A Short List Of Qualities Needed To Succeed In Your Relationships

Updated April 9, 2024by Regain Editorial Team

When most people begin relationships, they do so with the intention of those relationships succeeding. However, there are various qualities that can increase your chances if you are serious about achieving success in your relationships. If you lack any of the necessary qualities for your relationship to succeed, then you may well run into problems somewhere along the way.

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Relationships are a two-way street. Whether romantic, familial, or platonic, a successful relationship is going to require mutual effort and work from both parties. You can't control the moves that someone else makes, but you can determine the choices you make. A huge part of making choices is deciding which qualities you're going to embrace or reject. At the end of the day, nobody can decide for you; however, if you're serious about succeeding in your relationships, then you'll want to consider adopting the qualities listed below.

Six qualities you need for successful relationships

Successful relationships make life more fulfilling and enjoyable. The quality of your relationships will inevitably contribute to the quality of your opportunities, mental health, and perspectives on life itself. In a nutshell, successful relationships help make life worth living, and you deserve to reap those benefits. The following qualities will undoubtedly prove to be of value, both in your relationships and in additional areas of your life.

Integrity

It's virtually impossible for two individuals to maintain a healthy relationship with one another if integrity is absent. Integrity means that you're honest with someone, even when that may be difficult to do. Integrity is immensely valuable in any relationship, and it also contributes to the development of your character as an individual. A person cannot be coached or forced to be an individual of integrity. Either you have it or you don't; you get to choose. If you're serious about succeeding in your relationships, integrity is paramount.

Respect

Just as with integrity, respect is imperative in relationships of all natures. The truth of the matter is that whether or not you have respect for someone will directly impact how you treat them. Your level of respect for someone will determine how you deal with them during good times and bad times. All relationships go through rough patches; if you're someone who tends to lash out when you're not getting your way, this is not indicative of respect. When you respect and value someone, you sit down and talk when things aren't going well. It's easy to be respectful when times are great, but how you conduct yourself and treat others when challenges arise is what ultimately speaks volumes.

Acceptance

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Part of maintaining a relationship with someone means accepting who they are. Granted, if someone is toxic or dangerous to your well-being, severing ties is advisable. However, in other scenarios, acceptance of others is important. Acceptance is easy when you agree with someone; the true test of whether or not you are an accepting person will arise during differences of opinions or outlooks on situations. Regardless of how close you are to a friend, co-worker, significant other, etc., at some point you aren't going to see eye-to-eye. How you deal with this will directly affect the quality of your relationships.

Empathy

Your ability to show empathy may determine whether or not your relationships succeed or fail. Empathy is all about having care and regard for matters which impact other people. It also means attempting to understand where someone else is coming from and how they're feeling. If you are an empathetic person, you will experience rich and long-lasting relationships. People can tell when you truly care about what they have to say, what they're experiencing, and how they're feeling. Furthermore, when you truly care about someone, empathy generally comes naturally.

Loyalty

When many people think of loyalty, fidelity in romantic relationships typically comes to mind. Make no mistake: this is certainly a critical part of loyalty in relationships, but it's only one part. Loyalty in relationships of all sorts means being supportive and sticking with someone; true loyalty is maintained out of care and compassion for the other person, not because of the potential for future gains on your part later down the line. When you're loyal to the people in your life, it matters, and you're much more likely to receive loyalty in return.

Openness

For any relationship to succeed, being open and communicating clearly with the other party is imperative. How you communicate also makes a difference and, in many ways, goes back to respect. Nevertheless, if you're able to be open and transparent with the individuals in your life, this is going to help your relationships to be more successful. Without openness and honesty, those relationships will are likely to struggle. After all, how can someone truly know you if you're not open with them?

Openness is generally a quality that is developed over time, especially as relationships strengthen. When two people are just getting to know one another, it's normal for them to be reserved or not as transparent with every single detail, especially on sensitive matters. However, as time passes and as bonds deepen, so should communication.

Final remarks on successful relationships

Wanting to achieve success in relationships is perfectly normal and quite admirable. However, as you take note of the necessary qualities to have successful relationships, it's also important to be mindful that relationships take time to develop and strengthen. Many of the best friendships and other connections are strong partially due to time. If your relationships are not where you want them to be right now, don't lose hope or get discouraged.

Ensuring that you have the six qualities above will certainly contribute to the success of your relationships; however, you should also ensure that the people in your life have these qualities. A relationship of any nature cannot thrive if only one party is being honest, respectful, and caring of the other party. For as much as relationships matter in life, so do the people whom you maintain relationships with.

If you are part of any relationship which you believe to be unhealthy, cutting ties and removing yourself from the situation may be the best call. Depending on the situation and how long you've been a part of someone's life, this can be easier said than done. Nevertheless, you deserve someone who values the short list of qualities for successful relationships just as much as you do.

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A therapist can offer guidance

Knowledge of what it takes to succeed in a relationship is undeniably important to your relationships and the experiences you have as you move through the world. That being said, possession of the qualities mentioned above does not guarantee foolproof relationships. Life has a way of surprising us, and sometimes even the best relationships are tested. If you're going through a tough period in your relationships, seeking additional feedback and professional help may prove to be of value to you.

Working with a therapist is an immensely productive strategy that has a well-documented track record of long-term success. This applies to relationship troubles and additional challenges that may present themselves in life. Therapy ultimately allows for you to receive personalized care and assistance without judgment, know that you're not alone, and learn about your situation from a different perspective.

If you're interested in taking the next step to overcoming life's challenges and obstacles, signing up for online therapy with Regain is strongly recommended. Online therapy allows you to receive the benefits of working with a therapist regardless of where you are or how demanding your schedule is. Our therapists are willing to accommodate you and work with you during the dates and times which work for you; this eliminates the hassle of having to travel to a designated location each week. You can meet alone with a Regain counselor or have sessions with you and your partner—if you want to work on your relationship together.

Takeaway

Online therapy is an amazing tool that is all about helping you become the best version of yourself. Regardless of your present situation, you don't have to face it on your own. Working with an online therapist can ultimately provide you with the necessary tools to achieve success in life and conquer obstacles that present themselves to you.

Finally, it's important to remember that online therapy is a journey. There's no rush, and there's no set time for when matters should be completely resolved. Each person works through things at their own pace, and there's nothing wrong with that. Here at Regain, we can promise you that our online therapists will have your best interests at heart and provide the utmost value, support, and guidance.

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