapeutic method or in treating couples generally. 

Each therapist has strengths and weaknesses, so it is important to work with someone who can "speak your language." It is also important to find someone who can be both objective and honest about both sides of the relationship. This may mean that you have to try a few therapists before you land on the right one for you.

To find a therapist, another reliable route would be to ask friends or family for recommendations. There's nothing better than actual testimonials from the people you trust.

Online Therapy

If you can’t find a therapist near you, you may opt for online relationship therapy. Online therapy through services like Regain are convenient and affordable solutions for those who might not seek treatment otherwise. You can meet with a therapist via text, phone, or video chat on a flexible schedule.

Additionally, online therapy has been shown to be an effective modern treatment method for a wide range of conditions in individuals and couples. So, you can rest assured that you are still receiving quality treatment even if you aren’t visiting a physical office.

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Takeaway

Finding a partner can be the best decision you can make in your life, but also the most difficult. Searching for therapy doesn't mean that your relationship is doomed to fail. Starting your search means you're looking for a healthy way to move the relationship forward. Searching online, asking friends, or looking through local ads, you can find a therapist who's dedicated their lives to helping others.

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