What Can You Do About Love And Sex To Improve Your Life

Updated January 25, 2023by ReGain Editorial Team

What is your life like with your partner? Do you spend a lot of time together doing things that you can both enjoy? These are questions that you probably think about fairly often, but how often do you think about sex and love in your relationship?

Depending on the relationship, sex can be an important aspect of your relationship with a partner, and that means it's something that you need to think about and make some important decisions about. It's also something you need to talk about with your partner.

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If you and your partner don't talk about sex, it can make things more difficult in your relationship. That doesn't mean you and your partner need to have sex all the time. It just means that you need to be open and willing to communicate about your sex life and what each of you expect and need regarding it.

If you don't know what the other wants, it's difficult to be physically or mentally there. If you do, but you don't pay attention to it or accept their needs, the same issue can occur.

The important thing is to discuss with your partner what each of you wants and needs to feel loved and cared for in your relationship. If you don't feel loved and cared for, it can lead to a potential breakdown of the relationship, which can lead to many problems that don't go away on their own.

In fact, it can put you on a path toward separation if you're not careful. The good thing is that you and your partner can change things around, largely through improved communication.

Improving Your Discussions

Talk with your partner about your relationship when you both have the time and mental space to do so, and what you would want to change if you could. If one of you wants to have sex more frequently or less frequently than the other, it's something you need to talk about. If one partner is experiencing sexual boredom and wants to try out some new fun sex ideas, it's also better to discuss it to improve your sexual relationship.

There doesn't need to be a firm agreement on when or how frequently you'll have sex. There doesn't need to be a set of rules about it. But there does need to be a general understanding of just what it means to both of you and how important it is to both of you. From there, the details are likely going to vary from one instance to another.

It can be difficult to talk about sex, even for partners in a loving and committed relationship. No matter how old you are or how long you've been in this relationship, or any other, our society tends to discourage talking about sex.

Unfortunately, the only way to make sure that you and your partner are having a healthy sex life is to talk about it, no matter how uncomfortable that type of discussion may be for you. However, keep in mind that depending on how each of you was raised and your attitudes toward sex, it could be more or less difficult for one partner than the other.

Keep that in mind in your discussions and encourage open dialogue that doesn't make your partner feel uncomfortable. It may take a few tries before you can be completely open about what you're experiencing and what you want or need. The important thing is that you at least try to be open about the situation and that you at least try to work through those feelings and grow as a couple.

Your Future Relationship

Talking with your partner is only going to be the first step. Acting on the things you talk about will be the next one, and it may be just as difficult as talking about it. Changing the way that you sexually relate to one another can be difficult. You're likely going to be changing your habits, and that's difficult for anyone, no matter what it's related to. Just be patient with one another and recognize that change is complicated, and it's a process. It's not going to happen overnight.

If you're struggling with your relationship and having difficulty working through the changes you or your partner need to make to feel better, consider seeking professional help. It is completely normal for a relationship to require some guidance to get you going in the right direction. In fact, couples of varying ages and amount of time spent in a relationship have benefited from the knowledge of a mental health professional. These professionals will guide you in improving your life with your partner. This will cultivate your happiness in marriage and might make you say "I love my life."

Health Benefits Of Sex And Love

It feels great to love and be loved. Having sexual intercourse with a mutually satisfying partner is physically, mentally, and emotionally pleasurable. Besides feeling great and enhancing your mood, enjoying a loving, sexual relationship keeps you healthy in many ways. You have to consider that good and creative sex is a layer of healthy behavior on top of other good healthy life habits.

Studies on immunity show that people who enjoy active sex lives tend to have stronger immune systems than those who don't. Also, sexually active people take less time off work. Eating a healthy, balanced diet, staying active, and getting plenty of rest will also help keep viruses and other diseases at bay.

If you're struggling with high blood pressure, having good sex with a partner can help lower your systolic blood pressure. Systolic blood pressure is the first number that a medical professional reads when taking your blood pressure. Having sex isn't a substitute for eating well, exercising, or taking medication for those who need it. Why not do all that you can to bring your blood pressure down and enjoy yourself more in the process?

If you've set a goal to exercise more, don't forget to add time for sexual activity. You will burn about five calories a minute with a morning lovemaking session. That should be some incentive to linger a little longer under the sheets.

Having sex won't replace your routine of pumping iron or doing your circuit training, but it will give you the added benefit of helping to pump up your heart rate. Consistency in having sex can strengthen various body muscles and help keep them in shape. Plus, it increases one's oxytocin, a love hormone that tremendously helps reduce the incidence of anxiety and other mental health disorders. But what if sex is almost impossible because of anxiety? If you have anxiety and sex concerns, you might want to talk to a therapist about it.

Having a good sex life is also found to be good for your cardiovascular health and heart. Sexual activity raises your heart rate, and the increased flow of blood helps balance estrogen and testosterone. Low hormonal levels can cause issues such as osteoporosis and heart disease.

There is some thought that having orgasms can block pain in other areas of the body, such as headaches. Sexual activity is known to release a hormone that helps raise your pain threshold. Genital stimulation has also been found to block chronic pain in the back and legs. Women who masturbate may be able to reduce the pain of menstrual cramps, arthritis, and in some cases, reduce headache pain.

When you have an orgasm during sexual intercourse, both men and women release the hormone prolactin, which generates feelings of relaxation and sleepiness. Enjoying your partner in the bedroom tires you out. Between the physical activity and the hormonal release, sexual activity will naturally lull you to sleep.

Snuggling and cuddling bring you and your partner closer, and that helps to soothe stress and anxiety. Hugging and sensitive touching releases hormones and brain chemicals that heighten your brain's pleasure and reward system. Spending time with a loving partner will also boost your self-esteem and make you happier.

For men, frequent ejaculation may help to prevent prostate cancer. Your body isn't particular about whether ejaculation results from nocturnal emission, masturbation, or sexual intercourse. Having sex shouldn’t be considered a cure or comprehensive prevention for prostate cancer, but it doesn't hurt, and it may help.

Women especially gain benefits from having regular sexual intercourse. Having sex increases vaginal lubrication, blood flow, and elasticity at every adult age. Pleasurable, pain-free sex motivates most women to want it more. Increasing the number of sexual encounters can prompt an increase in a woman's sex drive.

Would you believe that regular sex improves bladder control for women? As women age, many have trouble with urinary incontinence. Rigorous sex gives their pelvic muscles a good workout. When a woman has an orgasm, it causes pelvic muscles to contract, which strengthens the muscles and helps with bladder leakage.

The Professional Help You Need

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ReGain is one way that you can get the professional help that you're looking for. The key is getting online and checking it out for yourself. This website is unique because it's a way to connect with a professional therapist. You log on, and you can immediately find out more about psychiatrists and therapists located throughout the country.

From there, all you need to do is find someone that you feel comfortable with, and before you know it, you'll be working through anything that you and your partner are going through, whether it's sex and love or anything else.

You'll even be able to find information about different mental health disorders and conditions as well as being able to connect from anywhere you want. That means you don't have to worry about going to a physical office anymore. You can connect from the hotel room while you're on vacation, from your office during lunch hour, or even from your living room while you're relaxing at the end of the day.

Anywhere you have an internet connection, you'll be able to talk with a professional and start working through anything you and your partner are facing. That makes the whole process easier for you.

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