Robert McElwee


About Me

My name is Bob McElwee, and I have been a clinical therapist for more than 25 years. I am a retired clergyman, and I currently work as a teacher and chaplain at a boys boarding school in Southeast Kansas. My wife and I have raised seven children, and we currently have 15 grandchildren. I have earned master’s degrees in literature, theology, and clinical psychology. Additionally, I also have an associate degree as a motorcycle repair and maintenance technician. In addition to riding and repairing Harley Davidson motorcycles, I enjoy gardening, carpentry, scuba diving, long distance bicycle riding, model trains, exercise, travel, and reading.
As a clergyman I have considerable experience in marriage preparation, couples counseling, divorce adjustment, and grief and bereavement therapy. As a clinical therapist most of my work has been with individual mood disorders (e.g. anxiety and depression). I am a Licensed Clinical Marriage and Family Therapist (LCMFT). As such I have worked mostly with people in stressed relationships that have produced individual disfunctions and flawed coping strategies.
My theoretical basis for most of my therapeutic interventions is most accurately described as “Cognitive-Behavioral.” Even so I take “Script Theory” seriously and find it a useful tool in helping people to re-conceptualize and organize their personality structure and characteristics. In this regard I am currently investigating “Narrative Therapy” and its theoretic techniques.
At base I am an optimistic person who believes that people have the ability to recover from past negative experiences if given proper tools, techniques, and encouragement. I enjoy assisting people as they create a productive, responsible, principled, and creative life that they can be proud of, and enjoy.


  • Stress, Anxiety
  • Relationship issues
  • Family conflicts
  • Grief
  • Depression
Also experienced in:
Addictions , Trauma and abuse , Intimacy-related issues , Eating disorders , Self esteem , Bipolar disorder , Coping with life changes , ADHD , Attachment Issues , Avoidant Personality , Blended Family Issues , Dependent Personality , Read more...

Clinical approaches:
Attachment-Based Therapy, Client-Centered Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT), Mindfulness Therapy, Motivational Interviewing, Narrative Therapy, Psychodynamic Therapy

Years of Experience: 24

Services Offered

  • Messaging

  • Phone

  • Video


LCMFT #069 (Expires: 2022-09-30)


Written by N.A. on Jul 18, 2021 after counseling with Robert for 2 months on issues concerning relationship

The hard times I was facing and will face in my life I now can strongly say I can handle with a very adult approach. non of which I could do before Mr. McElwee helped me with my walk in life. I would Recommend Mr. McElwee to anyone I find struggling in life.

Written by E.R. on Jul 06, 2021 after counseling with Robert for 2 months on issues concerning relationship

Robert has been amazing. He genuinely cares and calls it as it is. I have been amazed at his ability to see through things and get to the source of the problem.

Written by K.A. on May 23, 2021 after counseling with Robert for 2 weeks on issues concerning relationship

Robert is amazing.

Written by D.A. on Apr 21, 2021 after counseling with Robert for 2 weeks on issues concerning relationship

Robert has a wealth of knowledge and experience with regards to couples. It took us a few tries to find him (4 meetings with 4 different counselors), but once we met him, his personality and approach immediately gave my partner and I the confidence and belief that we can overcome the obstacles we’ve been facing. Words really can’t describe his positive influence on our relationship and highly recommend him to any couple looking to bring their relationship to the next level.