How To Identify The Key To Happiness In Your Partnership

Updated March 23, 2024by Regain Editorial Team

In the best of worlds, all partnerships would be comprised of mutual love, respect, and happiness. Of course, we live in an imperfect world and while some partnerships do contain the aforementioned attributes, others do not. There are various reasons why happiness in your partnership may be absent; however, the good news is that this is something which you (and your partner) can change, with the interest and willingness to do so.

A quick word on happy partnerships

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Most people want to experience happy partnerships and this is understandable. Sometimes certain partnerships start off well and worsen with time. There are all kinds of reasons and factors which can contribute to this. In other scenarios, a partnership between two individuals may simply be monotonous; again, there are a variety of factors which can contribute to this situation.

The reality is that there is no one, universal answer to identifying the key to happiness in your partnership. However, there are details which you can assess in order to determine the key to a happy partnership for you. Discovering and identifying this key is going to require mutual effort, as previously stated, but in the long run, you and your partner can grow from this and deepen your bond.

Six ways to identify the key to happiness in your partnership

Identifying the key to happiness in your partnership is all about you and your significant other determining what you both want in the relationship. On the surface, this sounds basic and simple, but when you really break it down, this requires thought and consideration. Thankfully, there are a series of steps which you both can adhere to. In both the short-term and the long-term, you will be able to find the answers which you seek.

Determine your values

In a partnership, the values which both individuals hold dear will significantly impact the key to happiness. If your values are in alignment with one another, then you both will have a much easier time in figuring out what the key to happiness is. The values of one couple may drastically differ from what another couple views as important in this world; therefore, both partnerships would have very different keys to happiness in their partnerships.

If you and your partner have very different values, then this will significantly complicate the process of you identifying the key to happiness in your partnership. What makes you happy may very well alienate your partner and vice versa; if you find yourself in this situation, it may be a good idea to determine whether or not remaining in the relationship is the best call. Identifying the key to happiness in a partnership where both individuals hold contrasting values is extremely difficult, if not completely impossible.

Spend quality time with one another

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When you're in a partnership with someone, spending quality time with them can be very insightful as you work to identify the key to happiness. Spending quality time with your significant other allows you both to get to know one another. You learn a lot about someone's habits, thought processes, and interests when you spend quality time with them. Of course, your partner will also learn about your habits, thoughts, and interests. Identifying the key to happiness in your relationship often comes naturally as you both get into a groove and discover what you both have in common.

Speak up when problems arise

The problems which arise in a partnership can be very telling when working to identify the key to happiness. Many people fail to realize this, but learning what not to do in a partnership can provide insight on what both parties should do. For instance, if issues arise in a partnership because one person brings up tough conversations at the wrong times, the key to happiness would be choosing a better time to have certain discussions.

Not all partners speak up when they're having an issue with their significant other. This is especially problematic and often leads to feelings of resentment and bitterness. Speaking up when problems arise ultimately helps both partners determine what they can do better; in turn, this leads to both partners finding the key to happiness, even if they don't consciously realize it.

Determine what type of partnership you want

Similarly to values, the type of partnerships which people want in life can vary. Sometimes, this is not always addressed when a partnership first starts, but if both people aren't on the same page, it often leads to issues later on down the line.

Determining the type of partnership you want means examining the dynamics of the partnership. Relevant dynamics to take into account include personalities, interests, and the individual traits of both parties. From here, both you and your partner should be on the same page about one another's role in the partnership. If both parties are able to reach solid agreements regarding the desired type of partnership, this helps with identifying the key to happiness. Clashes or significant differences regarding the type of desired partnership often lead to problems between people who are involved with one another.

Be honest with one another

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Relationships that are built upon lies and deceit almost always end poorly. In order for partners to find the key to happiness, honesty is absolutely paramount. It's easy to be honest when everything is going well, but honesty is just as important during times that are not the greatest. Lies in a partnership foster division and unhappiness because both parties are not on the same page. When you and your partner are forthcoming and honest at all times, you allow yourselves to innately identify the key to happiness without going out of your way to search for it.

Don't expect overnight results

Identifying the key to happiness in your partnership takes time, and that's OK. Successful partnerships require consistency, commitment, and mutual interest in sticking together, even during tough times. Expecting overnight results will only lead to disappointment; taking things in stride and being united in the search to identify the key to happiness in your partnership will work wonders.

Being happy in life

Identifying the key to happiness in your partnership undoubtedly requires direct and concentrated work on the partnership itself. However, a less commonly discussed factor is the importance of being happy in other areas of life. When you are a happy person in general, this has a tendency to transfer into various subsections of your life; including your partnership.

Knowing who you are, finding balance in the world, and being mindful of your health on all levels are each steps that contribute to your overall happiness in life. You'll find that it's very difficult to find the key to happiness in your partnership if you are absolutely miserable in other areas. Furthermore, it's equally important for your partner to also be happy in other areas of their life. Two happy people who join forces are much more likely to find the key to happiness in their partnership than two people who are miserable. For better or for worse, the quality of your life in general will impact the quality of your partnership, at least to some extent.

You don't have to do it on your own

Following the six steps listed above will certainly prove to be valuable as you work on identifying the key to happiness in your partnership. With that being said, there are a series of factors that can contribute to issues both in partnerships and other areas of life. Although these issues can lead to feelings of loneliness, it's important for you to know that you don't have to do all of this on your own.

No matter who you are, what your partnership is like, or what issues you face on an individual level, there is absolutely nothing wrong with seeking help.

If you are interested in having guidance, support, and a reliable confidante to fall back on, signing up for online therapy with Regain is in your best interest. Here at Regain, our biggest objective is to ensure that you have the knowledge and tools to rise above any obstacles which may present themselves to you in life.

We also make it our mission to see to it that online therapy happens at the times that are best for you. No matter who you are, what your schedule looks like, etc., you still deserve to get the proper mental health care. Online therapy furthermore ensures that your schedule and location do not serve as barriers to seeking help.

Working with an online therapist is nothing to be ashamed of. Seeking help and guidance is a very brave step; it also shows that you are self-aware. As human beings, we were not meant to be isolated and alone in the world. Challenges are a part of life's journey, but online therapy allows you to be as equipped as possible to deal with these challenges and rise above them.

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