How To Love Yourself And Improve Your Mental Health?

Medically reviewed by Majesty Purvis, LCMHC
Updated October 31st, 2025 by Regain Editorial Team

Key takeaways

  • Self-love often involves having care and compassion for yourself, the way you would for a friend.
  • Online therapy can help you cultivate habits that foster self-love.

You can learn to love yourself through a variety of self-care practices that affect your physical, emotional, and mental health. When you feel self-love, it also helps you set healthy boundaries, potentially strengthening your relationship with yourself and others.

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What is the concept of self-love?

Self-love is holding yourself in high regard, like you might with others you care about. It involves positive feelings about yourself, being compassionate with yourself, as well as taking care of yourself physically, emotionally, mentally, and in relationships.

How to love yourself?

Learning to love yourself often involves changing your behaviors. Practicing self-love can involve daily self-affirmations, boundary setting with others, and engaging in daily practices.

What are ways to practice self-love?

An important part of practicing self-love and compassion is by engaging in self-care. There are many aspects of life in which you can care for yourself and cultivate self-love.

Self-affirmations versus negative thoughts

One way to practice self-love and self-acceptance is by engaging in self-affirmations, which involves reminding yourself of your worth by reflecting on your strengths and positive attributes. 

This can improve your self-esteem and may have the added benefit of combating negative self-talk and self-doubt.

Boundary setting to practice self-love

Setting boundaries can be a way of demonstrating self-respect, and others might also respect you more if you are proactive about establishing expectations. 

How to love yourself through daily practices

Daily self-care practices could also help with self-love. Taking time for yourself demonstrates that you are caring for yourself and can help to rewire your thinking. Daily meditation can help bring you into the present moment, which may make you feel more grounded and connected to yourself. 

Even taking a few moments to breathe can help you feel calmer and gain clarity. Journaling, spending time in nature, eating nutritious foods, exercising, and sleeping well are also considered nurturing daily practices. Practicing self-compassion, allowing yourself to be human, and showing yourself the same kindness that you’d show others could also be helpful.

How does self-love promote healthy relationships?

If you experience self-love, you could be more likely to enter relationships in which your partner respects you and reciprocates love in the way that you deserve.

Healthy boundaries for feeling loved

With self-love, you know what you want and deserve in a relationship. Self-love can allow you to set boundaries with others regarding how you want to be treated. Ultimately, this may encourage you to engage in healthier relationships. 

How does loving yourself impact mental health?

When you feel self-love, you might be more likely to engage in positive self-talk and make healthy, positive choices in your life. In turn, this can improve your mental health. Self-love can also foster emotional resilience, giving you an inner sense of your essential worth and the capacity to face obstacles.

How to deal with negative thoughts and negative self-talk?

To combat negative thoughts, it could be helpful to recognize when such thoughts arise. In the moment that they arise, you can acknowledge that it’s just a thought and not the truth. Then, you can replace the negative thought with a positive one. Over time, this practice can help rewire your brain.

Is it helpful to attend therapy for feeling more self-love?

If you’ve experienced life challenges or mental health issues, including issues with self-love, therapy can be an important part of healing.  

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Individual therapy for mental health support

Seeking professional support in the form of individual therapy can be helpful for your self-love journey. Someone who experiences challenges with self-love may experience a lot of self-doubt. A therapist can help you to pay attention to your inner dialogue and recognize negative thought patterns and negative self-talk. 

Not only that, but they can help you challenge these internal patterns, including the messages you get from your inner critic. This may enable you to reprogram your self-image and help you to feel confident. Getting out of your own head can help you take control of your own life and improve your mental health and overall well-being.

The effectiveness of online therapy for negative self-talk

Online therapy may also provide a more comfortable setting for people who are experiencing self-doubt or challenges with self-esteem. You can meet with your therapist from your own home, which might make it easier to open up about your feelings.  

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Takeaway

Self-love is the act of respecting and loving yourself and having compassion for your faults and mistakes, just as you do for others. Self-love and self-compassion can be important for both your mental health and for your relationships. Cultivating love for yourself might take continual practice. If you find that you need support in cultivating self-love, therapy can help.
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