Nicole Thomte


About Me

Welcome! My name is Nicole Thomte, my pronouns are she/her or they/them, and I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, #3853 in Minnesota. My focus in my practice is to serve those individuals, couples, and families who live outside the confines of dominant society's expectations. I offer affirmative therapy for LGBTQIA+/kink/CNM/polyam/etc persons, using a largely solution-focused approach from an intersectional feminist lens. I know that these populations are underserved in current society, and my goal is for you to have the inclusive support you deserve to improve your life the way you want. I am also interested in sex-positive therapy and sex therapy, while still recognizing the validity of asexuality in its own spectrum.

As a systemic therapist, I recognize the importance of relationships to a person's well-being. Relational conflict can be damaging to one's fundamental sense of self, and I am here to help tease apart the dysfunctional patterns and interactions in a relationship, then help people craft new, healthier, more effective and functional ways to interact.

I am knowledgable and experienced with consensual non-monogamy, and recognize the vast diversity of ways people can build relationships outside of the monogamous couple structure. As an intersectional feminist, I am aware of the power imbalances that can plague relationships and am confident in working together to seek more equal power balances. I also recognize the value of equity over equality when appropriate, and am eager to help people explore what works best for them, helping them to feel more congruent and at peace with themselves.

My therapeutic style is non-directive, exploratory, accepting, and acknowledging the humor that often leavens the stress of life. You're the expert in your life, and I'm here to provide support and an outside perspective to help find patterns and connections that may not be visible to you in the midst of your troubles. What you bring to the session is what interests me, rather than relying on labeling and constraints of diagnoses.

Choosing to sit with people in a therapeutic connection as my third career path has been one of the longest and most complex decisions I have made in my life thus far. It has also been one of the most rewarding and transformative experiences I have ever encountered. I am a compassionate, driven, tireless advocate for those who are forced into the margins of society, and I look forward to the gift of what you wish to share with me.


  • Stress, Anxiety
  • LGBT
  • Relationship issues
  • Intimacy-related issues
  • Self esteem

I also have experience in Family conflicts, Trauma and abuse, Grief, Anger management, Career difficulties, Bipolar disorder, Depression, Coping with life changes, Compassion fatigue, ADHD

Years of Experience: 9

Services Offered

  • Messaging

  • Phone

  • Video


LMFT #3853 (Expires: 2020-12-31)


Written by R.I. on Nov 18, 2019 after counseling with Nicole for 4 months on issues concerning relationship

Nicole has been a great counselor.

Written by L.Y. on Oct 17, 2019 after counseling with Nicole for 2 weeks on issues concerning relationship

I love Nicole, very calming and I feel better after.

Written by M.A. on May 20, 2019 after counseling with Nicole for 1 month on issues concerning relationship

Great help to us, thanks Nicole!