After making a mid life career change into the mental health field, early in my new career I was in private practice doing individual and couples counseling. My focus at the time in counseling couples was helping couples communicate more effectively. I was primarily using principles I learned from Gottman Institute literature to help couples improve their communication skills. Couples where both members were motivated to improve their relationship made remarkable progress in a short period of time, while many couples did not make progress. I realized that many couples come into relationship counseling not to improve their relationship, but instead to show the world that they weren't the one that gave up on the relationship. I urge couples considering counseling to ask themselves if they really want to stay with their partner and if they are wiling to change to make a better relationship possible. I have also learned through many more years of work in mental health as well as my own marriage of 38 years how important it is to let go of the need to be right. The goal in a healthy relationship is not to necessarily agree on issues but to instead to understand each other. This is accomplished by effectively expressing themselves, even when that is uncomfortable, and then to listen.
- Stress, Anxiety
- Anger management
- Coping with life changes
LGBT , Relationship issues , Family conflicts , Trauma and abuse , Grief , Intimacy-related issues , Eating disorders , Parenting issues , Self esteem , Career difficulties , Bipolar disorder , ADHD , Aging and Geriatric Issues , BDSM, Kink, Alternative Sex Culture , Codependency , Commitment Issues , Communication Problems , Control Issues , Drug and Alcohol Addiction , Eating and Food-Related Issues , Family of Origin Issues , Family Problems , Fatherhood Issues , Forgiveness , Guilt and Shame , Impulsivity , Isolation/Loneliness , Life Purpose , Men's Issues , Midlife Crisis , Mood Disorders , Polyamory / Nonmonogamous Relationships , Process addiction (porn, exercise, gambling) , Self-Love , Sex Addiction , Sexuality , Social Anxiety and Phobia , Workplace Issues , Young Adult Issues Read more...
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Gottman Method, Mindfulness Therapy, Motivational Interviewing, Solution-Focused Therapy
LCSW #149 - 009159 (Expires: 2021-11-30)
Richard was great to work with. He was very responsive to our needs as a couple and seemed to have a relevant story, example and/or resource for every hurdle we faced. He was also great at letting us guide things and responding to our needs as they came up. We have already talked about working with Richard again even if we weren’t struggling just because we enjoyed it so much.
He’s very attentive, and works with both of us at a good pace! I’m really looking forward to my future sessions, and will most likely do this long term-