Where And How Can I Meet Single Men Over 40?

By Toni Hoy|Updated June 23, 2022

Single men over the age of 40 are all around you. You may not recognize them unless you know what you’re looking for and where to find them. The chances are that you’re crossing paths with single men over 40 at various points every day. They may be running errands, hanging out with friends, spending time on their hobbies and volunteer interests, just like you. It’s even possible that someone has already noticed you and isn’t sure how you’d respond if they had the nerve to strike up a conversation with you—single men over 40 everywhere. You may have to keep your eyes and ears open for an opportunity to introduce yourself.

Here are some ways that you may not have thought of to meet single men over 40.

Volunteer At Charity Events

If you have a favorite charity, find out if they have a 5K walk or run. Most of them are quite well-attended, so you’re bound to meet many new people, even if you don’t meet a single guy or potential mate. The great thing about that is that new friends will have different networks of people than you, and many of them may be single men over 40. If you meet someone, you’ll already have something in common: a passion for charity. The charity is bound to have other events coming up, making it easy to get to know someone gradually. If nothing else, doing a charity walk is a great way to enjoy some outdoor exercise and socialize a bit.

Try Online Dating

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If you think that online dating is just for millennials, you couldn’t be more wrong. According to a Pew Research study, the percentage of 55-64yearolds who used online dating between 2013 and 2015 doubled! Pew Research also states that 41% of American adults say they know someone who uses online dating, and 29% said they knew someone who got married or entered into a long-term relationship with someone they met through an online dating app. The great thing about online dating is you can set your preferences by age range, so the app will only show you potential matches in your desired age range — in this case, over 40. However, it’s important to be aware that some dating sites may have people that use fake profiles. Use the same precautions as you would for a blind date. Meet in public in a well-lighted area and be sure to have a backup plan.

Join A Meetup Group

If it’s easy to meet people online, but it may be even easier to meet them in a group. On meetup.com, you can see what kinds of groups are getting together in your area already. Groups for booklovers, wine lovers, travel lovers, runners, music lovers, and groups participating in other activities. These types of meetup groups are great because they allow you to meet like-minded individuals. If you happen to meet someone you’re interested in within one of these groups, you’ll already share something in common. These groups are usually quite welcoming to newcomers. If you don’t see a group that you like, you can always start your group.

Get Your Golf Game On

Play a round of golf. The average age is 54, making the golf course a great place to meet single men over 40. If you don’t know how to play, sign up for lessons at the local golf course. Once you’ve got the basics down, find three other people to make a foursome. If you’re a little more adventuresome, show up on your own and request to complete someone else’s foursome. It will give you the chance to meet three new people, and all or most of them may be men. The chances are that one of them may also be single and over 40. Besides, the golf course has a longstanding reputation as a hangout for educated men who are financially stable and physically fit.

Set Sail On A Singles Cruise

Set sail on a singles cruise if you want to go on vacation but don’t want to go alone. There are single cruises for all ages. You’re likely to meet business professionals who want to take a break from their hectic lives and enjoy some new experiences. You’ll get to enjoy group activities like dance lessons, board games, volleyball games, and more on sailing days, as well as lots of parties and cocktail mixers in the evening. Most of the groups may have from 50-150 people in them. That will give you plenty of time to find someone to share a shore excursion experience with. If age is a concern, look for a cruise deal that caters to Baby Boomers or a specific age group.

Cast A Wider Net

Whether you’re fishing online, on land, or a cruise ship, cast a wider net than you normally might. If you have a “type,” try to keep an open mind and take a deeper dive into a man’s personality or in certain qualities you wouldn’t normally choose. Look for a little taller, shorter, heavier, thinner, older, or younger than what is normally your type. Do you normally go for the athletic type? Try a businessperson or an artsy guy for a change. Are you smitten for brown eyes and dark hair? Be open to someone who doesn’t necessarily have those features. Often, it’s when someone opens their mouth to speak that you suddenly find them attractive. If you keep an open mind, you may be surprised to find someone incredibly interesting that isn’t normally your type.

Take A Class, Workshop Or Seminar

Nearly every industry and nonprofit group offer a workshop or seminar. Successful, single men may be attending a seminar to improve their craft or improve themselves as people. Maybe you’ll encounter someone who wants to learn more about investing for retirement or who is interested in spiritual growth or entrepreneurship. These events may be filled with single men looking for ways to enrich their lives. You may even want to try a yoga class or a music class. If you don’t meet single men over 40, you may at least find a new interest or learn something new.            

Go Out On An Off-Night

The bars and restaurants may be flooded with handsome people on the weekends but remember there are five other nights in the week. Weeknights tend to be more relaxed and conducive to talking and getting to know one another. Look for a place with great local entertainment, karaoke, or trivia nights. You have a better chance of meeting someone and having a conversation when it isn’t as crowded. You can always invite them back for a Friday night cocktail hour to keep the initial attraction (and the conversation) going if you meet someone.

A Playful Dog Attracts Handsome Single Men

As they say, a dog is a man’s best friend. Many single guys have the company of a furry friend. If you have a dog, grab the leash, take your dog out for a long walk, or take your dog to a nearby park. A local dog park is a great place to hang out with other dog lovers. It gives you a chance to chat while the dogs are getting their exercise. If you can’t have a pet where you live, or your lifestyle doesn’t accommodate having one, spend some volunteering at an animal shelter. They’re always looking for volunteer help. You might help a single man over 40 find just the right furry companion. As they get acquainted, you might find a companion for yourself at the same time.

Experience An Active Sport Or Adventure

You don’t have to be an athlete or a sports fan to enjoy an active life. Choose whatever activity you like to do and make it a regular part of your routine. Sports and adventures are a great way to meet people who share the same interest. Find a place where you can do some yoga on the beach. Suit up for a day of kayaking, paddleboarding, or white-water river rafting. If it interests you, you could try hitting the slopes for a day of skiing or snowboarding in the winter. You could even try cross country skiing or snowshoeing, which is great for building endurance and keeping your muscles in shape during the colder months. If there’s a lodge nearby, it’s the perfect place for a hot toddy or a specialty dessert drink to warm up. Don’t be afraid to ask that single man over 40 what he’s having and order the same.

Some Final Tips On How And Where To Find Single Men Over 40

There’s no limit to the places where you can find single, available men over 40 who may be looking for someone just like you. It may be helpful to keep your options open and try many things. Try out some online applications or online groups as well as some in-person face-to-face action. Put yourself out there and be open in your speech and your body language.

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