About me

After nearly thirty years of working with couples of all kinds, I've come to believe that most issues between people can be overcome because it's more about what people argue over and how, and not about the people themselves or their love. I look at a couple as not two entities but three. One and two are the people, and the third is the relationship itself. Like a baby or a third person, the relationship requires nurturing and attention. Each person can help it thrive or allow it to whither. My job is to help people understand what's useful to making it thrive and what they can do if those elements are not present. Much of it is conflict resolution. Some of it is the way people communicate. In any event, my approach is to quickly inventory what is working, what could be better, and immediately find a way to get back on track.
It's tough and even weird for people to discuss their most intimate and personal stuff with a stranger. I really get that. That's why I stay on track to keep it as light as I can and as focused on quick results as possible. People don't go to couples counseling to settle into a new relationship with a professional like me. They go because they hurt, they want to find a way to love again, be happy again, and get back on track for the life they've planned. And it all begins with a conversation. Work with me. Let's focus on what can help today, tomorrow and the rest of your lives.


Specialties

  • Stress, Anxiety
  • Relationships
  • Self esteem, Motivation
  • Depression
Also experienced in:
Family conflicts , Intimacy-related issues , Sleeping disorders , Parenting issues , Anger management , Career difficulties , Bipolar disorder , Communication problems , Life purpose , Mood disorders , Read more...

Clinical approaches:
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Existential Therapy, Mindfulness Therapy, Motivational Interviewing, Solution-Focused Therapy

Years of Experience: 29

Services offered


  • Messaging

  • Phone

  • Video

Licensing

NC LCMHC 3183


Reviews

These quotes represent just a few of the many positive reviews that we have received for Phil D'Agostino. We don't pay anyone to provide their review and they are all made voluntarily. Some people's experience receiving therapy with Regain might be different.

Written on Mar 30, 2023 after therapy with Phil for 2 weeks on issues concerning relationship

Phil is an expert in his field and provides excellent insight into the issues that I present. His methods are sincere, and practical, and he’s quick and full of knowledge.

Written on Mar 17, 2023 after therapy with Phil for 2 months on issues concerning relationship

My partner and I did couples therapy with Phil and we both feel that we were lucky to find him. He's professional, thoughtful, and can explain things very well. He is action-oriented which helped us take the steps we need to take for ourselves. We highly recommend Phil to anyone who is seeking therapy.

Written on Dec 19, 2022 after therapy with Phil for 2 months on issues concerning relationship

Phil is awesome and can communicate with both me and my partner so we both benefit from his awesome advice and stories

Written on Dec 05, 2022 after therapy with Phil for 2 weeks on issues concerning relationship

Phil is very easy to talk to and very personable. He listens well, asks good questions and gives good examples of relevante scenarios applicable to the conversation topic. My wife and I recommend using Phil for relationship therapy.

Written on May 12, 2022 after therapy with Phil for 2 weeks on issues concerning relationship

Very quick to responds and is honest.

Written on Mar 23, 2022 after therapy with Phil for 2 weeks on issues concerning relationship

Phil is poignant with his ability to listen and direct conversation in a kind, gentle, and honest manner.

Written on Jan 13, 2022 after therapy with Phil for 2 months on issues concerning relationship

Phil's straightforward yet thoughtful style was of tremendous help for my partner and I to rebuild the trust that we both wanted to regain. Throughout our work together, Phil shared clear and challenging remarks, asked the right questions, and helped us ground our relationship into reality. We are both extremely happy, and feel deeply connected. Thanks Phil!

Written on Jan 07, 2022 after therapy with Phil for 1 month on issues concerning relationship

We are still in consultation with Phil but from the few sessions that we have had so far, we can highly recommend Phil for his expertise, sharpness in his observations to drive our discussions in a very constructive way. We both feel grateful to have Phil as our therapist and we have learnt a lot already about ourselves and he helped us to put the right words on some feelings that we have. Thank you Phil and looking forward to our next session!

Written on Nov 23, 2021 after therapy with Phil for 3 years and 2 months on issues concerning relationship

Phil helped me so much through many issues I had in my marriage. He's funny, patient, and understands the issue quickly. He keeps the sessions light but at the same time, focuses on the important things. I highly recommend him.

Written on Nov 02, 2021 after therapy with Phil for 3 weeks on issues concerning relationship

I love that after the sessions we are given ‘You Tube’ links with information about the psychological factors in what I am going through. Also information to read. Stories to research. All if I want to of course!

Written on May 13, 2021 after therapy with Phil for 2 weeks on issues concerning relationship

Dr Phil is Good listener

Written on Nov 08, 2020 after therapy with Phil for 2 weeks on issues concerning relationship

Our sessions with Phil helped us to communicate better and understand each each other better. It definitely helped us

Written on Oct 12, 2020 after therapy with Phil for 4 months on issues concerning relationship

Phil has been fantastic in helping me and my husband work through some relationship issues. He has a way of getting to the crux of the matter quickly and simplifying what sometimes can feel like complex and/or overwhelming issues. Our communication and understanding have greatly improved and we walk away from our sessions feeling a little more hopeful and confident.

Written on Sep 01, 2020 after therapy with Phil for 2 weeks on issues concerning relationship


Phil is very knowledgeable, understanding and right to the point. It is very obvious and evident that he has had a lot of experience, theory and background in Counseling. He is helping me to see things more clearly. Thanks for what you do.
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Written on Apr 10, 2020 after therapy with Phil for 2 weeks on issues concerning relationship

Phil is very helpful and very real. We enjoy our sessions and in 2 sessions our counselor has presented a strong positive point that has increased understanding in our marriage. WE HIGHLY RECOMMEND!!!!!

Written on Mar 13, 2020 after therapy with Phil for 6 months on issues concerning relationship

Phil D’Agostino is not the first counselor I worked with, but he is the first who has really found a way to help me feel better and think more effectively. After having unhelpful experiences with other counselors, I appreciated that he didn’t stop at just listening, but rather he sought to help me recognize where my own thoughts and actions were harming my goals. Of particular help to me was his faith-based experience and knowledge, which enabled him to engage with my problems effectively and proactively. His down-to-earth stories and sense of humor really help with couple’s counseling, which can otherwise seem intimidating. I would recommend him to anyone who is ready to stop being chained to bad habits and move forward, whether as an individual or couple.

Written on Sep 17, 2019 after therapy with Phil for 3 months on issues concerning relationship

Phil was a great help! We were at what seemed like a desperate time and he helped us get through it. We learned about better ways to communicate and understand each other. Our marriage has improved in just a few months. Phil is a great listener and counselor. We would recommend him to anyone that needs help!

Written on Apr 05, 2019 after therapy with Phil for 2 months on issues concerning relationship

Phil is a great listener and he gives really good advice and homework to deal with issues. He’s got a great sense of humor as well which helps to take the pressure off and help you share comfortably. Talking to him makes you feel like you’re talking to a friend. Thanks Phil!

Written on Jun 06, 2018 after therapy with Phil for 3 months on issues concerning relationship

Phil is a very level-headed, down-to-earth, counselor, who has the ability to eliminate the periphery and shine light on the root of the problem, in a very efficient manner. We very much appreciated his sense of humor, and, if the need arises, we will seek his help again.

Written on Apr 11, 2018 after therapy with Phil for 1 month on issues concerning relationship

Phil is straight to the the point. He cares and also knows how to not waste time getting down to what the bottom line is for moving forward. He is candid and frank sincere and authentic. I appreciate his approach very much.

Written on Oct 30, 2017 after therapy with Phil for 2 weeks on issues concerning relationship

Phil has been a great mediator for my husband and I. He's a good listener and very clear with his thoughts and words. So far I any very happy with his services and my money had been well spent. I highly recommend him.

Written on Oct 26, 2017 after therapy with Phil for 2 weeks on issues concerning relationship

Phil is very down to earth, shows humor, and very understanding. He is easy to speak with, non-judgmental, listens, and offers his views.

Written on Oct 23, 2017 after therapy with Phil for 3 weeks on issues concerning relationship

Phil is wonderful!

Written on Oct 03, 2017 after therapy with Phil for 3 weeks on issues concerning relationship

Phil is very level headed and easy to talk to. He'll talk about his family, about his own challenges, and you can just tell he's a genuine and authentic person. He's patient and willing to just listen if needed. He always pauses afterwards and makes sure you are heard. His responses show me that he's really hearing what I'm saying and not just nodding his head. He's very good at coming up with practical solutions. He's also astute and he's good at reading you, even over the phone. I was very impressed in just the short time that I spent with him. He responds quickly to questions and I highly recommend him to anyone who needs a practical and straight forward counselor.

Work with me!