I've spent my whole adult life as a family and couples therapist and have been privileged to do online couples therapy all over the world for the past 5 years. We know so much more about what works in couples therapy and what doesn't thanks to a ton of hard scientific research that has been done over the past 30 years. There are two main forces in evidence based modern couples therapy today,: 1) The "Gottman Model" which is focused on a detailed assessment and the development of bonding skills in those areas in need of the most repair; and 2) Emotional Focused Therapy, that uses attachment science to resolve those underlying, reactive emotions. Both are based on years of research on what works and both basically brought couples counseling out of the dark ages of ignorance. They are different approaches but I like to use both in conjunction to help couple manage conflicts better and get them on a path to a shared vision where there is the feeling of connection and friendship.
Most couples counseling works at least in the short run, provided you have a competent and engaged therapist and both people genuinely want to make it work...the problem is that in many instances the gains are lost once the counseling stops. So it is crucial that I give you the skills you need to go out on your own. You don't want or need to be in couples therapy the rest of your life and so couples counseling should be short term, usually lasting no more than 9 months and sometimes as brief as a few weeks. If your situation isn't getting objectively better pretty quickly then something is wrong somewhere! Time for either a new therapist or examine whether one of you isn't truly invested in the process. As a therapist I respect both partner's right to make choices in their own lives without judgment.
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Dr. Burklow has a unique way of establishing a rapport in a low key, familiar style - I very quickly felt like our counseling sessions were not only conversations with a trusted friend but also with someone who was able to guide me to options on how to handle extreme changes in my life. The world would be a better place with more Dr. Burklow's!
Besides his high level of professionalism.. he shows a human heart caring for others. He has been companion me through my pain and frustrations and with a huge compassion and care for both of us, he has been able to hold us together while we heal and get our energy back in place . He has been able to drill into our hardcore to plant hope for us.
Dr. Burklow saved our relationship! We were stuck in a massive gridlock during these interesting times of COVID-19. Dr. Burklow gave us the tools needed to manage the final four months of 2.5 years of long distance. We now live together and couldn't be happier! Conflict still exists of course, but we now know how to manage it!
Dr. Burklow is straightforward, non-judgmental, and good at sharing new information and tools in a considered manner. He has certainly helped open me to a new world of dialogue.
Dr. Burklow literally saved our relationship. I was honestly ready to call it quits. I shared this with my partner who stated that our relationship was worth fighting for. We joined Regain approximately two months before our wedding: that was six months ago. Needless to say we are now husband and wife. Since then, we learned tolerance and acceptance, not only of each other, but of ourselves. We began feeling and behaving like teammates as opposed to opponents. Though we looked forward to our weekly Tuesday night video sessions we knew couples therapy was not meant to be long term. In the short amount of time, Dr. Burklow provided us with the necessary tools to deal with conflict and ensuring a successful and healthy union. Thank you again Dr. Burklow!
Dr. Burklow was great! He really helped my wife and I reconnect and get back on good footing again. Can't thank him enough.
My partner and I have been working with Dr.Burklow for the last three months. I can say without hesitation that he has become a highlight of our week. It forces us to think about our relationship and each other on a weekly basis and in the short time we have been with regain my perspective on our seven relationship has certainly shifted. Dr. Burklow is professional, approachable and responsive to our ever changing needs. He has restored some hope in a very vulnerable relationship and I very much look forward to seeing our progress with him at the helm.
After working with Bradley for a year (in weekly video sessions), my husband and I understand each other better, communicate better, and work together as a team better than we have ever before. In our case, Bradley helped us not "regain" something we had lost, but "gain" something we never had before. This is something that we weren't able to achieve with the help of several different other counselors. His ability to stay neutral but also regulate arguments as they spiraled out of control, to make us both feel comfortable and feel heard, and incorporate theoretical constructs in a way we could both understand all contributed to our success. He is warm and friendly, and he also opened up about his life and brought his own experiences in marriage and parenting to the table, which made it easier to connect with him as a person. The fact that he would also always spend those few extra minutes trying to close out each session on a positive note made us feel like he truly cared and was truly invested in us. Thank you Bradley for showing us that counseling does work, and for helping us get to this new stage of our relationship where we can invest in date night instead of counseling night! We will be forever grateful!
I came to ReGain under duress and stress. Completely staring at a void of a marriage with no where else to go. As a last resort, I was matched up with Brad. This man is more than a counselor. He brings real life, relatable ideas into your situation. He brings knowledge, references from other Top In Their Field experts. He brings a real love for people and a love for God into each session and generally cares for his clients.
I do not believe in coincidences. I believe Brad was brought into my life at the right time. He has helped me build tools in myself for both my marriage and my personal life. Thank you, Brad. You are what Tx should be.
Bradley has been great to work with. He makes the sessions feel as comfortable for my partner and I as we hoped with this being our first experience with therapy.
Bradley saved our relationship!
Bradley really worked for us and it cannot have been easy as I'm English and my wife is Austrian (which causes a communication problem to deal with to start with). I had left my family when I contacted Regain with the hope of salvaging a completely broken down relationship. Bradley was allocated to us. Bradley made one step at a time, said the right things at the right time and just seemed to get in tune with us to understand what was required in order to help resolve our relationship. He worked with us about once a week at the start then going more to once every ten days in the latter part of the counseling for about six months. We have managed to resolve our differences and are looking forward to a prosperous future in a healthy relationship. Bradley has given us the tools required to make sure we can quickly identify and know how to resolve any problems arising in the future. We couldn't recommend him more.
Thank you so much, Bradly and Regain!
He gives great advice on everything and he his suggestions have been working. Such a wonderful guy!
It was a pleasure working with Bradley. He is positive and encouraging. He helped us to realize key differences between me and my partner to under each other's behavior and attachment styles. Also my confusion has been mostly cleared by his insights. I would recommend him to others. It takes time to fully resolve your issues be patient.
Bradley is an excellent counselor. My husband and I were having a rough patch and he has been doing a wonderful job giving us the tools we need to mend our relationship. He is professional and insightful. I would recommend Bradley to anyone that is in need of a counselor.
Highly recommended. Professional and insightful. Thank you.
Bradley is an excellent therapist. He listens intently and is able to get to the heart of our relationship issues and helps us implement some really useful techniques to resolve those issues. Brad has a great sense of humour and our sessions with him are often fun and refreshing. He has been very kind and empathetic towards us which makes him a very trustworthy confidante. Bradley’s skills and experience are evident throughout our sessions and we absolutely have benefited from his service. We highly recommend.
My partner and I were going through the roughest patch in our relationship. We were very sceptical at first but decided to invest in a couple months worth of therapy with Regain and Bradley. I can honestly say it has changed absolutley everything. I had read many articles online in an attempt to deal with anger in my relationship but Bradley was able to give me the tools to help me and my boyfriend resolve conflict healthily! He was an expert at everything and it felt like he anticipated my replies sometimes as he was so insightful! There is no such thing as a perfect relationship but Bradley has taught me too accept that and create the best version of my relationship I can! Thank you so much Sir!
I been working with Bradley for just a couple weeks, and he is awesome. Make you really comfortable and easy to express how you feel. He will give you the good, bad, and ugly and very fair.. highly recommended