Phil D'Agostino

(M.Ed., LCMHC, Licenced, Clinical, Mental, Health, Counselor)

About Me

After nearly thirty years of working with couples of all kinds, I've come to believe that most issues between people can be overcome because it's more about what people argue over and how, and not about the people themselves or their love. I look at a couple as not two entities but three. One and two are the people, and the third is the relationship itself. Like a baby or a third person, the relationship requires nurturing and attention. Each person can help it thrive or allow it to whither. My job is to help people understand what's useful to making it thrive and what they can do if those elements are not present. Much of it is conflict resolution. Some of it is the way people communicate. In any event, my approach is to quickly inventory what is working, what could be better, and immediately find a way to get back on track.
It's tough and even weird for people to discuss their most intimate and personal stuff with a stranger. I really get that. That's why I stay on track to keep it as light as I can and as focused on quick results as possible. People don't go to couples counseling to settle into a new relationship with a professional like me. They go because they hurt, they want to find a way to love again, be happy again, and get back on track for the life they've planned. And it all begins with a conversation. Work with me. Let's focus on what can help today, tomorrow and the rest of your lives.


Specialties

  • Stress, Anxiety
  • Relationship issues
  • Self esteem
  • Depression
Also experienced in:
Family conflicts , Intimacy-related issues , Sleeping disorders , Parenting issues , Anger management , Career difficulties , Bipolar disorder

Clinical approaches:
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Existential Therapy, Mindfulness Therapy, Motivational Interviewing, Solution-Focused Therapy

Years of Experience: 29

Services Offered


  • Messaging

  • Phone

  • Video

Licensing

LPC #3183 (Expires: 2022-06-30)


Reviews

Written by M.I. on Oct 12, 2020 after counseling with Phil for 4 months on issues concerning relationship

Phil has been fantastic in helping me and my husband work through some relationship issues. He has a way of getting to the crux of the matter quickly and simplifying what sometimes can feel like complex and/or overwhelming issues. Our communication and understanding have greatly improved and we walk away from our sessions feeling a little more hopeful and confident.

Written by M.E. on Sep 01, 2020 after counseling with Phil for 2 weeks on issues concerning relationship


Phil is very knowledgeable, understanding and right to the point. It is very obvious and evident that he has had a lot of experience, theory and background in Counseling. He is helping me to see things more clearly. Thanks for what you do.
Please keep this annonymous/confidential.

Written by J.A. on Apr 10, 2020 after counseling with Phil for 2 weeks on issues concerning relationship

Phil is very helpful and very real. We enjoy our sessions and in 2 sessions our counselor has presented a strong positive point that has increased understanding in our marriage. WE HIGHLY RECOMMEND!!!!!

Written by L.U. on Mar 13, 2020 after counseling with Phil for 6 months on issues concerning relationship

Phil D’Agostino is not the first counselor I worked with, but he is the first who has really found a way to help me feel better and think more effectively. After having unhelpful experiences with other counselors, I appreciated that he didn’t stop at just listening, but rather he sought to help me recognize where my own thoughts and actions were harming my goals. Of particular help to me was his faith-based experience and knowledge, which enabled him to engage with my problems effectively and proactively. His down-to-earth stories and sense of humor really help with couple’s counseling, which can otherwise seem intimidating. I would recommend him to anyone who is ready to stop being chained to bad habits and move forward, whether as an individual or couple.

Written by P.A. on Sep 17, 2019 after counseling with Phil for 3 months on issues concerning relationship

Phil was a great help! We were at what seemed like a desperate time and he helped us get through it. We learned about better ways to communicate and understand each other. Our marriage has improved in just a few months. Phil is a great listener and counselor. We would recommend him to anyone that needs help!

Written by H.U. on Apr 05, 2019 after counseling with Phil for 2 months on issues concerning relationship

Phil is a great listener and he gives really good advice and homework to deal with issues. He’s got a great sense of humor as well which helps to take the pressure off and help you share comfortably. Talking to him makes you feel like you’re talking to a friend. Thanks Phil!

Written by D.I. on Jun 06, 2018 after counseling with Phil for 3 months on issues concerning relationship

Phil is a very level-headed, down-to-earth, counselor, who has the ability to eliminate the periphery and shine light on the root of the problem, in a very efficient manner. We very much appreciated his sense of humor, and, if the need arises, we will seek his help again.

Written by C.H. on Apr 11, 2018 after counseling with Phil for 1 month on issues concerning relationship

Phil is straight to the the point. He cares and also knows how to not waste time getting down to what the bottom line is for moving forward. He is candid and frank sincere and authentic. I appreciate his approach very much.

Written by D.A. on Oct 30, 2017 after counseling with Phil for 2 weeks on issues concerning relationship

Phil has been a great mediator for my husband and I. He's a good listener and very clear with his thoughts and words. So far I any very happy with his services and my money had been well spent. I highly recommend him.

Written by N.O. on Oct 26, 2017 after counseling with Phil for 2 weeks on issues concerning relationship

Phil is very down to earth, shows humor, and very understanding. He is easy to speak with, non-judgmental, listens, and offers his views.

Written by C.A. on Oct 23, 2017 after counseling with Phil for 3 weeks on issues concerning relationship

Phil is wonderful!

Written by X.A. on Oct 03, 2017 after counseling with Phil for 3 weeks on issues concerning relationship

Phil is very level headed and easy to talk to. He'll talk about his family, about his own challenges, and you can just tell he's a genuine and authentic person. He's patient and willing to just listen if needed. He always pauses afterwards and makes sure you are heard. His responses show me that he's really hearing what I'm saying and not just nodding his head. He's very good at coming up with practical solutions. He's also astute and he's good at reading you, even over the phone. I was very impressed in just the short time that I spent with him. He responds quickly to questions and I highly recommend him to anyone who needs a practical and straight forward counselor.