How To Build Relationships: Quotes To Help Set A Foundation For Romance
By: Stephanie Kirby
Updated July 04, 2021
Medically Reviewed By: Tanya Harell
Someone once said, "Relationships end too soon because people stop putting in the same effort to keep you, as they did to win you." There's a lot of truth in that statement. When you first date someone or try to date them, you put all kinds of effort into winning their hearts. But the most important thing is what you do with it once you have it. If you want to have a happy and successful long-term relationship, the following quotes give great advice on building relationships.
Friction Doesn't Mean Failure
"Don't give up at the first signs of friction: only through clear communication, flexibility, and willingness to adapt can you find a relationship that will weather the storms of life." - Tom Miles
The divorce rate in the United States is not good. While the numbers differ based on the source, they all tend to hover between 40 percent and 50 percent, as indicated by the American Psychological Association. And, as couples are divorced and remarry, their chance of getting divorced again increases.
This happens because when a couple experiences difficult times, they think it's over. They assume they must have chosen the wrong person to be with. But friction is a normal part of relationships, especially as the relationship moves through the different stages of love.
If you quit at the first sign of friction, you will never find a person that you want to stay with long-term.
It Needs To Be Based On Trust
"He who does not trust enough will not be trusted." - Lao Tzu
The foundation of a romantic relationship is trust. There is no way around it. If you don't trust your partner and they don't trust you, it's going to be incredibly difficult for either one of you to want to continue moving forward with each other.
However, trust isn't something that you can give to someone else right away. There's a process involved in building trust within your relationship. You need to be willing to build trust with your partner while building the foundation of your relationship.
It's OK If It's Not Easy
"I'm not telling you it is easy to be easy-I am telling you it is going to be worth it." - Art Williams
Relationships aren't easy. Knowing what needs to be part of the foundation of your relationship because if you know that, you will stick with it. And, when you stick with your relationship through the difficult times, it helps you build it into something even better. Holding out through these romantic challenges helps get you to the other side, where you are closer, and your relationship is stronger.
Love Helps You Work Past The Hard Times
"Relationships include fights, jealousy, arguments, faith, tears, disagreements, but a real relationship fights through all that with love." - Unknown
Again, relationships can be hard. Even the best relationships are going to have difficult times. But you can use the love you have in your relationship to help you work past it. Every couple will have arguments from time to time, but there's a big difference between an argument done with love and one that's not. It's important to build the foundation of your relationship on love so that it will be included in each area of your relationship, including the disagreements and arguments.
Communication Is Key
"He can't read your mind. So, take a moment to let him know how you feel." - Unknown
Most people have heard that communication is one of the keys to a good relationship, which is completely true. There are a lot of communication issues that can happen in a relationship.
One of those issues is when one or both partners doesn't tell the other what they want or need. It's easy to think that your significant other should be able to know exactly what your needs are and what you shouldn't have to tell them, but that's not true. We do not mind readers, and just like you don't always know what's going on with your partner, they don't always know what's going on with you.
It will help build a healthy relationship if you get in the habit of communicating what you need and want. Don't make them try to guess. And, don't make them feel bad for not knowing what you want them to do.
Other communication issues within a relationship can include not knowing how to handle disagreements, raising your voice in a temper, lying to one another, and not communicating all the facts that need to be shared.
Successful Relationships Need Teamwork
"Let's not forget it's you and me vs. the problem… Not you vs. me." - Steve Maraboli
Relationships are made up of two people, and it requires both of those people to have a good foundation and a healthy relationship. If one person is trying in a relationship and the other isn't making an effort, the relationship may be able to continue, but it's not going to be a healthy foundation to build on.
If the two of you are looking at each other as enemies and constantly trying to get your way over the other, it's going to cause problems. A healthy relationship is two people working together. There will be times when both of you will need to compromise on what it is you want, but when you change your perspective from being you verse your partner to the two of you together going up against challenges, your entire perception will change. It will be the two of you versus the world, and things will start to seem easier to accomplish.
It All Starts With You
"Far too many people are looking for the right person, instead of trying to be the right person." - Gloria Steinem
It's easy to get caught up in blaming your partner for the things that go wrong in your relationship. But if you want to have a healthy foundation at the base, you have to be willing to take responsibility for your part in the relationship.
In fact, you should be much more focused on yourself and your actions in the relationship than you are on what your partner is doing. When you focus on being the right person in the relationship, it's much more likely for your relationship to work well. As you and your partner each focus on yourself, you will build a healthy relationship between the two of you.
You Need To Be Yourself
"Fall in love with someone who makes you glad to be different." - Sue Zhao
You can't have a healthy relationship if you cannot be yourself with the other person. The right person for you will be someone who lets you be comfortable being yourself. And not only that, when you are with them, you feel like you're even more able to step into the person that you are. They help you to be a better you.
But for the relationship to be healthy for both of you, you have to grant your partner the same thing. Even if they're not just like you, you need to be okay with who they are and accept them for that person. This can help them to accept themselves and their imperfections more and to be comfortable in their skin.
The Importance Of Forgiveness
"There is no love without forgiveness, and there is no forgiveness without love." - Bryant H. McGill
Forgiveness needs to be at the base of every healthy relationship. While it's not anyone's favorite part of a relationship, forgiveness needs to be part of it for it to work. If you want to have a long-term relationship, there are going to be times when you unintentionally hurt your partner and when they hurt you. It may not be big things; they may be minor things, but they could be big situations as well. But when you are both willing to put forgiveness at the base of your relationship, together you will be able to conquer these challenges.
Getting Help To build A Healthier Foundation
There are a lot of obstacles that can come with any relationship. And whether you and your partner have already faced obstacles, or you want to be able to handle them better when they come your way, talking with a licensed therapist can help.
Couples counseling can help you build valuable skills to have a healthy relationship, such as communication skills and identifying potential problem areas. When you are proactive about addressing these areas, it can help you to avoid going down the wrong road in the future.
If you're interested in talking to a counselor to improve your relationship or help get it off to a great start, ReGain has online therapists available 24/7 to meet with you or you and your partner together from wherever is convenient for you.
A healthy romantic relationship is well worth the time and effort invested in building the right foundation.
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