Tips For Having A More Fulfilling Sex Life And Better Mental Health

Sexual health has been shown in studies to be important in the quality of a person’s health and contributes to life satisfaction and mental health. When you strive to have a healthy and fulfilling sex life with your partner, you may notice that it improves your mutual happiness and relationship in general. Finding the balance between keeping your partner satisfied in bed along with your own sexual needs can be challenging at times. Especially, if you have been together for a while. 

Many couples can get stuck in a sexual rut. Perhaps you have been doing the same things for many years, and your sexual routine has become stale and pedestrian. It's possible to make things more interesting by simply trying out some new kinky things in bed. Keep reading if you want to explore some new ways to your expand your sexual vocabulary with your partner and bring some heat back into your bedroom.

Consider these twelve kinky things to try if you want a more fulfilling sex life listed below. Some of these steamy suggestions might be just what you need to get interested in sex again. There are many different options to consider, and not every single one of them will be for you. Just take the time to read over them and think about whether you and your partner would be interested in trying them out. It may lead to some very satisfying moments between the both of you. 

1. Try sexual role-playing

Many couples have kinky ideas that are just floating around in their heads. Perhaps you have a particular scenario that really gets you going related to this idea. Many people imagine things that are erotic, but they will never really act them out. That doesn't mean that you can't perform the scenario with your significant other. Sexually role-playing has the potential to be very satisfying. You can live out some of your deepest fantasies in a safe way and with a little kink.

There are many examples of sexual role-playing that you could try out just to get started. For instance, some couples like to role-play as a sexy nurse and a patient. Others might be interested in role-playing uniformed scenarios, such as firefighter, police officer, or librarian. It is up to you to decide what type of sexual role-playing you are interested in. Let your imagination run wild, have fun, and try to make the most of it. Just make sure your partner feels completely comfortable with the idea and wants to participate enthusiastically. 

2. Watch porn together

You might need a little bit of motivation to get your sexual engine revved up properly. Watching the kinky things people do in porn is a good way to get yourself, and your partner turned on. You could watch porn with your partner in bed to get in the mood. Once you start to get turned on or hot, you could attempt to reenact the sex acts you see in the video you are watching. Many couples watch porn together, which helps them find new kinky sex ideas to do in the bedroom. Give it a shot if you need some sexual motivation.

3. Dress up in sexy outfits

Dressing up in sexy outfits could make you and your partner feel more turned on than usual. This could mean several different things, depending on your perspective. You could decide to dress up in lingerie or other types of sexy clothes that will get your partner going. This can be very erotic, and it can help set the mood for a fulfilling night of sex. Some couples might be interested in dressing up in other fetish outfits that will turn their partners on, including incorporating bondage (with a safe word) or a sex toy, to complete the fantasy.

You could even combine dressing up in sexy outfits with the idea of sexual role-playing. This could lead to you buying a sexy nurse outfit or donning a lab coat so that you can play doctor. Just let your imagination soar, and do not be afraid to get kinky with your lover. If you both agree this is what you want, it may just what you need for a satisfying and fun night with each other. 

4. Consider dancing and stripping

Dancing and stripping for your partner during foreplay could be a huge turn-on as well. Some men and women like to go to adult cabaret  clubs. Seeing the men or women on the stage dancing could help you think of kinky sex ideas that you would like to try with your partner. You can reenact this same type of scenario in your bedroom. Put on a little show for your partner and show them one body part at a time. Do not be afraid to make your striptease a little bit risqué since the object is to turn your partner on as much as possible. It's just a bit kinky, and it's something that you can attempt to make a night of sex a bit more fun.

5. Explore anal sex

Have you ever considered trying anal sex? Obviously, this is not going to be something that everybody is interested in trying out. Some people will be completely opposed to the idea, and others will be quite intrigued. Many find this type of sex pleasurable, and it could lead you to discover a new sexual pleasure that you never knew before. It might take some experimentation to get it right, but it could be worthwhile for people who want to try kinky sex with their partner.

6. Learn about BDSM

The popularity of BDSM or bondage continues to rise, and may be something you are both interested in looking into when exploring kinky sex ideas. This type of sexual relationship can be extremely erotic. You may have  seen such relationships portrayed in popular movies, such as Fifty Shades of Grey. You do not have to delve completely into the lifestyle to enjoy a bit of light BDSM fun, either. Even just tying your partner up, placing an ice cube on their erogenous zones, or licking whipped cream off your partner’s body and enjoying them could be a very good time. If your partner is enthusiastic about the idea, try it out.

A bit of light bondage is a very easy kinky bedroom act to pull off. You could use old scarves as ties for your partner's wrists if you want to. Many like to blindfold their partners using a typical sleep mask, as well. Just remember that these encounters need to be safe and that your partner needs to be willing. Wait till both of you are ready to try this kinky sex idea. If your partner wishes to stop at any time, then you need to stop what you're doing. It is important to have a complete conversation of comfortability and limits before entering into any BDSM-related sexual encounter.

7. Explore orgasm control/denial

This kinky sex idea to try is related to the BDSM idea mentioned above. A few men and women become hot by having their orgasms controlled by their partners. This means that one person is only allowed to have an orgasm if their partner allows it. Giving someone this level of control can be very interesting, and some people get a lot of satisfaction from this. You could deny your partner the privilege of climaxing several nights in a row. When you finally do allow it, sparks are surely going to fly. Talk to your partner this is among the kinky sex ideas you are interested in trying.

8. Have sex in unusual/different places to increase intimacy

Do you always have sex in your bedroom? If so, then you might be a little bit bored with the setting. Mixing things up by having sex with your partner somewhere new might feel a lot kinkier. Some people even choose to have sex in places such as the backyard or the car. This may be considered a public display of sex, so be mindful of the laws against such things. Regardless, having sex in interesting places may make you feel more turned on. Even just having sex in a different part of your home might be enough to turn you on. If you enjoy having sex in your bed, you can opt for a sex pillow or consider silent sex, to spice up your sex life. You can take your time when you are finding out more about kinky sex; there’s no need to rush.

9. Engage in spanking

Spanking your partner or being spanked by your partner could also be quite the turn-on. Those looking for kinky sex ideas to do in the bedroom might enjoy the idea of sexual spanking. You could incorporate light spanking sessions as a part of your foreplay and spank different parts of your partner’s body. Some people even feel that spanking during sex adds to the overall experience. Just make sure that your partner is into the idea before proceeding.

10. Make use of sex toys

Even just buying some sex toys could add a significant amount of flair to the bedroom. You might be able to spice things up a great deal by using various toys. There are sex toys that appeal to both men and women. Pick out some favorites and use them in kinky ways to get yourselves going. You could also use sex toys as a great way to get ready for other sex acts such as anal sex. Consider buying some toys if you think that you and your partner would be into them. You can search for the cheapest sex toy and purchase something affordable, to see if you like it.

Online relationship therapy for help building a fulfilling sex life and better mental health 

If you feel like you could use a bit more help, then you might want to consider reaching out to get online relationship therapy. This type of therapy is incredibly convenient, and you can get help with many different problems. An online therapist can help you to work through any sexual issues that you might be experienced. They can help you to rediscover your love for your partner while building a stronger relationship. 

Is online therapy effective for people trying to have a fulfilling sex life and better mental health?

Talking about the intimate details of your sexual relationship can be difficult and you may prefer to do so in the comfort of your own home. Online therapy is an effective alternative to in-person therapy that is often preferred by people due to its atmosphere of anonymity and the secure feeling of talking to someone with a screen as a safety barrier. For example, in a recent study published in Technology in Mental Health, therapists reported that their clients appreciated the comfort of being at home and easily developed a therapeutic alliance during counseling sessions. If you think online therapy is a good choice for you alone or the both of you, contact a therapist at Regain at your convenience. 

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Takeaway

After a while, you and partner may find that sex has grown monotonous or one (or both of you) are not satisfied after sex. The ideas in this article can help spice things up in your bedroom. However, it is vitally important that both of you are on board before you attempt any new sexual activities. Communication is key, and sometimes your partner may agree to do something they are not comfortable with just to keep you happy. If you are unsure that your partner wants to participate, simply stop and talk about ways that you both can enjoy a healthy sexual relationship using enthusiastic consent. You can always reach out to a relationship therapist for advice to point you in the right direction.